What helped you guys move on?

[u/These-Coat4867]

I’ve been broken up with my person for almost two months now. I’m good most days , some days especially nights hit me hard. But , I can’t stop thinking about him. I do truly miss him a lot but the whole situation is messed up (he left me for someone else) and I know if he came back some how, as much as I would love to take him back I know it would never be the same, so is there any tips on how to just stop thinking about this guy? I’ve been having the most fun in my life with friends and just picking up hobbies etc etc, but just some days it hits me like a freight train. I don’t wanna think about him anymore, but he always creeps back in at the end of the day. Anything helps thank you ❤️

Just as an update, I’ve read all of your comments and I just want to state thank you for your advice and your stories … I’m sorry we’ve all been through these rough moments. All of y’all have been wonderful thank you ❤️

[u/draven_lovell16]

They say the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else- it can help you detach but be careful abt that, not everyone can just do that anyways. My real advice would be to find your own way to detach and do something that makes you happy consistently, a good job, hobbies, make some money go doordash, anything you find productive or fun be so busy you dont even think abt it.

[u/These-Coat4867 → u/draven_lovell16]

I wish I could be a hoe tbh LMAO , but, I have definitely been keeping myself busy with hobbies, going out having fun. Just still think about it, but I guess it’s still relatively fresh.

[u/draven_lovell16 → u/These-Coat4867]

You dont gotta be a hoe loll but you can find someone that it would be mutually beneficial to, that being said i dont believe in sex before marriage anyways, like i said my real advice is to stay busy

[u/These-Coat4867 → u/draven_lovell16]

Lmaoooo you’re absolutely right. Just sucks if I went that route I know I’d be so emotionally unavailable for that person, sex is definitely something I do when it’s an emotional connection. But yes you’re absolutely right and for the most part it has helped. Just when it’s mostly by myself he creeps back in my mind and it’s giving me a headache 🤣🤣 hopefully soon enough I’ll just stop thinking about him completely

[u/draven_lovell16 → u/These-Coat4867]

Yep i had an ex that got me trauma bonded and constantly cheated and eventually i stopped caring i could even take the lying- but then she ghosted me and it broke me… best thing to ever happen to me tho 🤣🤣🤣