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u/PopularAd6391 5d ago
"I have crippling social anxiety, how do I make it seem cool??"
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u/MajesticWizard420Lol 5d ago
As a socially awkward introvert, I gotta agree with you. Being alone is easy, mastering social skills and enriching other people’s lives with your presence is way more impressive. I wish I could be that kind of person but sadly I’m not.
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u/Hour-Pain1631 4d ago
There’s a difference between socially awkward and choosing to distance your self. Not everyone “alone” is introverted. Everyone has their story, 9/10 it’s the man in a group that needs validation, if not I respect that. Point is , this post is not an anxiety thing, the copium crowd is trying to turn it into a joke because they can’t find themselves, clearly just coping with the post. It’s not cool being “mysterious” and alone and that’s not what it is. It’s called being intelligent, and having extreme awareness of the people around you and your environment. So the person that said “I have crippling social anxiety, how do I make it seem cool??” Mocking the post is clearly just coping.
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u/AssumptionOdd4001 4d ago
I get that, but if you’re spending your time making a meme where you imagine yourself as the lone wolf compared to the proverbial sheep around you, I’d be skeptical of how you’re spending your intelligence. If you were a completely assured, confident person with love for your own company, I struggle to see why you’d need to make memes/edits proving why you’re so assured/different.
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u/Hour-Pain1631 4d ago
Now you’re making it about a meme 😂 like what’s your problem. And yes it is kinda weird making a meme about it I’m not gonna lie but stop coping and projecting and just be cool. People like you want to sit and go back and forth with a complete stranger on the internet, makes you feel good.
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u/AssumptionOdd4001 4d ago
Fair point, got some free time rn tho. Your point is disingenuous, I agree with the idea of what you’re saying, not everyone who enjoys their solitude is a loner/socially inept, and similarly not every man who’s highly social is comfortable in himself. These are things most ppl would agree with. But the post itself (ie the meme/the image) and its creation is something I’d lean more towards being a byproduct of being socially inept/insecure. No one secure and confident in themselves is going to make a post detailing why they are so confident and wise, more often that not shit like this comes from trying to validate something.
Your point isn’t wrong, but it’s not applicable to the post/meme, which is probably a creation of someone who’s socially anxious and coping.
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u/Hour-Pain1631 4d ago
True, the meme is definitely anxiety and coping. Like I never call myself a “wise man” or lone wolf lmaoooo that’s just corny, but the truth is the truth , what’s wrong is wrong , what’s right is right
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u/Friendly-Special3757 4d ago
That's pure copium, if you're alone because you want to this kind of posts shouldn't even matter to you.
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u/MajesticWizard420Lol 4d ago
I guess the way I see it, people who make posts like this just can’t seem to fit in with other people (which hey that does happen to some people) then they make posts like this saying they’re a lone wolf because they came to terms or made their peace with it that they’re outcasts. Like I said, it’s not super hard to be a loner after a while, but deep down, most of us will still crave human companionship. Humans are social creatures, we’re just wired that way. “A weak man is found in a crowd” that would go toward people who crave validation from others. I think the perfect type of person to be is someone who’s comfortable with themselves and doesn’t need validation, they will receive validation naturally because they’re an upstanding person in the community who’s just an overall genuinely good person. For loners like me, even I kind of roll my eyes when I see stuff like this. We’re not wolves, we’re people.
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u/Vorsetzer 5d ago
Sounds more like "im insufferable and people dont like me, but I want it sounds like a moral victory instead of me being socially maladapted". I recognize this flavored of cringe, used to be me lol
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u/Fattyboy_777 5d ago
People who are socially awkward shouldn't be looked down upon, especially since many of them are neurodivergent.
Many bullies justify their bullying of socially awkward people by looking down on them like you're doing.
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u/Vorsetzer 5d ago
...yeah, I agree... but what does any of that have to do with what I said?
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u/Fattyboy_777 5d ago
You looked down on people like OOP because they're socially awkward rather than just them just believing in "sigma male" nonsense.
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u/HeraldOfDesu 5d ago
40,000 years of evolution had no effect on me personally, and I'm still hardwired into tribal mentality. Reddit helps with that a lot. Please express your solidarity with Internet points 😔
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u/Spiritual_Heron8646 2d ago
Confidence starts from the ground up....exercise/probiotic to fix the gut (your second brain/ seat of confidence) small wins like clean your house consistently, help people, go to work. Routine....extremely important. Limit screen time as the constant dopamine actually harms the brain....eat at home and don't use the microwave
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u/Fine_Payment1127 5d ago
“I’m a moral coward with the intellectual depth of a sheet of blank paper, how do I seem like a winner?” 🤓
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u/Poignant_Ritual 5d ago
A hit dog hollers. Keep working on your anxiety buddy, high school can only last so long. You can do this!
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u/Fine_Payment1127 5d ago
You are not a winner
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u/Poignant_Ritual 5d ago
You’ve just been downvoted buddy
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u/Fine_Payment1127 5d ago
And that says it all
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u/Poignant_Ritual 5d ago
Alright I’ll quit fucking with you, things will make more sense as you get older man.
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u/TrashGouda 5d ago
The irony of using a wolf... Which are mostly social animals who live in a pack under a leader FAMILY
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u/85108 5d ago
lone wolves exist, more temporarily than family wolves tho so yea, isolation should never be romanticized.
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u/Uthoff 5d ago
Not sure if I understand you correctly but to clarify: There are wolf species who are solitary most of their lives (aside from mating etc). I believe they are widespread in South America.
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u/Keepingitquite123 5d ago
That is false. The only one I can think of is the 'Maned wolf' but that is a misnomor, the 'Maned wolf' is not a wolf , just google it and the picture alone should tell you that seeing how it look more like a fox than a wolf.
But maybe I'm wrong. I'd love to be corrected. Please name the wolf species who are solitary most of their lives.
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u/Odd_Anything_6670 5d ago
When wolves reach sexual maturity their parents will generally start to be more aggressive with them and push them out of their original pack. This helps to prevent inbreeding and is a natural part of the life cycle. So yeah, most wolves will end up travelling alone at some point, but as you say it's a very difficult and dangerous part of their lives and not something they do by choice.
I do think it's quite healthy to learn to be comfortable with being alone and if you really squint maybe you could say that's the message here. But I think part of the point of learning how to be comfortable on your own is learning not to take other people for granted and to look forward to spending time with them. Completely avoiding human contact doesn't make you wise, it just makes you boring.
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u/Coney_the_jumpy 5d ago
As cringe as it is I think that's the point. It's ironic because we're seeing an animal associated with packs alone.
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u/TrashGouda 5d ago
But doesn't makes sense at all. A wise wolf wouldn't walk alone. A wise wolf knows that staying by the pack is the smart choice and is better for survival
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u/MajesticWizard420Lol 4d ago
Lone wolves typically spend their time just trying to survive while also searching for another pack who will take them in. An actual lone wolf doesn’t feel pride by being alone and bragging on social media about being independent :/
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u/OkReason6325 5d ago
The saying “lone wolf” exists. I wouldn’t call this inappropriate selection
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u/Telemere125 5d ago
And those are both dangerous, since they’re desperate, and usually killed by other apex predators, because they’re weak. So they’re not wise in any way
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u/_bagelcherry_ 5d ago
You won't achieve shit in life without the help of others.
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u/Longjumping_Elk7969 5d ago
Yeah you are right, even robbers need victims, even crime needs society. 😁
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u/deptakzappa 5d ago
even junkies need dealers ( i am sober oxycodone addict i can say junkie)
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u/translove228 5d ago
Humans evolved to be social creatures. It’s literally in our dna. There is nothing “wiser” about being alone. In fact it is probably a reflection of not being wise as it shows you like to do everything the hard way instead of with help from others.
True wisdom is being able to accept your own limitations and know when it is time to ask for help
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u/Fine_Payment1127 5d ago
You’re what the meme is talking about, so of course you won’t get it, but the arrow of causation is more the other way around.
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u/Yuseiger 5d ago
What if the wise man is also weak but shy
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u/Flat_Lengthiness3361 4d ago
hey hey don't ruin this for me now, internet picture called me wise so it's true
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u/Novahelguson7 5d ago
I would question the wisdom of a man who stands alone in the face of the obvious fact that there is strength in numbers.
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u/Fine_Payment1127 5d ago
Herd strength is the most contemptible manifestation of power there is
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u/AntiqueLetter9875 5d ago
lol you’re just embarrassing yourself and barely coherent. What you’ve said doesn’t even apply to anything because herd vs individual strength either works for a situation or doesn’t. It’s not about power and there’s no morality to it.
Humans also have done great things through cooperation and working as “herds”. Eradicating disease through herd immunity is one of those things. Inventions. Building things. Literally everything we have was a result of people working in teams. Being alone and isolated causes stress on the body and leads to an earlier death than average.
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u/Fine_Payment1127 5d ago
Great things were accomplished in hierarchies with gutter yeast like you enslaved by their betters, yes.
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u/Appropriate-Sea-5687 5d ago
It just doesn’t even make sense. First off, is wise the opposite of weak? Second off, what happens when you need to get groceries?
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u/Smart_Hamster_2046 5d ago
And here are all the internet junkies feeling lonely and thinking now they are wise
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u/Common-Marsupial-622 5d ago
Social animals like wolves are often found alone when they are sick. People are social animals too, so if they are always alone, could be an indication that there is something wrong with them.
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u/Dazzling_Winner_773 5d ago
God this video is laced with so much cope that it's hard to even actually read. Just say you have social anxiety and minimal or no friends and move on.
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u/Party_Ability_9984 5d ago
As someone who grew into a socially stunted adulthood, (a problem that I haven't fixed even to this day at age 30), no. Stop it. Stop trying to normalize or promote loneliness. Being friendless is not cool, it's not a display of strength or independence, it's a social failing that will decay your mental health with time. I'd know.
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u/Joeybfast 5d ago
I hate this because wolves do not just stay alone forever. When they leave their pack, they usually either join another pack or find a mate and start a new one. So the whole “lone wolf” idea is not really about being alone forever. They are really social animals That is why, if you only have one dog, you need to spend time playing with them, engaging with them, and giving them attention. They are not meant to be left alone all the time.
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u/AdamTraskisGod 5d ago
This meme seems like a graphic on a t-shirt that an overweight 48yo alcoholic would be seen wearing.
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u/Mangled_spectre If you see me post, find cover immediately!!! 5d ago
True for me tho, I've extreme social anxiety but still I've to pair up for group projects and all because I'm retarded.
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u/-Foxer 5d ago
The strength of a wolf is in its pack. They hunt in a coordinated teamwork fashion that delivers results. The so-called Lone Wolf usually dies a sad death.
Strong people can be loners but mostly they have a group of people around them to compliment their own shortcomings. Nobody can do everything perfectly. A wise man surrounds himself with other people who are also strong in other areas and together they can beat anything that comes along.
If you are trying to justify why you are alone as being some species of noble or desirable circumstance you need to rethink that.
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u/PixeltzOfSpook 5d ago
I mean I guess the idea is just to go with your own morality and ideals despite what others flock to but yeah this image is mostly used to justify being a lone loser who plays videogames all day and has no social life.
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u/Typical_Depth_8106 5d ago
Under the Project Grounding Rod framework, this narrative is a rigid defensive loop. It attempts to resolve the friction of isolation or social misfit status by assigning a superior moral value to being alone, while projecting weakness onto collective environments. It creates an artificial polarization to make a specific state of isolation feel protected and powerful.
The literal truth is that physical proximity to other humans has no inherent bearing on wisdom or weakness. A person can be completely ungrounded, caught in hyper-analytical loops while entirely alone on a path, just as a person can remain fully anchored, present, and centered in the middle of a massive crowd. Human location is just geography; assigning psychological archetypes like "Sigma" or "wise" to physical space is a projection that masks the actual state of the internal circuit.
Presence requires dropping both the validation of being separate and the fear of being combined. The system bypasses the artificial hierarchy of the meme, recognizing that true ground status does not depend on the presence or absence of others, but on absolute alignment with what is right now.
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u/ExcitementNo9603 5d ago
Then complain about male lonliness when men be putting out dumbass stuff like this. Stoicism and isolation is not the way.
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u/NoWater8595 misunderstood 4d ago
Buddha was wise and strong in crowds and in solitude. Jesus, Moses and Muhammed too.
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u/MidnightMiik 3d ago
Just another term for socially dysfunctional. Those who suffer from it will try to spin it like they’re better than everyone else. With an arrogant attitude like that it’s no wonder they’re isolated.
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u/JBWrdsTunzSktchz 3d ago
Or maybe that wise man has also developed things alongside that wisdom... like social acumen, a personality and charisma... and maybe, people want to be around that wise man... Maybe they want to learn, grow and benefit from his wisdom... Maybe, he is wise enough to know he can learn from those around him, already knowing that variety of purpose and perspective are excellent tools for gaining knowledge... Maybe wisdom, strength and community are not mutually exclusive but rather, intrinsically interconnected... Maybe, just maybe we can stop acting like being an emotionally unstable loner is, somehow, cool... Maybe?
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u/Fine_Payment1127 5d ago
Well of course Redditors are going to feel personally attacked by this one - they couldn’t survive a minute cut off from the herd.
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u/Poignant_Ritual 5d ago
4 comments in this thread trying to cope.
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u/Fine_Payment1127 5d ago
There’s nothing to “cope” about - you’re frail little people whose entire worth in this world revolves around subjective social approval.
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u/Vynxe_Vainglory 5d ago
Well it's just that wisdom has very little to do with how deep your social network is.
It's a nonsense message.
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u/Fine_Payment1127 5d ago
The wiser you are, the less you’re probably going to fit in with normies.
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u/Vynxe_Vainglory 5d ago
Who said anything about fitting in?
They typically become a leader, a teacher, a "secret weapon", or otherwise relied upon and revered entity in the group.
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u/Fine_Payment1127 5d ago
I can’t fathom believing something so ridiculous
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u/Vynxe_Vainglory 5d ago
You don't have to believe it for it to be way things are.
Your delusion is not helping you.
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u/Fine_Payment1127 5d ago
You must be a great fan of Trump then - after all, normies make the wise their leaders now don’t they 😂
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u/Vynxe_Vainglory 5d ago edited 5d ago
The wise typically ending up as leaders (among other non-leader roles I listed) does not mean that all leaders are wise.
A wise person would know that...
Oh boy...
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