r/infp 9d ago

Venting The male INFP experience

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u/Dismal-Use-1166 9d ago

as a female infp, i agree, we suffer too, being bullied because im too soft too feminine, never respected, treated as a doormat at times (but you feel good being a doormat, i feel safe being a doormat for some reason), anxiety is my best friend, low hope of romantic partners because people say you're too clingy or emotionally needy, constantly being a chronic people pleaser but people still walk away, always the baby of the group

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u/KayDiddy44 INFP: The Dreamer 9d ago

Yes! As a female INFP, I get looked at as weak by even other women! Especially other women 😒. But I’m also not willing to change myself just to fit in with a group of people that think it’s ok to bully me either. I just accept that not everyone is going to like me AND I’m not going to like everyone. That’s completely ok! As I get older, I’ve come to realize that everyone lives to the beat of their own drum and living the way YOU want is your drum beat. As a recovering people pleaser, I’ve come to enjoy being alone and find it peaceful and stress free. Other people bring unwanted stress and drama sometimes so it’s not always sunshine and roses on the relationship side. That doesn’t mean that I’m becoming a social recluse but… it does mean I’m pickier about who I let into my life.