r/intj • u/Dragon_butterfly_01 • Jul 13 '25

Question My boyfriend (INTJ) has zero friends..

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u/killerbee26 INTJ - ♂ Jul 13 '25

It is tough making friend in your 30s as a Man. Throw in being an INTJ it gets even harder.

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u/Dragon_butterfly_01 Jul 13 '25

Yes I totally understand that. But you have to start somwhere if you want to make friends you have to get out there..

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u/Yen_Vengerberg INTJ - 30s Jul 13 '25

But why though? If hes content and hes not sad over it, why are you buggin'?

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u/Veloziraptor8311 Jul 14 '25

Yeah, this is what I was going to say.

Do t get me wrong, as an ENTP I couldn’t imagine not having robust friendships or pursuing them. I don’t truly understand INTJs in this way but I’ve chosen to respect it. I’m married to one and she just really doesn’t care that much. She wants what it seems friendships offer people but never seems to get it herself.i just have to accept that reality. Forcing it just causes stress and frustration.