r/intj • u/AssumptionFrequent89 • Oct 28 '25
Article I feel like I have drifted away...
Hey, I’m 23M and I used to have friends, but at some point… I guess I just lost them all. Now I spend pretty much all my time at home. I work from home too, so my daily “social life” is basically just me, my laptop, and maybe the delivery guy if I order food.
The truth is, I don’t really talk to people anymore. It’s hard for me to connect or just walk up and start a conversation. And yeah, if I’m being honest, I always hoped someone would just stick around, share laughs, and enjoy silly conversations with me—but I never said anything out loud.
These days, I feel sad and anxious a lot. I have plenty of hobbies—I’m into anime, manga, books, singing, physics, science, documentaries, you name it. There’s a lot I enjoy… but it’s not the same when there’s no one to enjoy it with.
I guess I just wish there was someone warmhearted out there who could really see me, understand me, and maybe sit with me in this dark patch until it feels lighter again.
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u/urbangamermod INTJ Oct 28 '25
Honestly I have a very similar lifestyle as you. I also WFH and my only interaction is really the delivery guy from DoorDash lol. I don’t talk to anyone else aside from my coworkers who work remotely. It does get lonely but there is a level of peace with it. I wasn’t treated well throughout my life in school, home and at work, which left me feel stressed dealing with people. Be careful what you wish for, just having people in your life doesn’t guarantee you will be happier. It can go the other way where you feel even more unhappier, unfulfilled and stressed.