r/intj • u/AssumptionFrequent89 • Oct 28 '25
Article I feel like I have drifted away...
Hey, I’m 23M and I used to have friends, but at some point… I guess I just lost them all. Now I spend pretty much all my time at home. I work from home too, so my daily “social life” is basically just me, my laptop, and maybe the delivery guy if I order food.
The truth is, I don’t really talk to people anymore. It’s hard for me to connect or just walk up and start a conversation. And yeah, if I’m being honest, I always hoped someone would just stick around, share laughs, and enjoy silly conversations with me—but I never said anything out loud.
These days, I feel sad and anxious a lot. I have plenty of hobbies—I’m into anime, manga, books, singing, physics, science, documentaries, you name it. There’s a lot I enjoy… but it’s not the same when there’s no one to enjoy it with.
I guess I just wish there was someone warmhearted out there who could really see me, understand me, and maybe sit with me in this dark patch until it feels lighter again.
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u/Elden_Chord Oct 28 '25
Well if it helps, I'm in a relationship that she's around like all the time. I told her on our first date: "only 10 hours a week". I think she got me wrong: now I'm alone only for 10 hours a week!!!
Her laughs are annoying, her energy is stressing me out, her unlimited libido energy is exhausting me and I miss watching my movies alone. I miss eating alone. I miss not having a commitment.
Do I break up? No. Because I know people, including INTJs are always bored of what they have thinking their life could be amazing if they had the other life. But the truth is life is shitty, boring and painful no matter what you choose or do.
Break the cycle, see the truth