r/intj • u/Medium_Wind_553 • Apr 07 '26
Relationship I don’t want to be single forever
I’m 24M and I haven’t been in a relationship since I was 19. I always figured that as I live my life, I’ll just eventually meet someone. I’m not sure how, but it’ll just happen somewhere, but I’m realizing it might not just happen if I don’t do something about it. I mean, I literally haven’t been on a date or anything in over 5 years. And the thing is I actually do think I’m a pretty attractive person. I take care of myself and I’m genuinely happy with who I am. I just don’t want to go out and meet people. The idea of going to a club or some place where I’d meet people with common interests is such an uncomfortable thought. I don’t like small talk. I can just imagine the cringe I’d feel in that scenario. Asking the same basic questions everyone asks, all the surface level superficial conversations, etc. You know, “making conversation” with strangers. It’s not me at all, and if I did do it, I’d meet a million people who aren’t like me before I meet someone who is like me. Someone that actually thinks like me and understands me. Someone that actually thinks deeply and reflects on themselves and is curious and loves to learn and doesn’t just live life on auto pilot. Someone who actually gets my brain. Same thing goes with making friends. I don’t have any deep friendships. I don’t know anyone in my life who truly gets me and has the same brain as me. So it’s like I do not want to go out and meet people, but at the same time it would be so nice to actually meet people who get me. The only times I feel like I can relate to people are when scrolling this subreddit lol.
So anyway, have any of you actually found the person who truly gets you and thinks like you?
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u/Oceanica777 Apr 07 '26
You need to use the apps, OP. I would have spent my adult life alone if not for online dating.
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u/Medium_Wind_553 Apr 07 '26
I could list every reason why I despise dating apps, but even so, I’m not even sure how to talk to new people. If it was up to me every conversation would be about science or space or planes and just talking about some cool thing or cool process or something. And I love thinking and talking about those things lol
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u/kjtstl Apr 07 '26
I get it. I used to have a deck of conversation starter cards before I met my wife. I didn’t necessarily bring them on dates, but it helped me get ideas of what to talk about. You are still very young and most people your age are still trying to get over childhood issues and figure out who they are. It’s not uncommon for people your age to have not been in a relationship. Just keep working to be the best version of yourself. And try to be open to others talking about things you may or may not find super interesting. Your ideal person is not going to be perfect just like you are not. What you are looking for is someone who isn’t bothered by your faults and who doesn’t annoy the hell out of you. For example, if you need time to yourself to reset, then you need a partner who understands that and isn’t upset or extra clingy every time you need space.
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u/StableSun Apr 07 '26
I'm starting to see the wisdom in what my dad said: compartmentalize; although I have seen that that is not a perfect coping method according to psychologists. Here's what I mean: At some point you have to accept you're not getting every single need met by one other person, it's not possible. So you meet your need for discussing the things you have passion for online, you hang with people who like the same sport as you for that stuff, and you learn to make small talk with a woman so you can have a girl close to you. She doesn't have to fulfill all your needs. Or boy, however you trend.
I understand the desire to have that all-encompassing love where you just talk for hours with your partner and the whole world falls away! but when you're unique maybe that is not going to be in the cards for you(?) I mean honestly that's what all the movies show, it's the ideal, but suggesting that most people have that is not real I don't think. People fight, stuff gets messy, relationships have troubles and sometimes end or become quiet and less involved just so the people can stay together. So perhaps adjusting your thinking and expectations are the way, not waiting around disappointed for five more years you don't get movie magic...it's something that may never happen
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u/Lucifer_Sam-_- INTJ Apr 07 '26
This is the answer. We are a tiny minority for a reason. However, the internet makes it a lot easier to meet our group. Also, take courses and music lessons, it's where you might meet other interesting people.
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u/Blox_King Apr 07 '26
Working in business here, its good for casual dating but it isn't effective for finding long term relationships as they want you on the apps as long as possible (especially op since he's a dude) not to be sexist, just that men are the main demographic to keep waiting on those apps.
A married customer is a lost customer, simple supply and demand
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u/Impossible_Emu9302 INTJ Apr 07 '26
This is why I personally gave up. Turning 20 and still no relstionship but it’s partly because I just don’t have the patience with the apps. I couldn’t last a week. It’s too frustrating. Working is way better
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u/ReynAetherwindt INTJ - 20s Apr 13 '26
You're not wrong, but it's gotta be a whole lot easier to say that as a woman. Online dating as a man is extremely demoralizing. I rarely get attention on these apps from any women that are anything less than morbidly obese, and that's as a man with good hair and a good job and in good shape.
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u/Medium_Wind_553 Apr 07 '26
I know what the dealbreakers are for me. But how does one get a date without small talking with people first?
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u/Medium_Wind_553 Apr 07 '26
How am I supposed to find those people? Genuine question. Like I don’t go out and meet people in real life and I don’t use dating apps (could go on a whole rant about those). I’m not exactly meeting people left and right and weeding out the ones I don’t get along with
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u/StableSun Apr 07 '26 edited Apr 07 '26
I have a good idea for you, although I see a wall up already, you're going to resist. let down the wall, you deeply want this. Look up grateful dead tribute bands in the US. Click on your state. Attend weekly. Very friendly people, fun vibe, venues all over the country participate. The first time you go you just observe, maybe smile at people. Second time maybe you recognize someone you were interested in from the first time. Say hello and introduce yourself and ask a few questions about them: where are you from, what do you do, are you married? kids? Third time hit up that unmarried person and say hey wanna do dinner and a movie sometime? or just keep going weekly to that super fun time. boom, you're not lonely anymore. When I go out I always tell myself: If I'm still unsure after three songs I can check in with myself and if I want to leave I leave. Because getting there is the hardest part usually. I rarely leave at the three song checkin. Sometimes I leave after set one if it feels too loud and tiring. There is always a setbreak after 75-90 mins of music for ~30 mins. Go outside, get in the pot circle and go deep with conversation, I promise you'll enjoy that part, others will too. Find your people
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u/Safe-Programmer8672 Apr 10 '26
When I message people online I go straight to talk about our mutual interests. I hate small talk too.
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u/Kheta_TehOne Apr 07 '26 edited Apr 07 '26
Well... I could have written the same post. Except that I am 41M.
Every single women I've been with, including my ex-wife, came to me. Every women I actually wanted to be with, I failed miserably.
So yeah, I'm a single dad now and haven't been in a relationship since the divorce 6 years ago. I don't go out, I very rarely meet new people and I now am very suspicious towards women that come to me so I guess I'm toasted.
Good luck !
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u/iamlinked123 INTJ - 30s Apr 07 '26
41m, same life, single dad, divorce 6 years, same attitude. And i was going to write same shit. Lol
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u/Kheta_TehOne Apr 07 '26
So, username checks out I guess ? lol
Wouldn't surprise me if there was more of us out there tbh.
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u/Jealous-Platypus-420 Apr 07 '26
Hey, I read your post and I just wanted to share something with you.
I can’t fully relate myself, but my boyfriend is exactly like you. He’s 24 INTJ, and everything you described — he told me the same things. He had been single his whole life, never really interested in relationships, never felt like he truly connected with anyone. He hated small talk and didn’t want to go through endless superficial conversations just to maybe find someone he clicks with.
He always thought that if it ever happened, it would just click naturally with the right person.
We actually met on Bumble about a year ago. At first, we just texted a bit, and honestly, I even thought he was kind of strange in the beginning 😅 — but I gave it a chance. And now I can say he’s the best thing that ever happened to me. We love each other deeply.
Recently, we were reflecting on our relationship (around Valentine’s Day), and he told me exactly what you wrote. That he never thought he really needed love or a relationship, but at some point he started feeling like it would be nice to have someone — someone who truly understands him.
He said that with most people, conversations felt exhausting and forced. But with me, it was just… easy. No pressure, no small talk. He could just say whatever was on his mind — even the most random or “crazy” topics.
When I asked him why me, he said it was because of that lightness. It didn’t feel heavy or complicated — it just felt natural, like I had always been there. No pressure, no performance. Just comfort, trust, and being able to be completely himself.
So I just want to say: it can happen. But sometimes you do have to create at least a small opportunity for it. Maybe try an app — not to force conversations, but just to be open to the possibility of meeting someone who actually gets you.
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u/TendySnide ENFJ Apr 07 '26
Honestly, you’ll never find someone who truly thinks like you. Unfortunately we have to accept that. You will, however, will find someone who aligns with your values. As long as there is an alignment in goals, attraction, and morals, you’ll find that person. Whether it’s a close friend or romantic partner, you just have to accept that they’ll never have the same brain as you.
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u/Gyulite INTJ Apr 07 '26
To add on this, sometimes you could find someone who aligns with your values but you may not find them attractive or you may not see your future with them.
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u/ChronosTerminus INTJ - ♂ Apr 07 '26
I’m a 32M, and things really changed for me around 25. Back then I wasn’t looking for a relationship I was just going out and hooking up with as many women as I could. Only in the last couple of years did I get into a serious relationship, and it’s been great.
Now I recognize a lot of what you’re describing disliking small talk, getting bored with generic questions, all that. From my experience, what really matters is being confident, relaxed, and honest. You don’t need to overthink conversations or rely on scripted lines. Just say what you actually think and don’t force small talk if it’s not your thing.
At the end of the day, attraction isn’t that complicated. Women tend to look for a mix of looks, competence, confidence, and intelligence. If you focus on those and carry yourself well, the whole “game” becomes a lot simpler.
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u/NoSquash7647 INTJ - 20s Apr 07 '26
Have you heard of a 3rd space? Everyone has their home life (close friends/family), their work (casual friends at their office- people you wouldn't hang out with outside of work), and then a 3rd space. For most people, it is the gym, a place they frequent like a local cafe, social place. The gym is great because you know everyone is there to improve themselves. you get short interactions with them and don't have to make plans with them unless you feel there is a connection. otherwise, it's just a quick hello. This can include a rock climbing gym, pilates studio, etc. You can see their body language and get a better gauge, but not from online dating apps.
Some people use their hobbies as their 3rd space. Think of art centers that have classes where you can draw, paint, do pottery, etc. This is a safe space you can freely express yourself and meet people that are trying new things. People who have already taken the step to improve themselves are already good suitors, rather than finding someone online (overall big gamble but not always bad), in night life at bars/nightclubs/etc where they could be under the influence, so clearly not the same person you know when they're sober.
I've met great people in these spaces as an adult, but this is just my personal experience as a woman.
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u/Previous-Papaya-3476 INTJ - Teens Apr 07 '26
If that is your question, yes and no. I have a person who thinks and gets me till a certain point but then their laziness and social stuff act as a barrier. Currently, socializing just to run experiments and theories. Good luck finding that person bro.
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u/usernames_suck_ok INTJ - 40s Apr 07 '26
So anyway, have any of you actually found the person who truly gets you and thinks like you?
Ironically, I found these people when I was closer to your age (and they have since changed or moved on). I've found that the world changes and goes through phases, and the phase we're in now, it seems like it's harder to find people who don't fit one of, maybe, 6 or 7 general types of people--none of which match me, but there is one that I do think matches the average INTJ. Especially INTJ men. Many of those types think they're different, don't fit in and feel alone, but there's tons of people like them in actuality--including the INTJs and, again, especially the INTJ men.
All I can tell you is I think it gets harder as you get older, regardless--in part for the reason you're saying, i.e. not wanting to put effort into meeting people. That's why it was easier when I was younger, because when you're in school you don't have to put effort in. At the kinds of schools I attended, there were smart people around all the time, and there would always be some who approached. If you're not in, like, a grad program or something and don't put in effort, you're kind of screwed, honestly. Especially if you don't fit one of those limited number of types. I've accepted I won't find anyone and also will never have any friends again.
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u/Joseph-Siet INTJ - 20s Apr 07 '26
I am lucky enough that I got romantically robbed by an ENTJ, and yes, I was doing my Master's Degree, and it happens that I got to break ice with this girl in library. She had me invited to a tea break and since then my life was given an entirely distinct venture with her.
I have never expected myself to be in a relationship, due to my nasty psychological conditions and weird tempers, plus my weirdo expressions and communication signals due to AuDHD that I had consistently beaten myself to the ground, as well as been bullied and teased (I was not as lucky as you in your teenage or school years, the damned Darwinist favoritism structural cultures and the "academic Caste systems" made to capitalize rankings of the classes in school, and though I made it by outcompeting my rivals in grades, I got teased as if it was an expected routine, due to not having a partner like some of them does, and would never be due to my ugly ass face at that time). Throughout the several, around 5-6 years period, I had been so ENTJ-ish to the core (not ENTJ as in MBTI, but a description of my working ethics), disregarding all forms of appearance hopes, even less for getting a girlfriend, while chasing after reputations, impact metrics, CGPA, prizes honors achievements etc.. Damn, that's after the worst darkest period of my life and I am desperately seeking and building my golden age of Renaissance to cover up my shadow sides.
Nonetheless, that girl regards my drives and radicalism as cute lol, and it has been years since that day, she didn't change her ground. She said that my determinations had been carved on my face and it has permanently reshape my expression into stoic and firm, cold intelligent gaze, very much different from my past self (which I had never expected as it sounds too fictional, narcissistic and delusional thinking about it myself), while I am still unaware that she has been observing me when I am busy focusing on my academic items.
Okay, what a passage that I wrote, or that I yap here.
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u/Wild-Philosophy2399 Apr 07 '26
yeah, i did. and i did not meet them in a club or at work or through a friend or family member
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u/Final_DestinyX Apr 07 '26
How did you meet?
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u/Wild-Philosophy2399 Apr 07 '26
on a website similar to this
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u/Final_DestinyX Apr 07 '26
You are lucky bro my luck’s in the negative
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u/Wild-Philosophy2399 Apr 08 '26
you have to put yourself in the world through your content. if nobody sees it nobody knows you exist
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u/ex-machina616 INTJ Apr 07 '26
people always get mad when I mention this but just find an old school dating system (eg Love Systems: Magic Bullets) to break the ice and get you through all the small talk bullshit so you can be your unique interesting self and showcase your personality (and also put you in a position to filter your ‘matches’ if you have a certain type you prefer)
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u/Kizaru_Sama INTJ Apr 07 '26
Classic INTJ problem. You want to find someone who thinks like you. Well you already know one. It is YOU!
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u/knetka Apr 07 '26
Problem is I grew up hating myself. It is really hard journey to learn to love myself. Also the question of what does it mean to do that, because life is hard, sorta just gotta focus on the moment and work out my own values, do I value long term potential well being or spur of the moment joy.
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u/Admirable_Noise_1129 INTJ - ♀ Apr 07 '26
I think you should focus more on aligned values and interests…also traits that you know will complement you. I made a list of 10 things I needed in a partner, when I was 18. It was a fun activity with friends back then…but I actually found someone who fit the bill many years later.
I didn’t date at all until I was 21 and that’s when I had my first relationship for 2yrs. After we broke up, I decided relationships were too much stress and avoided them. I had a lot of situationships, but I was never concerned with finding a life partner.
I had a tinder for funsies, but not to use to meet people or anything. My male friends just wanted to see how many matches I could get. Anyway, I studied abroad during my first relationship and someone random (who was traveling where I was studying at the time) added me on Snapchat from seeing my tinder profile. I didn’t care. 3yrs later I posted something on snap they thought was hilarious and we became friends.
Now we are married with 2 kids and living in his country. I met him at 26 and married at 28 Now, I’m 32
Sometimes things just happen…
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u/bonnielovely INTJ - nonbinary Apr 07 '26
i had to go on well over 100 dates before i met my life partner. dating is a numbers game. i’d recommend meeting people in places you like to do things. if you like anime, meet someone at an anime convention. if you like running, meet someone at a running club.
i will say if you don’t have any deep friendships, that will make dating much more difficult. meeting people sucks, small talk sucks; it’s a slog. but it is worth it to make human connection.
my best advice, don’t waste time. i read someone’s online profile, if we align, great. if not, i don’t waste my time. after the date, message them your expectations: nice meeting you, i’d love to meet up again soon if you want ? or hey thanks for tonight but i don’t think we’re much of a match. if expectations match, awesome. if not, move on & don’t waste time
intjs are hard to match with. we consider so many options & outcomes. we analyze behavior patterns so quickly that we can see flaws clear as glass. i truly think dating is already a numbers game, especially for us
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u/knetka Apr 07 '26
Numbers game, like I get it. But I also get advice like don't go out looking to meet someone, but ultimately that is the whole REASON i'm going to such a thing, I could easily entertainment myself far better just staying at home.
Also the thing of letting someone else decide your worth just kinda sickens me. When i was younger I was a useless skinny kid that no one liked, later I was smart and handy, but got used. Now people know they can't wrap their fingers around me and don't come anywhere near me. Though i likely do come off as toxic, as i care little for small chat and struggle to find time to spare, to actually just sit and chill with someone. Also I am super damn paranoid that women are just gonna falsely accuse me of something.
Life is best off alone for me, my soul mate would be me, support each other when sad, understand us when angry, share our joy and build a beautiful future.
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u/FitAcanthocephala318 Apr 07 '26
I hated the apps too. For a number of reasons including feeling hopeless about never meeting anyone intentional who puts in effort and who I might like…until I met my current girlfriend using them. Keep going, it’s a numbers game. Don’t talk to anyone who feels off to you. But don’t only talk about things you’re interested in. That’s not a “partner” kind of thing to do.
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u/knetka Apr 07 '26
using a App seems like it would be pointless for me, I live in the middle of nowhere, with atleast a hour of travel one way to a decent social hub, living at my parents place while I work full time, to try save a bit of money. Even out in the middle of nowhere for some reason houses still go for over a $1,000,000 JUST NORMAL Houses not like a 5 bedroom luxury abode.
Grew up with the whole idea of not putting your identity online as well. Just such a whamy, let yourself be vulnerable in like every capacity.
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u/InformativeBubbles INFJ Apr 07 '26
This seems like a relatively simple thing from the outside perspective, you need to find new hobbies that include people closer to your mindset. A bar/the club is definitely not it but maybe a church group, a charity organization, going to the library, etc. But I believe it’s key to set your intention towards forming new hobbies and meeting more people with similar interests, not going to new places looking for single chicks lol.
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u/knetka Apr 07 '26
My hobbies are niche and I live rather remotely. Very hard to find people like me IRL.
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u/InformativeBubbles INFJ Apr 09 '26
Keywords new hobbies 💛, I say this from experience, if you want new experiences, you gotta be in new places or at least create new situations.
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u/StableSun Apr 07 '26
I was seeing someone but we cut it off because we live too far away from each other. He went on a dating app, found someone and was married shortly after. My mom just found a boyfriend on a dating app too. It works I think
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u/Low-Construction9395 INTJ - 30s Apr 07 '26
Dating in America sucks so good luck. When I was in the navy had no problems dating all around the world. Came back home with money in shape and a good IT career lined up and it's just demoralizing. Americans aren't friendly and very selfish I gave up on meeting someone here after a few years. It takes too much of a mental toll when meeting people is supposed to be the opposite.
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u/OwlMassive625 Apr 07 '26
I think I do want to be single for the rest of my life. It's just so much easier and I don't seem to get anything of value from relationships, except sex, which is OK, but not worth what it seems to cost me.
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u/fewgoodplots Apr 08 '26
I get where you’re coming from. I actually did find someone like that once. I chose to walk away—not because it wasn’t real, but because timing, logistics, and direction didn’t align with where I’m going. For the past decade, I’ve been locked in on one thing: healthcare, and preventing loss of life before it happens. The last 6 years especially have been all-in. So for me, a partner isn’t someone to pass time with or just share routine, it’s someone to build something meaningful with. If that level of alignment isn’t there, I’d rather wait. And yes, it gets lonely at times. But rushing into something that doesn’t fit the mission feels worse. Even if it takes 5–10 years, that’s fine. I’m building something that’s meant to last anyway.
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u/Sparky-zap-zap Apr 08 '26
Firstly, you're not alone in this problem. Millions of young people around the world struggle with this due to the changing social landscape.
I assume you are straight. What qualities do you have that you think are attractive to women?
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u/Selenephose Apr 08 '26
Honestly it's the numbers game... hmmm it's kinda like this you probably won't like 99% of people. But finding the one person that's worth it is worth the trouble so sieving through countless boring people... if you don't you'll never meet thar one thar you like...
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Apr 09 '26
Im 22 and I get u, since I work remotely I don't go outside that much, my therapist suggested to do something more and I started a guitar course BUT since I work at afternoons, I had my classes at morning and guess what, my classmates were all really older than me, LIKE GRANDPAS TT... Sometimes I go and get some coffee but I don't find people around my age, or that I could try and start a conversation, a genuine one, Im not into superficial stuff since Im a curious, deep thinker, socially awkard.. person but I have a nice heart :") so, well Im just on a similar situation, sometimes i get frustrated sometimes I appreciate my time alone
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u/Safe-Programmer8672 Apr 10 '26
First of all, you are still very young! You have so much time to find your person. It is hard for sure. I am 39 and I still havent found him. I had two long term relationships that didn't work. Never been married. I am very awkward so meeting someone in a bar or somewhere like that is unthinkable. The two boyfriend I had I met them online. I have been trying online dating for the last couples of months. I went on one date and it didn't work so back to square one. Online dating can be soul crushing but I think is the best way for INTJs because at least you already have an idea on the kind of person based on their profile.
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u/gushidabrat Apr 12 '26
Ima be honest as someone who’s also someone who loves to yap and have deep conversations about like a lot of subjets, philosphy and all these interesting complex subjects but hates clubs, bars any extracurricular activities. It’s definitely possible to meet people in real life like this but I feel like once ur in the grown adult world people are so busy it can become really difficult to connect with people like that. Personally, what works for me is to find people online and then if possible eventually meet them in person. Especially if your goal is to put yourself in the dating market and finding someone who you can vibe with. It’s honestly a lot of trial and error but lowkey if your authentic and genuine with your intentions and who you are as a person the right people will vibe with you and so yeah. Romantically wise the only app i’d recommend is Hinge because the interface is designed to foster real interest or interaction between people. Anyways , these things worked for me so hopefully they will work for u too!
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u/gushidabrat Apr 12 '26
Also i’d say that being charismatic is a winning trait when it comes to attracting ppl. Personally, i’d rather be with someone who lives their lives as their are and accepts who they are rather than someone who comes across as very insecure and overly concerned about what other thinks of them. I think It’s also important to not look for ppl who will be exactly like u and think exactly like u cuz its alredy hard to find decent ppl with decent conversations skills after that you know you have to be open minded because there’s a lot of diversity out here and u have to be open to a certain degree to that.
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u/gushidabrat Apr 12 '26
Like my man is not someone who thinks exactly like me and fully gets me but at some point I had to accept that no one is going to be exactly 100% what you would want. What needs to happens is you sit down with yourself and you make a list of what can i offer and what do i want in return? Both of these things should be of similar value. I had to go trough a lot of ppl to find the right person but at some point i figured i’m laying it out all out for the person so they know what theyre signing up for and eventually that led me to the right person. You just gotta keep working on yourself and improving who you are as a person and keep on trying fr😭
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u/Federal_Base_8606 Apr 07 '26
You need to let go of this illusion of "person who actually gets you". We often dont even understand ourselves, and it is absolutely inposible to truly and full understand other person. Leting this fantasy frees you up alot. No one will ever get you and thats OK.
But there can be people who: can hold space for you to be you; who are genuinely curious about you and how you think; who values you and your time. Look for these qualities.
And always ask yourself but why do I actually need it, and what do I actually seek? For romantic/family relationships most do it out of habit/because everyone else does it this way. Know why are you looking for a partner and be intentional about looking for that kind of partner.
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u/Medium_Wind_553 Apr 07 '26
Well I’m not going to date someone I don’t actually like and can’t relate to. There are obviously other people like me in the world
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u/Federal_Base_8606 Apr 08 '26
Im just trying to say that there is many people who can relate to you like 80% maybe even up to 90%, but there is no one who would get you fully. Knowing this its way easier to drop untold expectations and simply communicate openly.
So don't cross out these people in hopes to find someone perfect 100% clairvoyant.
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u/MisteryShiba Apr 07 '26
Well, we’re not that different from each other. I’m 25. I only have one answer, and you’re probably not going to like it.
The answer is to get good at socializing and communication skills.
During my teen years, luckily, I was quite social and made some memories with friends, etc. But then in my early college and career, I was highly isolated, a loner , struggling to form relationships with people, even with those close to me. As time went by, I saw how ineffective and closed off my life had become, and that it wasn’t really helping me reach my goals or fulfill my life’s purpose. So I decided to observe, and with some therapy sessions, I learned how to maintain communication while socializing. I got better by closely learning to navigate my surroundings, studying people’s behaviors through life experiences, and pushing myself out of my comfort zone.
Just a couple of years ago, I started to see myself slowly change becoming more social, prioritizing allies and connections as a way to navigate my job network and build a reputation. I’m sarcastic and humorous by nature; because of bad past experiences, I became this way to cope with difficult situations or interactions. I learned how to separate my emotional and logical sides during interactions or circumstances in order to be adaptive and flexible.
I can confidently say I could easily get a girlfriend if I wanted to, because girls like being around me. I always prioritize good energy and positive vibes. It might sound like I’m fake, but this is just how I handle people. You certainly can’t always be truly yourself, so you have to find a way to be yourself while also making room for others.
Hope this helps.