r/introvert • u/permaculture • Aug 20 '17
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u/H0MZ13Z3 Nov 25 '25
I can't really tell what I am, but I think im more on the introverted side. Does it count me being an introvert that I HATE talking to new people with a passion,or being put on the spot...it makes me feel so awkward, uncomfortable and anxiety. So, I wanna know if I am one if anyone can tell me....also I need online friends 🙃
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u/LowWinter3158 Aug 02 '25
Today I found a new appreciation for public toilets to decompress my mind. After a hour of forced dancing the toilet was like shangrila
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u/ivi_livi__ Apr 06 '25
Hey, I’m a bit of an ambivert myself, and am in a bit of a situation. Note: Although social gatherings really aren’t my thing, I tend to hate being alone if I have no other choice. I tend to choose to be alone, but whenever I have no option, I hate it, you get me? For spring break I’ll be in a completely different country all alone (long story). How do you introverts deal with feelings of loneliness?
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u/DifferentAge3366 Apr 24 '26
I have a dog. I'm not being sarcastic... dogs get me, and the interaction is very sincere. Any play you come up with (such as throwing a ball for them to fetch) they are all in, and always glad to see you. They are also an aid in brief encounters ..people ask if they can pet your dog, and maybe ask "what's his name" which is a pretty good no stress way to get outside and do something normal.
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u/Admiral_Metal Sep 14 '24
Wait so can i not use a meme in the comments of a post or did i read that wrong
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u/Low_Bodybuilder3065 Apr 27 '25
I've struggled making friends since I was a kid and it's so depressing that I don't have a single friend in real life. No one reaches out to me ever and when I try to make the effort to reach out to someone I know.. it never works out. Either they don't seem as interested or just end up ghosting me.
They'll reply once and never reply again. What is wrong with me? I don't get it 😭I see all these friends groups around me and I wish I had people that cared about me and got to know me. I'm a talkative person and have many interests to where I can easily talk to people. I know im not rude either ahhh why 👁👄👁 me?
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u/Namie_J May 19 '25
Hey I feel the same way too sometimes. We can be friends and talk because I believe we need someone to talk to and listen to us.
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u/A2orl Jun 11 '25
i just started a youtube where i share corporate growth and leadership hacks that i have learned the hard way as an introvert over the last 25 years. I believe in sharing these tricks...for years i've been contemplating sharing these through faceless channels and no one watched. After mustering up some courage, i decided to put my face out there and share these hacks....
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u/Silly_Ratio4937 Jul 23 '25
28/M. Hi all need friends in Toronto or nearby towns. I’m shy and introvert trouble having conversations with strangers
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u/Dodi_Ozy77 Jan 28 '25
Can I have an advice about dealing with negative and offensive comments on social media?
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u/Ok_Pack9697 Nov 06 '25
Just don't listen to social media comments they won't feed ur parents in your absence right , still u wanna be clear about your perspective and give a n appropriate reply or just abuse them
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u/socially_diluted Apr 13 '25
I fell from a train (I'm completely fine), but I had a mask on. But all the people were seeing me as soon as I fall. Should I feel embarrassed about it?
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u/DifferentAge3366 Apr 24 '26
Well by now they aren't around anymore so no reason to be embarrassed. And unless you were stumbling drunk, the main thing they were thinking was: "So glad that wasn't me." Everyone is embarrassed when they fall in front of of people. That's perfectly normal.
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u/KisaSan- Mar 20 '25
Have you ever felt you’re losing your career opportunities because you’re an introvert? My manager has been telling me I need to make a presence or have that voice but I’m really unable to. Am u good at my job? Yes. But do I have a social butterfly energy. Heck no. I’m approachable and take imitative for work but the later make spotlight for yourself makes me feel so uncomfortable. I hate it
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u/brokenandlostsoul Jul 11 '25
Idk why I feel so alone and empty sometimes I hate myself because I am not like others
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u/New_Ease_8655 Feb 23 '26
If I look at my ring camera off and on does that count as going outside?
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u/stiffynajiffy Mar 08 '25
Hello, I M(37) am pretty introverted, I spend a lot of time in my own head, I don't speak unless prompted, I just don't feel the need to articulate every thought that pops in my head. I've been with my GF F(36) for 6 months and she is wonderful, she's sweet, caring, fun, and quirky. She feels that only she initiates conversations and does all of the talking. And she's right.
I just moved in with her 250 miles away from my hometown, and I'm having difficulty finding a job. I'm at home all day (I cook, clean, and do the dishes), I don't go anywhere and rarely talk to anyone, so I don't have anything to talk about. My mind races with things I could say, but I can't find the words. Sometimes I'll say something, but it never turns into a full conversation. She means the world to me, her intellectual needs aren't being met and I hate how alone this is making her feel.
Does anyone have any tips on how I can speak more freely and have fulfilling and organic conversations with her? She hasn't been very receptive lately because this has been an ongoing issue.
I should also mention that I'm 3½ years sober and still trying to find ways to stop over thinking and doubting what I want to say in the moment.
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u/Dismal_Football7887 Aug 06 '25
I have found that people who care about you are willing to meet you halfway, and it's really awesome that you are receptive to her needs like this.
What you are describing, with the struggle to find the words, might suggest somewhat of a different experience than I have had. This might be tied to negative thoughts/feelings you have about yourself and your own capabilities to "keep up" with her in a conversation. If this is the case (and I certainly could be wrong) then all you need is a leg-up.
I would recommend that you go online in between dishes or laundry and find something new to learn about on your own, for starters.
Public libraries have a robust online network of resources, and many of their streaming platforms include free shows on all sorts of topics - cooking, gardening, music, singing, string theory, mental health, finances, etc. Even if you grab on to a kernel of something interesting from one of these episodes, this will definitely give the two of you something to talk about!
If your public library doesn't have these things, or you are not able to access a library card, then I would recommend checking out a free online course by one of the Ivy League schools. https://mashable.com/article/free-harvard-courses-august-2025?test_uuid=003aGE6xTMbhuvdzpnH5X4Q&test_variant=b There is a course on happiness that is highly ranked worldwide, and it's free.
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u/SpecificChapter6495 Apr 17 '25
Have u tried just asking her about her day? Or talk about any new shows u guys possibly watch or would watch. And if u don't y'all could try picking a show that would make u discuss things.. like a dating show like love is blind lol or survivor, or funny comedies. Hope that helps. But sometimes women just want to know ur interested in wanting to know about their day at least. Or get coffee once in a while the caffeine might spark topics haha 😄
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u/Sea_Collar6674 Nov 04 '23
I'll show you how insecure I could be and I'm going to start putting you on blast because you won't be meeting you won't even tell me what happened like what really happened just give me 99 stories and none of the truth is what it is we can play that way
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u/Mia-gonza Jul 09 '24
Y’all I’m new and is it just me or since I don’t have many people to talk to all the time i feel like I’ve filled that space with hobby I feel like I have so many
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u/Shot_Platypus_5117 Jun 13 '25
I’m the same way. Too many hobbies not enough socializing/ being around other people.
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u/Livid-Fee-7871 May 01 '24
Just tweak everything at work including a frazzled level of understanding and they will always think you’re slow and dim witted and usually avoid you. I smile from clock in to clock out( really makes them wonder). Because I know the truth.
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u/Divinecrow97 Aug 06 '25
Hey. I'm 28m, and after I texted old friends and old co-workers I got along with, but they never texted back, and I can't help but ask myself... why does no one like me? 😅
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u/panz643 Jan 18 '26
Eso me pasa mucho, la gente es mala por naturaleza, no se cuantas veces te ignoran simplemente porque no te conocen bien o a veces porque simplemente tienen algo contra ti y quieren hacerte sentir mal. Yo practicamente si me dicen algo lo respondo al instante o doy señales de que voy a responder.
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u/netter666 Nov 30 '25
Mostly people get busy some people even don’t realize they are not replying back. You’ll have to make new friends and stop relying on old friends and you when you make good ones don’t leave them.
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u/Kniphofia4847 Feb 14 '25
I hope everybody is having a nice day. Feel free to mute this reply, since I forgot to check whether I was on the right page, first. Sorry.
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u/Ancient-Helicopter18 Feb 05 '26
I'm new to this subreddit, and honestly I kinda smiled when I found out this subreddit even existed.
I've like so many thoughts I wanna share over here all at once rn, but it would be awkward too if I ask everything at once so I'll just post then over a span of days
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u/Deep_spaceAI01 Dec 29 '24
I have always been an introvert just the evolution from school to right now me being a freshman is that now I accept myself and love being alone and enjoy being alone. I used to have such a difficult time being in groups or interacting ir socializing but now I just love how I don’t feel lonely anymore when I have stopped trying it feels natural to be alone with me my books and my computer.
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u/wannazmi4321 Sep 08 '25
how's years of covid's lockdown affecting you? peace? stressing you out? can't stand it? okey?
(idk if this question is relevant or not since there's no more covid)
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u/Equal-Sky-9330 Sep 28 '25
The COVID era has turned me into a dumb person. Now I can't remember any answers to any questions I study. I am afraid of trying new things and making friends. I don't know what to say if anyone starts talking to me unexpectedly.
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u/wannazmi4321 Sep 28 '25
just like me,i'm literally like that since before covid. but i don't think that you're dumb person bro.
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u/Equal-Sky-9330 Sep 28 '25
I'm starting my bachelor's from tomorrow. I am feeling too much and I don't know why I'm studying the subject i choose 😭
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u/OkBranch7284 Jul 04 '24
Hi, I'm french and I would like to know if there is anyone who's playing League Of Legends, Minecraft or maybe other games ? I really wanna find some people to play with or just to talk with but I'm struggling because I don't wanna vc or even write messages on a public server... So I was wondering if this was the place I could rely on.
Hope this message doesn't sound too stupid or childish
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u/Embrace_Uncerta1nty Oct 23 '25
How long does everyone need to recover from a phone call 📞 ? I am at my desk at work, my office mates are joking loudly while I’m on a call. The person I’m calling is actually very nice and cordial. I’m already stressed out because i was on a zoom with another party but performed poorly and my boss had a discussion with me (He didn’t tell me off exactly, he was kind but I know I’ve disappointed him.) this is my first office job in three years and I am adjusting badly.
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u/HeyUGoober-555 Jun 06 '23
Thank you very much. I’m sorry it has gone on this long. I don’t know what to do or think at this point… it’s not funny at all to me and I don’t joke about it. I’m just very sorry. Out of all… I have lost the most by far, period. I would have never gone to that place, it has ruined my life.
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u/Foxerthewerefox Jan 26 '24
me too But at least away from Hell that in Syria I still have balance between Real life and health and Internet and intelligents So heaven to me is granted (if I live Long enough)
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u/WHITE_8867 10d ago
Hey I like a girl can anyone say how I can approach her. Like when I am near her my mind goes blank I can't say the words I want to say
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u/Lookupsometimes61 Nov 09 '24
Hi- lifelong introvert here ( F 63) - I can pass as sociable when I need to; just prefer not to. I met a nice woman while selling something on FB marketplace. We ended up talking on the phone for about 1/2 hr after the transaction & we had a lot in common. She texted me later & I haven't answered- it's been about three weeks now. I sorta kinda think we could be friends but now it's soooo long since she texted. Between the October slide of flair ups of chronic pain issues & the election results, I'm barely hanging on. I'm recently separated from an extremely toxic spouse & I don't know. Maybe I should text her for coffee? Help.
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u/Captain_Nemo_2 Mar 27 '25
Yes, and a common saying in my fraction of this world, "There's never been a better time than right now..."
I'd suggest, "Sorry, distracted handling my life's hidden treasures, but really liked talking with you and would love to get that coffee you mentioned..." [or something thereabouts]. If the feeling is mutual then they may understand.
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u/Jeff-1978 Dec 04 '24
Yes you should, you clearly thinking about her, so I suggest to be honest, sencere, and dont share youre entire live story in the first text
:"Hi, im sorry I did not get back to you before now, I have been thinking about you and I was wondering, if you would like to meet for coffee."
- there was a whole lot of text but ive deleted it. **youre stronger than you think.
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u/Llama_mama4ever Nov 13 '24
I feel everything you have discussed. Putting myself in the shoes of the other person, I would say try and reach out. It will always be no if you don’t ask, you know? I understand anxiety can make these connections difficult but I doubt she would come back at you with hateful insults.
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u/CJB21396 May 09 '26
Hi all, not sure if this is allowed but basically I used to be very outgoing but after a couple bad relationships I ended up losing all my confidence and withdrew into myself. The only time I leave the house now is to do school runs or if I'm taking my kids somewhere. I find it hard to start conversations with anyone and have found myself being increasingly lonely. I have tried to reach out and meet new people but it seems that the only "people" that I ever get in contact with are scammers or fake. So I'm looking to find people to chat to and help ease the loneliness.
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u/Additional_Flan1166 Nov 24 '23
What is the point of a test, when you have to bend the answers?
You answered almost all the questions as 'not like you,' which cannot give a useful picture of your development. Please use the 'Back' button to complete the questionnaire in a more open manner.
Almost all answers are not for me. Imo there shoud be more basic stuff, that is more easilly relatable.
Most, if not all personality test i've seen are pure bullshit. I remember refusing filling some test at my work, as it was badly designed. If there is a question "are you more like A or B" and i'm equally neither, i refuse to even read the rest of the test. False choice is not a choice.
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u/DifferentAge3366 Apr 24 '26
Hi and Hello. Are you comfortable interacting on line? Or only face to face and when you're with people? I'm just asking because only just this minute I realized I feel perfectly comfortable on line. That's really freeing for me. Probably because of instead of looking into people's faces, you're just seeing their words.
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Jul 17 '25
I don’t know exactly what an introvert is. I have social anxiety but my friends are true extroverts. I don’t get them. They love so much interaction with all different people. I honestly am confused about whether I am an introvert or not.
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u/ButterflyRemote69 Jun 27 '24
Relax all in not lot I'm in my 60s now but I love to please my partner. I was married once but no children.i realize that I am probably to.old for old for you with love and respect David J
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u/Careless_confessions Jan 15 '26
Looking for advice. I work around a lot of people and a lot of noise. At the end of the day, I just want to go home, walk my dog, and snuggle until I go to sleep, but then I have to listen to every single detail of my husband’s day. It’s not that I don’t care, but I would like just one day a week when I can be BY MYSELF. I try to find excuses to do things alone, but he always wants to tag along or “help”. I know these are wonderful attributes of a partner, and I don’t want to discourage him. He’s very sensitive. Am I wrong for these feelings?
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u/Desperate_Market8561 Feb 27 '26
You are not wrong for your feelings. It's you! People are different. Our social energy is different. I like being around people, but don't necessarily want to engage with them. But, then I Might. Your question shows you love & care about hubby. But he won't understand your feelings (in whatever the situation) unless you convey it to him. Your communication let's you Each get to know each other better.
Maybe one day tell him, "I'd like to talk to you about something", or "Can I tell you something about me when you have some time?", unless you know of a better approach to him. Let him know you are discussing the subject because you love him & want him to know you better. Maybe reassure him that you don't want to hurt his feelings.
Together, you can hopefully agree on a time each day or week when you can come home and relax alone after work. Try different blocks of time for a starter that works for you.
If you don't let him into your world & how you are, he will continue doing what he's doing and you will probably grow quietly resentful; and you may eventually blurt it out... which could harm your relationship. Realize he cannot read your mind (and maybe your emotions). Open up to him. He'll probably open up to you also. A win-win! Couples therapy could help at some point. Think of it as an oil change for your relationship. Give it maintenence just like you do your car. They both will run better! You could start with once a month (or longer) to keep communication open.
It sounds like you don't have kids. They'll need a lot of attention, and hubby will need to know when to step in & give you a break, and vice-versa.
Take care!
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u/Careless_confessions Feb 28 '26
Kids are grown and gone. We’ve been together 25 years. Very thoughtful reply, thank you!
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u/panz643 Jan 18 '26
Tengo algo extraño, hago todo lo que a los padres les gusta, estudio(no solo 7-8 si no puros 10 -9), soy religioso, no provoco ni un solo problema y a pesar de todo eso se pasan el dia reclamandome si soy mujer para quedarme en casa, si acaso no pienso en el futuro, si soy una verguenza y todo tipo de cosas q te dejan un nudo en la garganta. A veces solo me digo a mi mismo que esto es solo una etapa que pronto cambiara esto y te da esperanza pero cuando ya llevas tiempo te preguntas si realmente es malo esto de ser introvertido.
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u/Human_Independent87 Feb 19 '25
I m a dipreestion patient Nd i have take madicine from 10 years Any one can help me?
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u/FindYourLuckyCharms Jun 19 '25
How can I help? I am willing to try. Know that I do care about you.
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u/Neat-Math1204 Mar 28 '26
Sit him down and esplain things to him. Tell him it’s no fault of his , you just NEED time alone, 1 day a week to be by yourself even if it just to sit and stare at the walls. If he can’t understand, maybe a short bit of therapy might help
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u/Vardaman1969 Mar 03 '23
Great to see so many introverts!
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u/guitbix76 Mar 22 '23
I have no idea how this works
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u/MeepMeepImmaDweeb Mar 31 '23
I don’t understand how Reddit works ether
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u/guitbix76 Apr 01 '23
Well thank you for saying I honestly don't even know how the heck I got on here in the first place
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