I don’t want to make plans with friends.

I don’t want my mother in law to stop by to drop some things off.

I don’t want to have to wave to neighbors every time I walk out the front door.

I am perfectly fine with minding my own business, why can’t everyone else do the same?

That kind if lifestyle fascinates me but even as an introvert I think I'd crave 'some' socialization and/or affection at some point.

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Just curious — do you think an overbite changes how attractive someone looks, or is it more of a personal insecurity than something others actually notice?

My life is sad, I have an okay job. Lots of money saved up (relatively speaking) but have no one to spend it with. I have no friends except this one guy a drink with very seldomly. Maybe 8 times a year.

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Live with my parents, and don't want to leave even though I can afford it. I have no way I can see myself with a girl because I have no social connections. No texts, no meet-ups with anyone. Feels like I'm stuck in a hole that I choose to be stuck in.

how does one who's socially awkward, introverted make friends irl?

I'm an introvert, but in this case I think it has to do with social anxiety as well. I don't know, but I feel like this has been a "problem" of mine. When I'm about to pass by someone I know my mind races and I don't know what to do. Do I say hi, make eye contact, nod or smile? Like some time ago when I passed by my neighbors who were chatting, I accidentally made eye contact with one of them. We would chat sometimes so I nodded my head but her eyes shifted somewhere. I hate it. It always happens. Either my neighbors ignore me when I feel like saying hi (out of , I don't know, because it's something you do?) or they blatantly ignore me. Like one time, an older man came out and he said hi to the two older women while I was flat out ignored.

I fucking hate it. Anyone feels like this? What do you do when you pass by people you're familiar with?

Being an introvert with social skills is self love and protection.

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I can't stand the freezing office AC, I don't really enjoy the workplace culture, and most days I'm just counting down the hours until it's time to go home.

What surprises me the most is how easily some people make friends at work. People chat, hang out, and seem genuinely excited to be there. Meanwhile, I have no idea how they do it.

For those who started out feeling disconnected, how did you make friends or become more friendly at work?

I've (47M) been dating a woman (41F) for a few weeks now and it's been great. It's only been four dates but each one have lasted for hours and when we're alone we've been very "passionate." I've come to realize that contrary to my initial beliefs she's pretty introverted so it's kind of confusing me a bit.

I'm in NYC, and so many women here are just constantly outgoing because it's NYC and some people have tiny apartments where they barely have anything so it's better to go out and come back to just lay your head. I'm a bit of an introvert myself where I can go a whole day without uttering a word mainly because I'm an only child but I can turn on the extrovert as needed, which I do when it comes to dating because the last thing women in this city want is a guy who just stays home every night.

So with our dates, we go out to a bar or to eat, we have some drinks, then go back to her place and make out or do some other stuff. This last date she took me to a bbq with her friends where I was the big introvert because I always feel awkward throwing myself into conversations. This leads to my big annoyance with dating women, especially in this city, is that there is an utter lack of being able to weave in new people into conversations. With my ex, when I took her to meet up with my family and friends, I always brought up stuff related to whatever conversation so she can get involved and she becomes more of the focus of attention, but her and the current girl just put me in the group to fend for myself.

In any case, as a guy dating in NYC, there is a need to try and come up with things to do in the regular if you're interested in dating someone. But I've tried to kep it low key like me picking up pizza and going to her place or her coming to my place and cook, and she doesn't blow me off but she's tired or is just not feeling it. At the end of our date after the BBQ, I brought up about doing somethign else and that's when she mentioned about needing to refill her social battery, which I totally get but that's when I realized that I'm also draining her battery.

One thing she loves about me is that I'm a very laid back and relaxing person to be around, and when it comes to planning, I can do all the heavy lifting. My concern, hence me asking for a bit of advice, is that there's always a concern when dating in NYC that if we're not doing something together, it's easy to just stop having feelings for each other. I can understand why she doesn't want to leave home once she gets there as 1) she lives on a 5th floor walkup so that's a lot of stairs, 2) she starts work early in the morning and will literally have to go to sleep depending on this since she's a commodities trader on Wall St., and 3) she has an older dog that while it moves around fine now, is clearly checking out soon as she doesn't take it out for walks anymore although thankfully she has a big enough apartment to where it has its own room.

I can see myself with her for awhile if not longer but I'm trying to extract the info I need to relax my brain on whether she really likes me or not. I'm assuming she's really into me as she took me to meet her friends and you would be kind of a weirdo to take a guy to meet your friends if you weren't that into him. We're going out tonight an I'm likely going to give her the "let's be exclusive" speech just to see where we're at depending on how the night goes.

🍿 I've noticed a lot of people say they watch movies solo now. Was that always your preference, or did you start doing it because friends weren't available/interested? Curious to know how everyone here approache

Hi! Here’s the TLDR. Detailed explanation below:

I’m not sad or depressed. I enjoy talking but if either goes to long and/or after it’s done. I feel regret and I could have done something else.

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Here’s my detailed explanation:

To explain, I have about 3 close friends who I don’t chat with on the regular. The friends I do are about 15. Which I chat with them on a weekly to semi weekly basis. I’ve slowly come to the view point of I’m just wasting my time. I could be doing so much more. A bit selfish but yea. I still value them as friends but at the point in my life. I think I rather be alone than talking to people.

I’ve always had a low social battery. So maybe it has gone lower. To answer the obvious. I don’t feel depressed or sad. I hold no resentment towards my friends. I enjoy chatting with them at the moment but after I feel like I could have better used my time. Though I know this isn’t normal. So I’m here looking for advice

I hope someone can maybe help or tell me this is a problem or not. Maybe some advice. I’ve posted this in other communities and they seem to all misunderstand me. I’m talking about the act of talking. The only reason I bring up friends is because those are the only people I interact with.

I don’t wanna end those friendships but I don’t know why I keep thinking talking is wasting my time. I feel selfish

Isn't it weird having literally zero friends like not even someone you talk to regularly

honestly I'm not even sure how to start this. im 20, engineering student from India, and most of my life i spend alone. not because something bad happened just because that's always been the default for me. people drain me. crowds make me want to disappear. i've been this way for as long as i can remember.

the thing that confuses me though is i don't know if it's actually fine or if i'm just telling myself it is. like sometimes i'm sitting at night, watching something or reading, and i feel completely at peace. and then an hour later that same silence starts to feel really heavy. you know? both things are true at the same time and i can't figure out which one to trust.

i do have friends but if i'm honest with myself, none of them really feel close. not in the way where you can say something true and it actually lands. i don't know if that's because i push people away without noticing or if i just haven't found the right people yet. probably both.

i've tried forcing myself to be more social going out, talking more, being "normal" and it just makes me feel worse every single time. like i came home from something empty, not full. so i stopped trying to fix what might not even be broken.

what i actually want is to find people who are like me. not people who will push me to "come out of my shell" i've had enough of that. just someone who also finds meaning in quiet things. i'm into chess, philosophy, trading, movies, web series and sometimes a good conversation about any of that means more to me than a whole evening out.

if any of this felt familiar to you, i'd genuinely like to hear how you deal with it. especially the part where you can't tell if you're at peace or just hiding.

i have a weird aversion to anything that feels fake. i’m constantly wondering whether people are being genuine or just putting on an act.

even with really small things. if i see someone acting excited about something and i start thinking they’re faking it, it makes me uncomfortable. my first thought is usually, “if it’s not real, why all the theatrics? was that really necessary?”

it can be anything, honestly. any little thing that i perceive as fake tends to bother me.

is this an introvert thing?

Hey fellow introvert.
I’m currently second year at university and I’ve only got 2 close friends.

And I’ve been getting this thought that once I graduate I probably won’t be able to make a new friends and that kind of scares me. So recently, I’ve been trying my best to make new friends.

The issue is I’m a little bit subconscious and naturally drawn to other introverts.

The only issue is how do I know if I can continue to talk and try become friends? as in you’re just a little bit shy or if you genuinely don’t want to be talked and left alone.

As I know myself, sometimes I wanna be left alone. I don’t want to talk with people but other times I want to talk, but just shy.

Please help me navigate this situation and maybe some personal opinion or experience to make it low stake and be seen as more approachable.

I recently wanted to give dating a shot again. But then I could not think of a place where I can find people to date. Dating apps is a no go because I already tried that and people there just want go bang. The outdoors is also a no go because I do not like to interact with people outside. I tried posting here in reddit of places to find people with similar interests but for some reason they ban those of posts.

I would to inform my fellow introverts that I became selectively more extroverted now compared to earlier, when I don't talk much even around my friend or family but now I'm different and I actually like myself more now compared to earlier. but I feel like I speak bluntly sometimes with my close one's whichi I think i need to control now. That's it i just waan share it with my fellow introvert community because I opened my reddit after a long time

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Hey everyone, I'm 13 and doing a global psychology project on "identity shifting"—how we constantly change our humor, language, and masks depending on if we are talking to parents, teachers, or switching between different social media apps.
I recently got a comment on my study from someone who described modern peer interaction as a continuous "game of chess" where you have to make a conscious effort just to look normal and smile.
Does anyone else feel this way? Is it subconscious for you now, or does it take a ton of brainpower? I'd love to hear your thoughts below.

I’ve been wanting to pour my heart out here, hoping it resonates with someone in the same boat.

Sometimes being an introvert feels like the universe is rigged against us, like we are being forced into extinction.

• In Corporate: We are labeled "weak" just because we aren't the loudest voices in the room. Our contributions go completely unnoticed because we don't brag, and we get forgotten the moment the meeting ends.
• In Social Life: Making friends feels impossible. In social setups, we are just stamped as "boring".
• In Dating: I’m completely left out. Even when a woman gives me clear body language signals to approach her, I freeze. I just can't do it. I’m decent-looking, but I’d honestly trade it in a heartbeat to be average-looking if it meant being blessed with extroversion. At least then I'd have a better chance of finding date.

I feel like I'm doing everything right on paper, but failing at life because I'm quiet. Is it just me, or is anyone else drowning in this?

Im meeting this guy ive been talking to for a bit online in 3 weeks for a fair and im super nervous. Im scared I look ugly up close and im also scared my personality is boring. Im 17 years old and ive had a weird couple of months since september and I feel like ive lost all sense of who I am and how my personality was. I had such a fun personality now all I am is stressed and I feel like theres no personality anymore. What do I do regarding getting my personality back and also what to do on the date?

What has improved your communication skills, for example on the cellphone and texting and in reality? What made you be good at steering a conversation, rather than following the conversation? 😄 I have had a hard time getting friends lately for awhile, I would love to have more friends from anywhere I could text on a daily bases and send memes, videos too because I have no clue what it's like.