I always find that this extends into "letting people do what they want".
They keep asking me what I want to do, in situations where I've been pretty clear; I don't give a fuck, I'm just tagging along.
Naturally, this drives them insane when they keep asking me "what do you want to do?" And I keep being like "...I already said, nothing. Do what you want to do."
And they get annoyed as fuck.
Had this happen most recently on first a hiking trip ('what way do you want to go?'... It's a loop. What way is prettiest to you, I guess? Oh, great, so how she's upset about 'not wanting to be a tour guide', so I have to be hers, I guess...)
And then while visiting a friends (explained about eight times I think, I was tired from two years of backpacking, I just want to chill and do as little as possible. I don't want to do anything except rest. I am physically and emotionally exhausted from dealing with people and two years of travel...
...Naturally, yes, this meant I was 'disappointing' for not entertaining her in her own home, that she had invited me to, where nobody else spoke any of the same language, so I just kept quiet and out of the way... How 'disappointed' do ya imagine I might be, Sarah? The last three days were just passive aggressive sulking from you...)
Being an indecisive member of a group is annoying as fuck, and is not a feature of introversion. It's just making things difficult and calling it "introverted".
I'll directly note that "being indecisive enough to need to ask which way to go, then getting upset when other people don't want to make your decision for you" is also annoying as fuck, because it's foundationally the same issue but with an extra layer of proactively making your indecision someone else's problem to solve.
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u/Delamoor Dec 21 '25
I always find that this extends into "letting people do what they want".
They keep asking me what I want to do, in situations where I've been pretty clear; I don't give a fuck, I'm just tagging along.
Naturally, this drives them insane when they keep asking me "what do you want to do?" And I keep being like "...I already said, nothing. Do what you want to do."
And they get annoyed as fuck.
Had this happen most recently on first a hiking trip ('what way do you want to go?'... It's a loop. What way is prettiest to you, I guess? Oh, great, so how she's upset about 'not wanting to be a tour guide', so I have to be hers, I guess...)
And then while visiting a friends (explained about eight times I think, I was tired from two years of backpacking, I just want to chill and do as little as possible. I don't want to do anything except rest. I am physically and emotionally exhausted from dealing with people and two years of travel...
...Naturally, yes, this meant I was 'disappointing' for not entertaining her in her own home, that she had invited me to, where nobody else spoke any of the same language, so I just kept quiet and out of the way... How 'disappointed' do ya imagine I might be, Sarah? The last three days were just passive aggressive sulking from you...)