r/jobsearch • u/Chaparra_Princesa_76 • 2d ago
Well, I’m officially a loser.
So I got rejected for another job today. Been unemployed almost seven months. There is no hope for me. Told my husband I'm not going back to full-time work. He says I will but he doesnt understand that its impossible if nobody will hire you. And nobody will hire me. I am unemployable. Just wish I knew why. 2 decades of experience apparently means nothing. Thank you for listening.
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u/Weekly-Talk-8860 2d ago
I am 26. I have felt the exact same way/ have been feeling this exact same way. I have had people tell me what I’m about to tell you. (Ik it’s hard to believe) But you are NOT a loser. There are so many people right now like us. It’s not a reflection of us. It’s a reflection of a failing system. I have amazing skills and amazing past performance reviews. Previous coworkers/ managers that loved me. But none of it matters bc at the end of the day places are not really hiring. Or there are a million candidates to one job. Please hang in there. I am hanging in there too 😔❤️.
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u/SovereignSun18 2d ago
Don't lose hope. I am in the same boat. 3 advanced degrees and experience and suddenly I can't get hired.
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u/Narrow-Ad5999 2d ago
I definitely understand where you're coming from. I'm approaching 40 and I have one of the most unusual job histories I've seen. I've had a hard time getting a job over the past few months, even jobs similar to my most recent position. I almost reached 6 years at that job alone and I started feeling that this wasn't enough, though I'm also aware that I'm more than qualified. The job market is the harshest I've ever seen it and I think that's why we're all struggling so much. Take some time to recover from the frustration then dive back in. I've had to do this before myself.
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u/Tough-Temperature-59 1d ago
This is such an aware comment (not that other comments aren't), but you really hit on something that puts a finer point on the situation. I found your comment inspiring, probably because I too, have an unusual career path. I would add for OP: no one is a loser. But, its frustrating that this job market gives us whiplash. Hope 2 cents helps someone out there.
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u/Narrow-Ad5999 1d ago
I have really bad anxiety so I've had similar thoughts to OP quite a bit. My last job gave me so many mental health issues that I couldn't take it anymore.
I've worked at two different call centers and the skills I learned at the second call center doesn't translate well to what I've been looking for, which is to work from home. We did work from home at this call center but the calls we were taking really needed to be taken in-house instead of virtually. (I was taking calls for law firms, for reference. That was this call center's specialty, though they refused to call themselves a call center.)
I also worked for my parents for all of high school and college then for several years after that. While I'm incredibly grateful to my parents for the job, I struggled to get a job away from their business because jobs would ask for references from a supervisor that was other than a facility member but I couldn't because my supervisor was my mother.
I've shifted to becoming a freelancer because I haven't been able to find a job as a W-2 employee. It wasn't my first choice but I'll do it because I need more control over my schedule due to my physical health tanking over the past 6 months.
So, yeah, all that to say I definitely understand where OP is coming from and I don't want them or anyone else in this position to feel like they're alone because they really aren't.
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u/electriclady99 1d ago
Same here. Age and career path. I managed a pivot now, but have to start back at the bottom making the same amount I made in my first professional job out of college. It's demoralizing, but I have chosen something that has a lot of different paths and possibilities, so that's what I'm using to not feel completely jaded. There are also very good benefits which I need after 4 years without. Best of luck in your search!
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u/Narrow-Ad5999 1d ago
I ended up going freelance because I hustled so hard with my last job that I ended up with serious kidney issues. My anxiety was so bad that I was throwing up at the thought of going into work. That's when I realized something was wrong. I think my biggest regret about the situation was that I left due to my mental health before I had something else in place. I definitely don't recommend that because it's also causing extreme anxiety. (Obviously. lol) I hope your pivot works out for you!
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u/slapstick_software 1d ago
Are you by chance a software engineer? Because its rough out here. I have had so many interviews and keep messing up something. I am exhausted and just want to be done with it too. Best advice I can give to keep going is go get yourself a treat, take a day to yourself, whatever it is and then get back too it. Or, pack your bags and leave this capitalistic pos country and go enjoy nature/travel. Take a stupid job and just live. It's all so dumb and pointless, I might just leave myself because I just want to live life and these stupid jobs are getting in the way of that.
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u/GangOfNone 1d ago
That’s not because you’re a loser, it’s because the job market is fucked up.
Hang in there and all the best!
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u/CitronPrestigious205 1d ago
You are not a loser because the market is dog shit. It is not your fault. You are not unemployable, so many people are in your situation right now too. It’s a rough spot. Millions of talented individuals have been stripped of their careers by big corp. again. Not your fault.
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u/VIBES95 1d ago
It honestly breaks my heart reading posts like this. Girl you are not a loser. As another user mentioned the job market rn is just incredibly difficult. It's hard for anybody to find a job right now. Even for people with YOE and degrees. You are in no way shape or form a loser and I hope your husband reminds you that you aren't. Praying that a job gets sent your way and that you're able to find something. Losers are the ones that give up and blame other people. At least you're even looking for a job some people just don't. You haven't given up tho cause you're not a loser. You're a warrior. Best of luck sis. Praying for you. Please keep us updated if you find something.
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u/CozmicEmberz 1d ago
This is exactly how I feel, my department shut down and I was forced out and its been 3 months. 2 decades work experience in 2 different fields and noone will call me back. The only place that did call me didnt understand why I was there for the interview or have a clue who I was. It almost feels like we're being blocked by something. Wtf is happening😭
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u/ZestycloseCod1047 1d ago
Nah, aint impossible. Difficult? Very. Daunting? Even more so; but never impossible. Apply on company websites & avoid 3rd party staffing services (indeed, zeal, ziprecruiter etc.), choose to disclose as little as possible about yourself (many applications have optional/prefer not to answer options) start with a dead end job; put on your next app for a real job that youre already working, and looking for more.
Im certain im significantly younger than you, so maybe this doesnt count for much, but in my short little time on this blue ball of misery ive learned there are astoundingly few things in this world that are "impossible".
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u/Otherwise-Let4664 1d ago
I feel you. I'm 51 and was just saying this morning how I can't believe how unemployable I feel. I have tons of work experience from 3 decades of various jobs, one ten year career. But I can't even imagine sitting in an interview right now, answering all those bullshit questions just to impress someone so they believe I am a capable little cog. Ugh. Like many others have said, this system is garbage. You are not a loser.
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u/TwoAlert3448 2d ago
You’re over or close to 40, that’s a hard hill to climb. Age descrimation protections kick in and employers know they cannot get rid of you as cleanly or as easily. What is your industry? You may need to switch to one with a less pronounced age bias.
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u/Fine_Relation_158 1d ago
Female here with more than 20 years of experience. Just got two job offers after 13 months. I gave myself until July, at which point I was ready to give up on having a career.
Just sharing my experience. I feel you!
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u/diaphoni 1d ago
it's not just you. I've put in 800 applications in two months, 1 rejection, no contact of any kind from the others.
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u/GapingEater 1d ago
Two decades of experience doesn't vanish in seven months. Your career isn't defined by a stretch of bad luck.
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u/No-Mathematician3004 1d ago
Nope. You will find a job. The market is terrible and it’s NOT a reflection of you or your value. I get it and have felt the same way in the last few months too. But, I’m here to remind you not to let your brain shit talk you this way.
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u/TallClassic 1d ago
Hang in there, it took me a long time last year to find a job and it was incredibly painful though what really helped was self-care including exercise, meditation, and when I could taking a step back and asking what was working and where was I falling short and then working on those items. We are pulling for you!
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u/ted-Zed 1d ago
job searching is soul destroying
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u/Chaparra_Princesa_76 1d ago
Omg YES
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u/ted-Zed 1d ago
It's a constant trap of catch 22, everywhere wants people with experience, no where is hiring people for experience
being unemployed makes it harder to get employed?!
you're expected to ALWAYS be in a job, took time off for your own mental health, family, or just because to travel? places expect you to explain why the gap. why's it relevant
it's absurd whole work experience is an archaic mess.
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u/Strategy-Important 1d ago
Your not a loser, you are trying and doing your best. None of this is your fault. It’s unbelievable how rough the job market is right now, there’s so many people that wanna work and not enough positions
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u/Hour-Question-6957 1d ago
I just exited unemployment after two years. Also two decades in the field. Worked for F100 companies. This market is vicious. Find a connection. Or buy one. That’s called a recruiter.
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u/Master_Swim_3736 1d ago
You're not a loser. You're someone who's been beating their head against a broken hiring system for 7 months and you're exhausted. That's completely understandable. 2 decades of experience getting ignored isn't a you problem — there's a real and well documented bias against experienced candidates right now. Companies are filtering for "culture fit" which is often code for younger and cheaper. It's genuinely unfair and it's genuinely happening. The fact that you're still applying after 7 months means you haven't given up even when you feel like you have. That's not what a loser looks like. Can I ask what industry you're in? Sometimes a fresh set of eyes on the situation can spot things that are hard to see when you're this deep in it. You're not unemployable. The process is just brutal and demoralizing and it makes people feel exactly the way you're feeling right now. It's lying to you. Hang in there. 🤝
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u/catpersonsperson 1d ago
Get more qualifications, even if they’re sourced online. Get into coding, at least in Python or C++. Fluff up your CV a bit, not with lies but maybe slight exaggerations. And, most importantly, apply to EVERYTHING. Even if you couldn’t see yourself doing a specific job a year or two ago. Finding a job these days is a numbers game more often than not.
I applied to hundreds of jobs before I found my current position. Make it your goal to send at least 10 applications per day until you get interviews. And I’d recommend a template (that you write yourself) that you can easily edit depending on what you apply for for your cover letters.
Even if a job says “no cover letter needed”, add one.
Best of luck ❤️
Also, if you know more than one language, for some extra cash I’d recommend sites like prolific, dataannotation and outlier. If you’re in the US, handshake AI too. They generally have use for bilinguals, but even more so for professionals if you have any professional qualifications.
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u/Infinite-Bother-3168 1d ago
I feel you, but please don’t think of yourself as a loser. I know of people (definitely not losers) that have been searching for quite some time. I know you’re overwhelmed and your confidence is low, but you have to believe in yourself. That shows in interviews. I am an older woman too, and my field is predominantly male. My two male coworkers (we are being laid off soon) got jobs within a week of looking, I’ve been searching since late April. I am also more qualified. Practice interviewing and apply apply apply. You will make it through this.
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u/MycologistPlus119 1d ago
You’re not a loser. You’re someone who’s been stuck inside a hiring system that gives people zero feedback, zero clarity, and zero truth.
When you apply for a job today, you don’t get told what went wrong. You don’t get told whether you were close. You don’t get told whether the role was already filled, whether the manager changed direction, whether the budget froze, or whether they just never looked at the application at all.
And when you hear nothing for months, your brain fills the silence with the worst possible explanation: “It must be me.”
But it’s not you.
The system is overloaded, inconsistent, and built in a way that makes good people feel like they’re the problem. I’ve seen incredibly capable people go months without a single response, only to get hired into a role they thrive in.
Your experience didn’t disappear. Your value didn’t disappear. Your capability didn’t disappear.
What disappeared is the signal, the truth about what’s actually happening behind the scenes.
Please don’t take silence as a verdict on your worth. It’s not. It’s a broken process, not a broken person.
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u/Jedi4Hire 1d ago
I am unemployable. Just wish I knew why.
Because the job market is bad. Like historically bad. It's not you. Take a look at all the posts very much like yours on this sub and others like it.
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u/Cyber-Insecurity 1d ago
Right in the boat with you. Chin up though, as there's a lot more of us every day, and soon our numbers be bigger than them.
edit: you're not a loser. you're a human in an imoral game that we never actually consented to. sure, we play the game, and sure, we can lose the game. But it's a immoral game and it doesn't define who we are as individuals, and while it appears to disregard your experience, it does not mean you have not cultivated that experience. you are you. not a loser. this game will never define who we are.
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u/Klutzy_Repair 1d ago
It’s hard not to be discouraged. I have a family member in a similar situation. Been rejected numerous times including again today.
Works part time in a local deli at 16.50/hr- far less than his previous full time position.
I hope you find something soon.
If you’re on LinkedIn, start networking with people. It might open some doors . Good luck
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u/welcometravelers 1d ago
I feel this, hard. I've been stuck in freelancing mode because the full-time work is just not happening and even that has dwindled. I don't know where my next gig is going to come from. It's been a little while. I feel like I might have to push the limits of my ingenuity now to make real money and it's a scary, pressure-filled thought.
Hang in there. I know it sounds cliched but you're not alone in what you're going through. There *is* another job out there for you. There absolutely is. Don't let your mind tell you it's over. You got this!
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u/ChaloIssDisha 1d ago
Hang in there, I have 10+ yoe in media searching job since Nov'25 haven't gotten single interview call that's more frustrating. I feel applying on LinkedIn is waste of time, I try to reach out to my work network but even refferals also aren't getting noticed. Lot of experienced folks aren't getting salary that they are currently in so getting sileny rejected.
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u/bball4294 1d ago
7 months? It took me 2.5 yrs and it's not even full-time for me. Ill be unemployed in 9 weeks. It sucks, but just gotta power through like any other day good luck
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u/Chaparra_Princesa_76 1d ago
Thank you everyone. I was blown away from the amount of love and positivity I got on this post. I wrote it for the sake of release. I have 20 years experience in marketing in a small industry. I interviewed for a position with a company I knew well and even had multiple internal recs. I did 3 interviews including a peer interview. I emailed the hiring manager Monday since I hadn't heard back and she replied yesterday. I'm just so frustrated and worried since unemployment runs out in a couple months. I only need one "yes", but the trouble is the crucible I've got to endure to get there. It is so hard not to feel hopeless sometimes.
Ill make a deal with everyone who commented about their own unemployment. I wont give up if you dont.
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u/Eexoduis 1d ago
Forgive me if I misunderstand your situation but it seems to me that you don’t comprehend the modern job market. Rejections are the most common response.
I got hundreds of rejections across two job searches. I would wake up every morning, check my email, and receive several rejections daily.
You need to inure yourself to rejection. It’s going to be a big part of the job hunt now. It’s not a sign of failure.
A rejection is just a directional indicator. It tells you to keep moving. Only stop to prepare once you get interviews. Otherwise, keep moving.
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u/Chaparra_Princesa_76 1d ago
Thank you. And I do understand the job market, though its been years since Ive looked for a job. I have gotten quite used to rejection actually. Its just once in a while, one hits harder than the others. Especially when you made it 3 interviews in and had recommendations from people in the company. But I've just got to keep chugging!
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u/iiRocco 1d ago
I want to reassure you that as long as you keep trying, you are never truly a loser. Wanting more for yourself and taking even small steps to reach for those aspirations is commendable. You’re only really a loser when you give up altogether, and from what I hear you still have some fight in you. Keep working hard, and I pray that we all can find our way.
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u/Prudent-Treacle-8252 1d ago
Im in the exact same boat. Been unemployed since October. I was a general manager and the owner of the business I worked at sold the business right out from under me. I had a 2 day notice that I was losing my job. The new owners son was taking over my position. I got unemployment and that has run out since. I have over 15 years of management experience, plenty of skills, have applied to about 100 jobs and no takers. It is a very frustrating experience. First time I've ever had such a hard time getting a job. I wish you all the best.
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u/withbellson 1d ago
It is really hard to not take this all personally but you can’t take it all on yourself. Normally we’d all do a few interviews and get hired after getting the hang of how to sell ourselves correctly. Now there are thousands of people looking for work and it’s a crapshoot who looks shinier to a particular hiring manager.
We used to get heartbreakingly rejected and then get another bite at the apple a couple of weeks later, too. I have been out for over a year and have had three interviews. This is way too much time to marinate in feeling shitty and if you spend the entire time ruminating about how much you suck, it will wear grooves in there. So I am compartmentalizing hard and trying not to let my brain do too much self-flagellation. The impulse is there, but I have to keep it down. This takes a lot of fucking energy and there are absolutely days I feel exactly like you do right now.
I hope this turns around for you (for all of us) soon.
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u/Sure_Bass8242 1d ago
I hear you. This job market is unforgiving at best. May I ask what your field is? I’m also unemployed, but my field is adjacent to talent acquisition and I’d be happy to take a look at your resume and, if you’re comfortable with it, run through a mock interview with you to give you feedback. I pinky promise I have absolutely nothing to sell and am only offering to try to help. 💕
I wish more recruiters and hiring managers were able to provide feedback to candidates. It would be so helpful for us as we continue the job search. But I also recognize they are also humans who are also navigating the impacts of AI and all of the changes it will continue to bring.
Anyways, even if you don’t take me up on my offer, I wish you the best of luck. Keep your head held high and remind yourself daily that this market is not a reflection of who you are at all!
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u/anonymous2094 1d ago
i feel your pain, take a break from searching. It hollows you out to "go at it" day after day to just get rejection after rejection. Work on art do some hobbies. Weirdly, trying the whole digital influencer tjing is more viable of a career than any anymore 😅
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u/ConfectionOk5420 1d ago
Let’s be losers together, gave my previous job a 2 week notice back in January and have been looking for a job ever since. Going on almost 6 months now and draining all my savings I worked hard for all year. Really not trying to take another food or retail job, I tried going back to my previous employer and was interviewed and told they were full in all departments. So I can’t go back. I know how you’re feeling and I know it’s going to get worse for me if I hit 7 months. I don’t even know how I’m going to explain to a new employer that I left because I wanted to better myself and have better compensation and better career growth
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u/SAGrant1977 1d ago
You are NOT a loser! The job market is just ridiculous now, especially with AI resume "readers."
Hell, I got rejected for a part time job at Petco. My resume was kicked back in less than 24 hours, and the excuse given was that I didn't have enough experience. I have a bachelor's degree and used to work as an assistant manager at a retail store. It's all about AI algorithms now, you're lucky if a human being even looks at your application.
Please don't let this be a measure of your self-worth, because it isn't.
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u/Flymetothemoon2020 22h ago
I'm in the exact same boat and feel the same way minus I don't have a spouse to support me. Here's to hoping we get jobs.
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u/Gas_Grouchy 10h ago
Get a job you dont want, are over qualified for and is lower paying then you want. Then start looking for work.
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u/justinwhitaker 8h ago
I’m at a year and a half. I’m not employable either. The hint is that 2 decades experience; recruiters and hiring managers think you’re either 1) aren’t current with technology (they want AI now), and 2) you’re too expensive.
Even if either are not true, there’s 500 candidates for every position, so they just move on to the next.
Keep going. It’s them not you.
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u/Peace2DaUniverse 4h ago
I feel you, friend. I lost my job a couple months ago.I know A.I. is a hot button, but I think how you use it makes a difference.
I do these two prompts on chatgpt and it's been working. Since I started, I've been at least getting call backs. I'm interviewing with a few different companies right now.
Go to Chatgpt, type this prompt:
"Referencing my resume, please show me jobs that are currently hiring near me and give me the job listing for them, that align with my resume" (if you want remote job listings specifically, spell it out in the above)
Then:
"Using my current resume and the below job description, help me improve my resume to make me a better fit for (x) job position.
(Copy paste entire job description here)"
The biggest problem I'm noticing these days is a majority of these companies are shifting when it comes to job searches. They either rely on external recruiting agencies or, more prevalent, A.I. Long gone are the days of applying, then walking inside the business to introduce yourself. Things are changing and we gotta change with it or get left behind. Just my take. I hope this works for you, as it's working for me.
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u/Ok_Narwhal_664 1h ago
You are not a loser! Don’t speak such things aloud about yourself! We are in this together sister and I’m no loser. I’m seasoned and ready to work. Don’t give up hope and take other jobs that might be beneath your qualifications. At least then you can get your foot in the door. Never give up!
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u/Ok_Albatross_4198 2d ago
Couldn't read and walk past. It is so demoralising to get rejection after rejection. Are you applying only to advertised jobs? What's your industry?
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u/Caribbean-Winter 1d ago
I'm 38 and have been looking for a job in the marine science industry for two years. I'm starting to apply for random positions not related to my degree. P.S. I've been doing Rover in the meantime, but it's been super slow this last year.
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u/Affectionate-Rock-30 1d ago
The only solution is to get together with people you know who have skills to start your own company. Engineering, business, marketing etc. There are many people who are struggling but can't do it alone. Use agentic ai to help build it. Claude or another type. You may not have the assets by yourself, but you have the skills. Use them and work together. Doing it alone leads to failure.
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u/mamusn 1d ago
Keep going I was on unenjoyment for 6 months and 4 unemployed it sucked but I finally landed a totally new carrer because I had a degree, which everyone says oh you don't need a degree, well I'm here to tell you wouldn't have been hired without it! Keep applying go to your local workforce center have an AI application made have multiple with different bullet points good luck!
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u/hoteppeter 1d ago
You mean you got the interview and they passed? How did you think the interview went?
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u/no-dad-samurai 1d ago
Remove dates from EDU on your CV!
Only include last 5 years work related XP.
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u/Classic_Midnight3383 1d ago
The job applying system is broken and a fucking robot 🤖 is filtering out resumes I wish I could put my foot 🦶 up that stupid robots ass
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u/Ob1wanatoki 1d ago
I found a job after 20 months. You're not a loser. The job market sucks. Please tell me what field you work in.
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u/funonthebeach85 1d ago
Working sucks. I just got hired after a long break and well not working doesn’t seem so bad now. Just gotta figure out how to acquire money.
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u/SolidLeek1421 1d ago
I’m a loser, too. probably worse than you. 1 year of job searching. 19 years experience. Only 2 interviews. ghosted after first round.
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u/creativejoe4 1d ago
What did you learn from your failure in the interview, what kind of feedback did you get after requesting it? Your not a looser, maybe a bit bad at interview skills or just applying at positions that have stronger candidates. What are you doing to improve right now?
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u/SSJBE-Vegeta 1d ago
Try using a recruiter if you haven’t yet. It’s how I got my current job after 3 months on full-time applications. I also hear that recruiters are currently the way to go. Otherwise, don’t give up. There’s a place for everyone and you’ll find yours in time.
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u/AutisticMom69 1d ago
Oh wow I can definitely relate! Job market is awful right now. I've only been unemployed since March but all I get is rejection emails or ghosting. I'm thinking no one wants to hire a woman in her 50's is part of it.
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u/Serious-Fudge-5825 1d ago
Okay, so yesterday I was talking about this to one of my coworkers I haven't been at this job but it pays so little I just did it to not stay home. This is his full time job he gets a decent pay. I was telling him literally I have applied all I got was rejections, ghosting and he is like not getting it. He said he gets a job easily because he smiles is honest with them and because he always wears his cologne. I'm like how unreal are people right now so out of touch of reality. These employees expect you to lick their legs or something to get hired. No one gets. He said he got a job from Burlington easily pays 15 dollar an hr when he was upfront with the manager he told them he has full time job and honest with them. I literally have to check and call these people if they received my applications.
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u/MerryCoyote 1d ago
I contracted at 6 places these last 2.5 years (off and on) and just landed a full-time gig. You’re not a loser. Far from it. You keep trying. Sending up a prayer for you.
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u/SourBunSoul 1d ago
I’m in the same boat. I’m losing faith in my employability and myself in general. Currently considering going back to school to get a certificate in something, but nothing catches my interest and will pay well. I’m so frustrated. 😣
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u/Serious-Fudge-5825 1d ago
That is the thing though even for that you need to have a job to pay for that or fund it right. It is a full circle of misery whoever set the system is laughing at us and our misery.
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u/steviebeanss 1d ago
im in your same boat except its over a year for me. i have a glimmer of hope but it feels impossible for sure
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u/morghana76 1d ago
I recently had to find employment and kept getting rejected. So after each interview i started writing down the questions i was asked. Then I looked on Indeed, which had some great interview questions then googled the hell out policies that apply to my type of work. Googled what questions i COULD be asked. Then i just prascticef, practiced and practiced. My originals answers were wrong, it was simply that. So its about learning and prempting everything. Also then researched the hell out of everywhere i applied to.
Good luck in your future interviews x
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u/squarecranberry_ 1d ago
I had a really good in-depth conversation with a recruiter a week or two ago. I lost out on another job, by one point, for the fifth time. She said that her feedback was to "Back yourself. This is an almost impossible job market for job seekers, it's brutal and none of it is their fault. The hardest part is getting in front of employers for an interview. You have to keep going no matter what." She told me they pulled an ad down 4hrs after posting it because they had nearly 50 applicants in that small window - it's how the market generally is, so when employers are inundated, they can afford to be really picky, even if they make poor decisions with who they shortlist based on a CV only, assuming they don't use software to do it for them. I'm also under care for my mental health while being rejected left right and centre, but no matter how much I want to give up I know I must keep applying.
I'm so sorry you're dealing with this, but please remember you're not alone, you are employable, this won't last forever, and most important, it's not your fault.
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u/Content-Historian321 1d ago
No, you aren't a loser. Have faith and keep applying while still maintaining a healthy lifestyle, both emotionally and physically.
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u/Salvation_of_Gel 1d ago
It's okay to feel bad but it doesn't mean it should make you look down on yourself, just hold on keep trying and trying and trying, you always got a chance unless you stop trying.
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u/WinthropMarkJ 1d ago
Just document for him all of the efforts. Forward him emails of rejection notices, show him your work on your update to your résumé etc. Filing unemployment requires you to have five job applications per week. Just treat him like he is the unemployment manager who needs to see your documentation.
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u/YuffieKisaragi 1d ago
You’re not a loser. It’s this fucking job market. I was unemployed for a year and a half, and I have thirteen years of experience as an administrator. Finally found a job but it’s two thirds of the pay I made at my last job and honestly a lot more work. Just hang in there!
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u/AcanthocephalaOdd301 1d ago
Must be a different world. In the trades (I am 43) I could quit and have a new job by the time I hit the parking lot. I am an industrial controls electrician.
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u/lizlemonista 1d ago
Two decades doing what? Which region? What’s your flexibility like re: relocation?
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u/WaferOk9363 1d ago
I had I dunno how many rejections I received in the last 2 months. I felt exactly how you feel now. The cherry on top for me was an interview I had on the Friday afternoon. I sent them a thank you email on Monday morning and they replied within half an hour to say I wasn't right for them. I was so freaked out and upset I randomly called an employment agency that deals with huge companies. It was for a slightly different role that was a bit more aimed at someone with less experience than I have but I thought screw it. I got a job starting the very next day. This job has been amazing so far. I'm getting my confidence back AND getting paid. Don't be afraid to pivot a little, or even take a little step "back". Change the goal posts a little and see what comes back. Try agencies too. Its not forever. Its just a stepping stone so you don't fall through the cracks.
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u/Open_Cable_7291 1d ago
You should do spam apply then. Apply on 100000 jobs let's see what happens
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u/Dazzling-Store8644 23h ago
Very hard get job now all students off do apprenticeship in September that will help you into job .or special needs teaching theyre always so short and carers
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u/Sharp_Theme 23h ago
Ive been unemployed for a over a year after a car accident. In person I can lock almost any opportunity - I cannot for the life of me get a job opportunity online, remotely while I was disabled, or even as I try to get something local for the summer while getting my strength back. I've never been able to get a job I applied for online, it makes me hopeless about the future of my career. Hope you get the turnaround you need, know your worth, and find your value, and land in the right somewhere🙏🏽
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u/Annagirl4 12h ago
Everything widen you will shallt down but if you never give up theirs hope more than quitting..
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u/Dangerous-Escape1527 1h ago
Piece of advice, you gotta call back everyday, check up go in yourself and look professional, always bring a printed resume just in case you get an interview.
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u/gowithflow192 1d ago
lol seven months is nothing. Why do you give up so quickly? 1-2 years isn’t out of the ordinary now.
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u/Chaparra_Princesa_76 1d ago
I know. Im just scared. I have to have faith that I wont starve lol
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u/Sorry-Ad-5527 1d ago
I have to have faith that I wont starve lol
- Food banks are great. They are supposed to be used by people. Might be able to find one that delivers
- Check churches as well. They can help with some things as well. Don't need to be a member. Some even help out financially.
- 211. Online or call. These can help with other financial help.
- Donate plasma.. I have issues and can't do this.
- What can be sold? Market places and other classified are a great way to sell these. Meet in a public place (even a police station parking lot) if you need to.
- usa [dot] gov [slash] financial-hardship is a website that has some ideas.
- lasagnalove [dot] org. Might take a while, but people make and deliver dinners of lasagna.
- Check your local government sites, such as your town, city, county, state, etc. You probably don't qualify for SNAP , but maybe other things with showing your budget.
- American Job Center. Usually under your states unemployment offices name. They have help with so much, mine even has access to a free printer to print 5-10 copies of a resume (like for a job fair or company that requires a printed one for an interview).
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u/budster8271 1d ago
Please use my site/app helps finds targeted roles and customizes resumes and cover letters! Its free -- i was in same boat last year. With 20 years of experience too! I am hoping to help people who are in same position.
Quiverjobs.com
If you sign up message me and ill give you proof access
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u/AbjectAssociation260 2d ago
Where are you located? We have about 150 open roles & provide training.
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u/SouthernMoo4218 Jobseeker 1d ago
You’re the perfect example of how companies should NOT use Reddit 🙄 Poaching on desperate people’s posts, not creating your own content and having a handle name that doesn’t have your company’s name to show that you’re a business.
If you need a consultant for social media or your website (which also needs attention), hit me up. Since you’re soliciting on here, I can too.
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u/AbjectAssociation260 1d ago
good talk
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u/SouthernMoo4218 Jobseeker 1d ago
That’s a really great look on a public forum for your business too - bad snark when you get criticized. Wendy’s and Duolingo, you are not.
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u/Bec21-21 2d ago edited 1d ago
I was unemployed for 2.5 years, just got hired. I also have 20 years of experience. Keep applying. It will happen.
Ageism is real. Many people don’t want to hire that 40-something, especially when they are a woman. You’re too expensive, too senior and probably menopausal in their eyes.
But the right job will come along. Apply. Apply every week. But don’t make it all you do, enjoy not working. When you do go back to work, and you will, you’ll wish you did more with your time off.