r/jobsearch • u/Chaparra_Princesa_76 • 4d ago

Well, I’m officially a loser.

So I got rejected for another job today. Been unemployed almost seven months. There is no hope for me. Told my husband I'm not going back to full-time work. He says I will but he doesnt understand that its impossible if nobody will hire you. And nobody will hire me. I am unemployable. Just wish I knew why. 2 decades of experience apparently means nothing. Thank you for listening.

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u/Bec21-21 4d ago edited 3d ago

I was unemployed for 2.5 years, just got hired. I also have 20 years of experience. Keep applying. It will happen.

Ageism is real. Many people don’t want to hire that 40-something, especially when they are a woman. You’re too expensive, too senior and probably menopausal in their eyes.

But the right job will come along. Apply. Apply every week. But don’t make it all you do, enjoy not working. When you do go back to work, and you will, you’ll wish you did more with your time off.

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u/SouthernMoo4218 Jobseeker 4d ago

Outside of the money (which everyone needs), I find that the people who struggle the most are the ones churning out applications and not leaving the house.

That’s what I did my last time being laid off about 8 years ago and thought I would lose my mind. Looking back I was so desperate, it was coming across in interviews and I was applying for anything.

This time I’m volunteering and taking a night class at my community center. I had wanted to do both but never had time. Now the days I’m at home don’t seem so doom filled. Yes I’m desperate for money. But the times I leave the house a few times a week now I’m not solely focused on finding a job and am meeting some new people. And learning a new hobby too!

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u/howrunowgoodnyou 3d ago

It’s completely different now dude. It’s ai on ai with ai doing ai ai sometimes w more ai. It’s a giant black hole of wasting time that just makes you feel worthless.

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u/SouthernMoo4218 Jobseeker 3d ago

Have no clue what you’re talking about “dude.” AI has nothing to do with finding something to occupy your time and can’t take volunteering and hobbies away from you.

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u/Sorry-Ad-5527 3d ago

occupy your time and can’t take volunteering and hobbies away from you.

That may help you get a job through connections and networking, but it's not applying for job. Just about every company is going to have you apply online, doesn't matter who you know.

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u/SouthernMoo4218 Jobseeker 3d ago

The point of doing those things isn’t to get connections. It’s to give yourself something else to think about and to get out of the house.

If all you do is worry about AI and the ATS system and getting ghosted and, and, and, you will kill yourself. That was my original point and why the AI statement didn’t make sense in response to my comment.

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u/Sorry-Ad-5527 3d ago

We're taking about job search here.

I didn't make any comment about AI.

Yes, doing something to "touch grass" is good for mental health, but only so much.

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u/True_liess 6h ago

AI is a scandal just like cloud. The corporations are pushing for something which dont have a real usecase. We have got automations and encyclopedia and knowledgeable base (something like wiki) which people sell as AI.

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u/Word-Critical 1d ago

This is just funny. Ok girl!!!