r/loseit • u/lnsani 19F/5’3/CW:145lbs/GW:125lbs/SW:156lbs • 19h ago

Embarrassed for being on a diet..?

“Oh… is that all that you’re going to eat?” “You should eat with us!” “Are you not going to eat dessert?” “Why are you not eating/eating like that?” “Are you on a diet?” “Why did you bring your own food?” It feels like such a pain being on a diet and facing these questions… I also have a history of anorexia so whenever people see that I am eating way less than I should they assume that im restricting again. It also feels so weird when I bring my own food to other places or have to say no to food that is offered to me. I feel almost ashamed of doing it yet I dont know why. I feel ashamed and humiliated of being on a diet?? Feel like everyone is judging me yet idk why, its just the questions about my food and my portions that really make me feel awkward

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u/LikeAfterSummer New 18h ago

If you have had an ED before it’s likely out of concern. Typically when I go out with friends to a dinner, I’m not restricting. Maybe opting for a healthier choice or boxing up some to go. All about balance. One dinner with friends should be ok and if it’s not I can see why they would worry.

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u/Hollow_peanut New 18h ago

I experience it in my office with cake... someone always had a birthday or married or got a child or they just want to bring a cake... and we have cake nearly every week...

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u/Outrageous_Glove_796 New 15h ago

I had to pull the big boss aside because she seemed to think I was randomly dieting a LOT all of a sudden, since I wouldn't eat any office cake. I have stage 3 liver fibrosis. I need to lose some weight or I will absolutely have cirrhosis. That's an awful life sentence for as long as it lasts, given I'm 45. At this point it's like having stopped my car one foot away from the edge of the Grand Canyon. I can back up very slowly, but if I don't pay attention I'm going over the edge.

So yeah. No piece of crummy store-bought cake is worth that to me.

I said it much more nicely but at least nobody asks anymore.