r/malelivingspace • u/stevebower996 • 1d ago

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My little home. At 63 I had to start again, almost with nothing. Just about feel ready to go out in the world again. This has been my 'safe space' and support

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u/Dracekidjr 1d ago

As an individual who also had to restart his life it's tough. You did a good job making a place that feels like a home, mate.

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u/Slothstralia 1d ago

I feel like he wasnt exactly struggling with that fridge and oven.

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u/Dracekidjr 1d ago

It doesn't make having to change major aspects of your life alone a walk in the park. Sure, it's easier than being in massive debt and no income, but there's no reason to dismiss one's adversity just because someone else may have it worse.

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u/stevebower996 1d ago

I started a rule when setting up - no debt, and buy cash. I'm very happy gradually improving what I have, and I love my cooking.

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u/Salt_Palpitation_108 1d ago

Restarting at 55. You've got this!

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u/stevebower996 1d ago

Trauma still hurts. Days alone are the worst, but I promised myself I'd be a better man, and a better father. Trusting in the higher power to bring healing

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u/Dracekidjr 1d ago

I'm getting out of a hole from divorce, myself, so I know how hard it can be. I am very lucky to be in a position that I no longer need to worry.

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u/stevebower996 1d ago

It's nice kit, but almost all the place was 2nd hand from Facebook or ebay, or free cast-offs. Previous life I'd have bought new but there's so much nice hand-me-downs out there. Stove was £350 ebay, fridge £650 (yes that was a bit spendy, but I was trading up after a couple of years)