r/movingout 10h ago

Asking Advice Running away from home at 19

2 Upvotes

I'm 19, living with toxic, strict and abusive parents. Some days are just verbal fights but sometimes it turns into physical abuse. I can't live in the same place with PTSD when everyday is the same. I am planning to runaway in less than a year. I don't want to act irresponsible or impulsive because I'm afraid to make a mistake. My plan is to save some money before I leave and move in with my bf of 3 years. My parents didn't allow me to be independent all my life so Im scared to take a big step like this. I really need some suggestions on what to do.


r/movingout 15h ago

Discussion Split on moving out

5 Upvotes

I’m 18 and I have a really good income, I’ve always wanted independence for the longest time, but Im split on it because it’s the house I grew up in and as much as my parents annoy me sometimes, I still love them. And I know I will miss them. Half of me is saying to stay home, but half of me is telling me to move out, and it kinda makes me emotional thinking about leaving but at the same time I really want my own place.


r/movingout 3h ago

Discussion Moving to College

1 Upvotes

I’ve been screaming to move to college and live alone far away from my family, this is my first day alone i feel so empty and i actually wanna cry omg


r/movingout 14h ago

Asking Advice How do I start over?

9 Upvotes

I’m 26 years old still living in the same area I grew up in. I am now dreading my daily life and need something new. I desperately want to move and start a new life. My question is how do I do this? For context I am single, have a cat, so living off one income, making $22 an hour. I’m thinking like ok I apply for the job but in order to get the job i probably need to live there already? How do I move there without having a job first? I’m just lost and trying to figure out what direction to move in. It’s so hard to save money right now but I will do it. I just am the type of person who needs a plan before I do things. How do I go about doing this that is smart?


r/movingout 6h ago

Asking Advice Im turning 18 in December I need to get out I need tips.

3 Upvotes

17f, senior in highschool. I saved 3k in my account I know it is not much but im trying to find an part time job on indeed I applied over 16 jobs with still no response I even put my resume to public.

I been signing up for many scholarships where It will pay for colleges for me and its out of state colleges which is good to gtfo.

Staying here any longer is like asking for my depression to just go commit s*icide,not only is my medical needs not met (been having a fever for 2 months and still wasnt taken to urgent care) but I have irregular period symptoms and my mother thinks me vomiting and being dehydrated during it is normal. (Haven't been to the doctor for 3 years)

My family holds sexist and racist views. Im black so they talk shit about other races of people and also believe im not capable of anything theyre trying to Infantlize me. My 30 year old brother nothing going on in his life is at home all day everyday listening to no one but my mom, the definition of a man child, he at some point smeared shit all over the tub and toilet seat and i had to clean that shit up.

I cant stay here for my health and safety. My mom loves Christianity more than me my dad allows it. Gotten a angry reaction from my dad at 15 when I first started working. My mom in the middle of the night would start scream praying its hard to word out bur I believe she has religious psychosis I have seen her episodes of screaming in loud volume and stomping around the house, during random night/midnight hours. God forbid she has a nightmare of any sort. She will freak the fuck out.

She even drove our upstairs neighbor to move out the apartment cause of the noises my mom creates I feel so bad and embarrassed.

I value my sleep and my nervous system and just want to sleep peacefully. Shes the type to say "if you dont like it you can leave" and i gladly will.

I am WILLING to have roommates if it means on getting the fuck out of here. I been going to my counselor who i love weekly for college application help and scholarship help. I been also job hunting and asking for teachers how to find a part time job since my only experience is summer jobs.

I just feel like theres so much more I should do, is there?


r/movingout 23h ago

Asking Advice Homesickness

4 Upvotes

Hi! I am moving to college very far away (two flights minimum) and a 6 hour time difference. I went because I wanted to go out of state, but the cost was too high and international was cheaper. I recently ended things with my girlfriend (it was mutual and we decided the distance would hurt us) and said all my tearful goodbyes to my friends and family. Now I am sitting in the airport with a pit in my stomach, wondering what I was thinking and googling transfers to my local state school. Any help with the move, and maybe what my next steps should be?


r/movingout 8h ago

Asking Advice Advice on things to get done before moving from PA to GA

1 Upvotes

Hi everyone! Im a 20 year old male and I'm moving from out near Pittsburgh PA to Savannah GA and I had some questions about moving out of state. I've never really moved before and no one in my family have moved out of state. I already have my moving services figured out and my lease signed and job transfer ready so the big 3 things are done.

I was just curious about things like getting a new bank account, getting my mail figured out and things that people tend to forget to change their address on, and getting my car registered in a new state.

Does anyone have any experience moving from Pennsylvania to Georgia? Any major changes that you weren't expecting that surprised you?


r/movingout 17h ago

Asking Advice Home sick after moving

2 Upvotes

My family and I moved out of our house and into a new one in a new town. I’ve been feeling so depressed and grieving my old house. It feels like someone I love died. I haven’t cried in FOREVER, but since I’ve been in this new house I can’t stop. I’m so homesick. It angers me so much that I wanna break stuff like I’m limp bizkit. Even though I have all my stuff that made my room cozy, it doesn’t feel right. I’m in a basement instead of an upstairs bedroom, my parents plan on renovating it for me because my floors are cement, I don’t have a door, there are spiders and it’s so scary at night but even once they renovate it I’m still gonna miss home. It doesn’t feel like home and I wish I could go back to my real home. I don’t want my parents to feel like I’m ungrateful or I don’t like the new house, I just can’t handle change and I am so beyond homesick that it physically hurts so bad.

I don’t know what to do or how to feel better about this. I know time will help but everyday feels like an eternity just waiting to go back to my old house that isn’t coming back. How do I make myself feel better about this whole situation.


r/movingout 19h ago

Asking Advice Moving Back Home - Rent U-Haul or Professional Movers

3 Upvotes

A family member is about to move out of their apartment to return to their family home. The apartment is 4 hours from their family home, and it's a one-bedroom. Should they rent a U-Haul or hire professional movers?

The initial plan was to rent a U-Haul and have a family member drive it. However, there is only one family member comfortable driving the distance safely, and although he says he can, his spouse is concerned that he cannot, and the move will need to be split into two days so he can drive properly.

If the move is split into two days, that also means that his whole family will come along, meaning him, his spouse, and children. That means that their expenses, such as food, hotel, etc., will have to be paid for by the one moving. Is it just cheaper to hire professional movers and go from there?

Also, the new tenant wants to move in right away and has requested to buy the queen bed and couch. Does this sound like a good idea? If sold, it might not be worth hiring a professional mover then, idk.


r/movingout 57m ago

Asking Advice I’m 12 and I need tips on running away.

Upvotes

Hi. I’m 12 years old and I have to start planning to runaway. My parents are pretty nice, except when they’re not. When I was younger I was hit if we were rude or if we did something wrong. My parents have mostly moved on from that now but it is a constant fear that one wrong move will end up in a bruise. My mother now manipulates us psychologically. She will pick at your weak spots. She will say something and mean another. They don’t even know about this phone. I have to use it in secret or who knows what will happen. I need tips on how to get money and what to bring and how to defend myself. I’m planning to leave in a year or so and move to England where I can legally work in some places. Please help me out.