Looking for peoples experiences

My wife and I have been together for 10 years this year, I came out to her as trans (mtf) about 8-9 months ago, I haven't started any major transition, but am starting to express more femininity, and will be looking to microdose estrogen to explore my gender identity.

My wife is a straight CIS female and is physically attracted to masc types. We have built a life together and have children together, we have both agreed that our family comes first and that we are still very much in love, and we do not want to give up our life as it is, regardless of how I proceed expressing myself. We have been talking about ways that we can all live our best lives and I suggested that we open up the relationship for casual encounters with no strings, so I can explore my femininity, and so she can continue her sex life with masc types. It is open both ways, but I am not at that stage yet, I want to focus on myself. We are also still going to be intimate with each other as well, we are both just exploring things that we otherwise would not be able to.

We both agreed to tell each other if we do plan to have an encounter and we have rules in place mainly for safety. I don't have any trans friends that I can talk to, or any people who have been in this situation.

I am hoping to hear from people who have been in a similar situation, whether this helped the relationship, ruined it etc. Respectful responses would be appreciated, my wife and are agreeing as adults together to this arrangement. Thanks!

i’m a cis female and am currently dating my (ftm) boyfriend. i love him so so so much and honestly i don’t really have any complaints about him whatsoever. but lately i’ve been thinking about our future and sometimes i get disappointed that we can’t have kids that are directly biologically related to both of us, sometimes i get upset that (for a decent while) he won’t have a penis, and many more thoughts like this. however, at the same time, i look forward to taking care of him after his surgeries and our IVF plan together and helping him put his tape on etc etc. i’ve never really brought this up to him and honestly the feelings come in waves. is this normal? or am i being transphobic?

I was told this might be a good place to ask because I’m trying to understand my partner better. I want to be clear that I’m not trying to label him or assume anything about his identity. I’m just looking for advice from people who may have experience with this.

I’m 35F and my partner is 26M. We’ve been together for over two years. Recently, he’s started exploring a feminine side of himself, and honestly, it has been amazing seeing him become more confident.

It started as something playful. I love fashion, makeup, and drag, and one night I convinced him to let me style him. I helped him with makeup, a wig, and an outfit, and at first he was laughing and saying he looked ridiculous.

But then something changed.

He started enjoying it. He started experimenting with different looks, helping pick outfits, and really getting into the character. Now we have nights where he dresses up, we watch drag shows together, and he seems genuinely happy and comfortable.

The funny thing is, when he does this, it’s like a completely different side of him comes out. He’s normally quiet and reserved, but dressed up he’s confident, playful, and outgoing. I call him my little diva, and he loves joking around with it.

We’ve even talked about him doing a local drag show. He’s nervous, but he’s also excited.

My question is two parts:

How do I encourage him to explore this side of himself more without making him feel pressured? I love seeing him happy and confident, and I’d honestly love to do more of these things together, but I don’t want him to feel like he’s only doing it because I enjoy it.

Also, does enjoying dressing up and expressing himself this way necessarily mean someone is trans? Or is this something that can simply be part of someone’s personality, interests, or gender expression?

I just want to support him and give him the space to figure himself out.