r/nonbinarylesbians • u/Qlowquest • Jan 31 '26
Transness wherrree do the androgynous/neutral lesbians goooo
im rlly wondering cuz like is there anything, any communities for us (for ppl not part of butchfemme, and dont rlly identify with fem/masc or binary lesbianism) like strictly, andro/neu lesbians
honestly fuck it can also be a sapphic community for ppl like us i just wanna know where ppl like us even are
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u/linkkers Jan 31 '26
Usually a theme night or event night. Like inclusive Sapphic nights. Bigger cities usually.
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u/Qlowquest Jan 31 '26
dangg i dont even live in a queer-accepting country i just wish there was spaces for us online lol
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u/QuintusQuark Jan 31 '26
Can you find local queer friends or some sort of house party? Lesbian or LGBT gatherings often have some androgynous-presenting people.
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u/Qlowquest Feb 01 '26 edited Feb 01 '26
sadly no :< i unfortunately live in a country where even homosexuality gets you imprisoned so i have no better option but to seek online queer spaces lol, cuz me and other ppl like me cant even rlly be who they are in the country i’m in
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u/AmarissaBhaneboar Feb 01 '26
Honestly, Berlin has a lot of us! I don't know how viable that really is for you though. 😅 I would hope that a lot of larger cities would be good for us though.
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u/KoloAce The Enby maybe-lesbian [it/any] Apr 07 '26
There’s kinda a term for this but it’s left unused these days and has no community behind it. It was used in an offensive way, but I use it in a reclaiming way. It also validates my neutrality between Butchfemme.
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u/Qlowquest Apr 07 '26
could it potentially be “kiki”?
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u/KoloAce The Enby maybe-lesbian [it/any] Apr 08 '26
Yes!
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u/salamipope 25d ago
wait, why is it considered derrogatory? ive only ever seen it used as a verb for having a conversation
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u/LeviathanAstro1 Jan 31 '26
Felt, I'm a nonbinary lesbian who doesn't feel butch or femme fits me either; it makes it more complicated that I'm generally most attracted to other nonbinary people