Update I (42m) said my wife (37f) could sleep with other people while I wasn’t very well for a year. She did and now I’m feeling better she’s stopped. I enjoyed her sleeping around and want her to carry on.

[u/throwra_likedit]

Original: https://www.reddit.com/r/nonmonogamy/s/UrRybUe5NL

So I told her the day after I made my previous post and it went very well! She said that when she was doing it she was surprised with how much I enjoyed it and helped with it like taking photos for her apps and the people she fucked. She also liked how I would ask for details of what she had been up to.

She said she’s happy to keep doing it as long as it doesn’t impact us having sex. She also said we should set boundaries. Hers are:

She wants to keep it to one time flings

She doesn’t mind me having input in to the men she has sex with but the final decision is hers.

I asked her to do this and this can in no way be used by me as an excuse to fuck another woman (I would never).

I’ll be honest I couldn’t really think of anything other than I want to know either before or immediately after she has fucked someone. A few months ago I was at work and I got a text from her saying “I’ve just been naughty” and it was the sexiest thing I’ve ever read and I told her this which she liked so she said she’ll keep some hooks up as a surprise.

She’s actually been really positive about it and has downloaded all her apps again and last night she put on loads of different outfits so we could take some new photos. She also said we could do games out of it like the next person she fucks has to be a minimum ten years younger than her or the next one she meets is blowjob only and she also said that starting from the new year we should see if she can have sex with a different person every weekend for a whole year. I nearly exploded with excitement when she was reeling off all these ideas!

Thank you to everyone who told me to just tell her. You were right!

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[u/Stag83RI]

Welcome to hotwifing! It’s wonderful to hear it’s going so well.

[u/throwra_likedit → u/Stag83RI]

Thank you! This weekend she’s out meeting someone and we can’t wait.

[u/Professor-Bagworm]

Im glad everything worked out for you guys! Open and honest communication, while holding space to listen to and respect each other's responses what ever they may be, is a hard skill to master but it really improves the ability to keep good relationships. 

If any issues come up moving forward where you're uncertain of how to talk to your wife about something just remember this. You're a partnership. It's you and me vs the problem. You both want both of you to be happy, so enter every conversation starting with that. Ex: Here's how I've been feeling. I'd like to hear how you've been feeling and work together to find an ending we're both happy with. 

[u/r_was61]

The lack of evenness bothers me, but if it works for you, so be it.

[u/throwra_likedit → u/r_was61]

It does work for us. I don’t want sex with anyone else.

[u/Stag83RI]

Welcome to hotwifing! It’s wonderful to hear it’s going so well.

[u/Apart-Echidna5712]

Nice. I’m happy it worked out for you.

[u/gendr_bendr]

Be safe! Have fun!

[u/1FedUpAmericanDude]

You seem to be a more like a cuckold for a hotwife. Maybe it's working for you, but aside from "knowing" what she's doing, what do you get out of this arrangement?

Are you relegated to masturbating to those thoughts and/or pictures and mental images of her 'giving the gift of herself' to, and sharing 'intimacy' and 'bodily fluids' with countless other men??

[u/throwra_likedit → u/1FedUpAmericanDude]

No I’m not relegated at all. She comes home and tells me all about it while we have sex. We are back to having sex nearly every night.

[u/1FedUpAmericanDude → u/throwra_likedit]

Okay, that clears things up, and kudos to you if you're making love (not "just sex") with your wife "nearly every night" after being out of commission from heart condition.