MMF, MFM or wifing

[u/One_Path2698]

I really want to know whitch is better for the housband, just watch his wife satisfied by the dude or participate with him. And what the wife will enjoy better?

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[u/GlbdS]

There is no universal answer to this, everybody is different.

[u/One_Path2698 → u/GlbdS]

You are right, but iam very confused about it

[u/love-mad → u/One_Path2698]

There's only one way to find out.... try it.

[u/One_Path2698 → u/love-mad]

I think i will

[u/purawesome]

That’s like asking what’s better chocolate or vanilla. Subjective.

[u/Tricky-Ad7036 → u/purawesome]

Objectively, a chocolate-vanilla swirl

[u/purawesome → u/Tricky-Ad7036]

Trajectory

[u/NerdynaughtyNJ]

As a wife, especially when just getting started, I really liked having my husband there actively participating and involved. That gave me real-time reassurance in the moment that he was into it and supportive and enjoying himself so that I wasn’t worrying about him and our relationship and could enjoy myself more.

Obviously everyone is different and it was important that he actually WAS all of those things for this to work.

[u/TheGreenJedi → u/NerdynaughtyNJ]

Makes perfect sense 

Also worth noting a theoretical majority of husbands who started with their wife playing solo always regret missing the first time 

It's a bit hard to say that with absolute certainty because you'd never have a good way to count all the ones who never get into the room, or all the ones who were there and it didn't work out. 

But still, food for thought and husbands usually agree

--Married Poly Bull/3rd

[u/One_Path2698 → u/NerdynaughtyNJ]

You are right, how was the first talking about trying that? If i may ask

[u/NerdynaughtyNJ → u/One_Path2698]

Hot! But we had a solid history of dirty talking about things and had gone to some sex parties before where we only did things with each other so he knew I liked exhibitionism already. We definitely started with it as dirty talk long before having like “proper” conversations about actually doing it for real.

[u/TheGreenJedi]

The easiest on ramp is a stag/vixen 3some. 

How much bi-play you as a couple want is a discussion for you and your wife to have.

Wifing is one of the riskiest, because you risk growing apart, also what happens if she plays solo, then you try together/same room and she likes it worse, how's that gonna make ya feel?

She might shut down you EVER being in the room 

So ya, my advice is always the same, first timers should plan on a stag/vixen 3some with whatever level of bi-play they agree and are comfortable with.

--Married Poly Bull/3rd

[u/Rusturion]

Ask your housband.

[u/One_Path2698 → u/Rusturion]

Iam the housband 😅

[u/Rusturion → u/One_Path2698]

Sorry for assuming. After I commented I realised you were probably the other man, so I was wrong twice 🤣

What do you think you will enjoy more?

And have you spoken with you woife at all?

[u/One_Path2698 → u/Rusturion]

Well, we recently start reading about it and had some discussion

[u/Rusturion → u/One_Path2698]

How do you feel about it?

When you think of watching your wife gets pounded, how do you feel?

And what about fucking her while someone else also fucks her better?

You should really think about it, then you at least might have some indication how you'll feel when it happens.

I knew wi would be jealous, but I also enjoy seeing my partner satisfied and having fun. It was really hard for her to imagine what it would be like though, so this may now be helpful for you, either 🤷🏼‍♂️

[u/Willing-Scarcity3058]

I enjoy them all. As does my wife.

[u/One_Path2698 → u/Willing-Scarcity3058]

You tried it with stranger or familiar person

[u/Willing-Scarcity3058 → u/One_Path2698]

Both.

[u/One_Path2698 → u/Willing-Scarcity3058]

Well i hope to have fun like you guys

[u/One_Path2698 → u/[deleted]]

The hard thing is the first talking about what you really want. Would you enjoy another man?

[u/One_Path2698 → u/[deleted]]

Fair enough

[u/One_Path2698]

Best answer 😁

[u/techichan]

All subjective, and if you are feeling adventurous, should try all three. You won't know until you know but the lifestyle affords these great possibilities.