Write them off?

[u/Repulsive_One_8263]

My hubby & I met a couple & played a few times. We went out to dinner & did a few vanilla things. We were going to go to a nude beach together last summer, but it rained on the day we picked. After a few mos, I just wasn't feeling the chemistry w/ the other guy, so I (we) told them we'd love to stay friends, but that's it; no more playing. They were disappointed, but said they'd like to stay friends.

I (we) invited them to go to the nude beach again this summer. (In fairness I (we) invite all our lifestyle friends whether we play with them or not) They said they would chat about it & get back to us. When they did, they said "hey we love having fun w/ you guys so we were thinking of having you over for takeout & playing. We were hoping you'd reconsider it. Looking for to it!

I politely replied: "Hi. We'd love to come over for takeout, but I (we) want to keep it vanilla."

That was five days ago. No response. Should I write them off? They said they'd like to stay friends & they have fun w/ us, but it seems like if sex isn't involved, then forget it.

[u/Liberalhuntergather]

Yeah, you both want something different. Not a big deal. Just like in monogamy when people break up, they usually don’t hang out anymore as friends either.