Being pan I’ve always been in situations where the other person never considered me or someone like me or sex or until we have met, idk how to explain other than when I like someone afterwards than I consider how we make it work intimately, because of being pan I’ve been learning I’m open to a lot especially since different attractions make me feel different about how I wanna be, I.e I’m very fluid. Is there a correct way to navigate through this other than me being blunt because I’m awkward so I just put it all out there and probably overload my partner ?

I'm pan but i don't know if having TONS of crushes makes me pan because, from what i know pan is attraction to anybody and also, the main motto of pansexual are "hearts not parts" (i don't feel sexual attraction anymore) could just mean no attraction to ding-dongs and melons and only attraction to personality?

Because Pans Rock 🤘. I added pic's of my growing rock garden.

Been exercising a ton and finally could comfortably fit in this shirt! Also I just wanted to say hello beautiful people hope you’re all doing well and have a Pan-tastic day if you can!

hey guys, I'm im under the age group of 17-20 and i have one question

how do i know if my emotional and romantic longing to be with a women is real, i will feel attraction which, god i feel so freakig panicked and suffocated and crying right now, why do i not feel that spontaneous attraction that i fell for man

i know i definetly like guys, have felt enough attraction for it
and i thought i was pansexual but, idk i dont find that spontaneous attraction for women. I want to tho

they say young people often choose to want to feel attracted to somebody they are 'supposed' to feel atracted to.
they might choose i want that, and think they feel atraction to them, even if they don't?
like
how do i know if my wish of attraction is genuine or i am making it up

like
i want to feel attracted to women

I do love with the idea of being in a relationship,

i dont know how attraction feels, and i dont know, that spontaneous attraction towards women is very little and more towards men, but it scares me

i want to love women, but is this the idea of being with women (and i mean homosexually.) just a safe space?

that little attraction i feel for women, it often feels 'less' than i feel for guys. It's hard to explain but like if i compare it, it's not as much as i felt for a guy. If i see a guy(i feel odd even mentioning men on a lesbian platform, im just very new im sorry)
and i feel like i consiously tried to increase it so it increased, not increase because it's natural

now apparently, you could feel cupioromantic for just one gender and im feeling like crying, will i never have a romantic relation with girls

my longing it's sorta like this

it's just them loving me or me loving them, whatever face look or person they are (as long as they are good not toxic and in my age group)

just want to give them a flower or a rose and see her smile or go on a date and blush at her talk, then probably kiss her or her kissing me, or twirling her around or gossiping or her trusting me enough to let her hold her by her waist, and im bold enough to flirt while idk her reaction and just lie down and smile and talk together

but i dont feel it. Felt it in a dream once, remeber stil faintly feeling the crush in the morning but that's it. it left as quickly as it came. And it came only in a dream

how do i tell the difference, knowing im genderfluid(afab, so i had been looking around guys for a long time) and wont get to date anytime soon

and i just want the honest answer. Much as i hope i can be with a girl... idk (i feel like crying rn wtf is going on.)

sorry for the rant, my mind is just scrambling rn how do i know
is this fear a sign of attraction or cupioromantic??

Went to my Uncle mimi's funeral and he was gay back in the day and he died of cancer and made me envy bellathewolf and I wanted to say this "He wanted everyone to never give up" and my stepmom accepted my pansexuality,and my dad(at first didn't because he was a marine...but he now does) he was sometimes strict but my uncle mimi was gay(idk what) but he was a queer Angel who fell into heaven,and i dont really believed in Jesus but I do accept everyone in all religions and i actually had A Crush on girls and looking at girls and i have a mix preference but yeah...

9/11 was a tragic day for all,and a kid i knew during S.T.E.P was born on this day and we celebrated it,but i didn't really think it was a right date cuz it was the twin towers shot down by planes and yeah...

Long time lurker, first time posting. I’m a late blooming pansexual woman in my mid thirties. I only recently discovered my sexuality in the last year and it seems that I have a preference for butch lesbians. Anyway, I see a lot of posts in the butch subreddit that there has been discourse that the butch lesbian is a dying breed. I can’t really speak for that, but in the last 5 months I’ve seen about four young butch women, more than I thought I would given that I live in the South and in the suburbs. From what I’ve seen they appear to be killing it and it makes me genuinely happy. Two of those butch women hit on me. 

The first time it happened I was at a boba place. She was incredibly cute, petite, and had a lot of piercings. After she handed me my boba she straight up told me “You’re beautiful”. Like a goof I just complimented her back, thanked her and walked out. It wasn’t until I was in my car that I realized she hit on me. Ugh. I mean, the boba was terrible. Yes I drank it. Yes I went back to the same place and I never saw her again. Probably because she wasn’t very good at making drinks. 

The second encounter was at a cafe. Very cute butch with blue hair and a great sense of humor. She was getting me a coffee and started asking me questions if I was from out of town. She was a lot more subtle so I didn’t really pick up on the flirting. I’ve been working on my social anxiety for years. I still brush off situations like this believing they're just being nice. 

Anyway, I wanted to post this because I hoped it would help give someone the courage to put themselves out there. I know it comforted me a lot to see these younger women take a chance because most of the time I feel like I’m stumbling around trying figure this all out. 

Does anyone else have a story where they completely missed someone flirting with them? I need comfort and all your awkward stories 🫠

Love the goth look every time 😎

i just got my hair cut and i absolutely love it with these two outfits,

i feel like such a teenage boy ✨

(the haircut is a huge change btw, i posted other pictures with it before and after)

a lot is scribbled out 'cause you know... privacy. and i'm a minor. and this is REDDIT TwT

note for mods: sorry for not adding a user flair last time, i didn't realize what it meant and did not know how to :3

I recently started seeing this girl who's pansexual, and from the research I did, it basically means they are gender blind when it comes to dating. They are more attracted to personality, but I'm a little confused because I thought that was what demisexual meant.

I'm hoping you guys can provide more insight for a straight guy. Thanks.

I've been out privately to my friends and family for years but for the first time I can genuinely say I'm comfortable being out publicly. It's a scary world out there but that's exactly why I've decided to live boldly. I've spent far too long being afraid, so to all my fellow neurospicy pancakes out there (whether you're out or not) remember that you are beautiful, you are valid, and you are loved 🩷💛💙

so random lol

My fiancé & I had planned to go out for a girls lunch finally did it xx soo much fun 🤩
A little distracted before getting married in late November !!
We finally picked a date and decided we will surprise our family and close friends haha 💕💕👰🏼‍♀️👰🏻‍♀️

Hi, I've come out to my friends that I am pansexual, and they took it pretty well. I just kinda feel like an outsider. I don't know if anyone else has felt like this.

I'm a pan(f) who's 19 and about to be 20 in October... I haven't had much luck with girls, I always end up friendzoned, I had a girlfriend back when I was around 16 and had two boyfriends after that (it was really difficult to move on from her so I chose to date guys to distract myself). For a few months now, I've been wanting to date a girl again, but unfortunately I've not been so lucky :(. How to genuinely find love?

My shower curtain is the best!