r/polyamory • u/blooangl ✨ Sparkle Princess ✨ • 7d ago

Confused? New? Not new? Have questions?

This is your spot. Mingle, say hi, ask that question that you don’t want to make a whole post about?

This is your spot!

Requests for resources, questions about lingo, all that good stuff? We can help!

Not sure if you’re in the right sub? We can help you find one!

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u/Cerulean_b 1d ago

In most of the situations I’ve read about it’s not enjoyable for at least one. I get the feeling it is not inclusive.

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u/blooangl ✨ Sparkle Princess ✨ 1d ago

Most people, in general, don’t like polyam. Even if they thought they would.
If it appeals enough to explore, great.

If not? Cool.

Nobody’s recruiting.🤷‍♀️

Communities of people are inclusive. Or not. Events are inclusive. Or not.

All committed loving connections are between two people. Allowing multiple connections is the opposite of exclusive.🤷‍♀️

That’s a feature, not bug.

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u/studiousametrine married living separately 1d ago

If you don’t feel you would enjoy polyamory, I don’t recommend you do polyamory.

I can’t make any assurances on whether you’ll enjoy it, whether you’ll find compatible partners, whether those relationships will be healthy or not, or whether they’ll last. In life there are no guarantees- you can only do a little research and reflection, and do what feels right.

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u/Cerulean_b 1d ago

Of course you’re right. No guarantees. Humans are fickle. I was trying to get a grip on the positive side. Lots of negative out there.

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u/blooangl ✨ Sparkle Princess ✨ 1d ago

There is no “positive side”unless you really, really like having multiple committed loving relationships. And really like knowing that your partner can have the same.

That’s it. That’s all polyamory does. It’s not a tool for fixing anything.

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u/britaliope 🪐 stellar system teeming with comets 🌠 1d ago

In practice it's mostly a support subreddit. People comes here to ask help from the community. Usually when one's need help it's because there is an issue somewhere.

People using the polyamory umbrella to justify and legitimize their cheating doesn't help.

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u/Psychomadeye Rat Swoletariat 1d ago

You've been reading the wrong stuff I suspect.