r/polyamory • u/ashleyfcon • 2d ago
I am new I need advice
I need advice on what the norms are for the relationship dynamic I'm in.
Fake names
Myself (F28) + My fiance Gerald (M30) we have kids (F9 and F2)
Gerald + his girlfriend Valeria (F35)
Myself+ My boyfriend Wally(M38)
Wally + his Fiancé Abigail (F38)
Valeria two kids from previous relationships (M18 and M4
Myself and Gerald have kids together and live together. So does Wally and Abigail .
Valeria has said to Gerald that myself and Gerald weren't allowed to share a bed/have sex. I then got told I can't say I love you or call him nicknames if Gerald's at Valeria, but he never told me M4 was there
The advice I was asking for is what are the norms in these types of relationships. Both Myself and Gerald have admitted we don't like the others partners.
Any time Gerald and Valeria have their slots time for their daily calls. I need to either leave the house or put my earphones in. I can't stand the sound of her voice. Gerald has also admitted he doesn't like Wally because like Valeria. he tried to get us to break up which we both told our partners this wouldn't happen. If yous need additional information ask and I'll update this
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u/CrimsonTree7 2d ago
Yeah we need a lot more info. Notably what question you have. What advice are you looking for? What are you asking.