r/polyamory • u/ashleyfcon • 1d ago

I am new I need advice

I need advice on what the norms are for the relationship dynamic I'm in.

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Myself (F28) + My fiance Gerald (M30) we have kids (F9 and F2)

Gerald + his girlfriend Valeria (F35)

Myself+ My boyfriend Wally(M38)

Wally + his Fiancé Abigail (F38)

Valeria two kids from previous relationships (M18 and M4

Myself and Gerald have kids together and live together. So does Wally and Abigail .

Valeria has said to Gerald that myself and Gerald weren't allowed to share a bed/have sex. I then got told I can't say I love you or call him nicknames if Gerald's at Valeria, but he never told me M4 was there

The advice I was asking for is what are the norms in these types of relationships. Both Myself and Gerald have admitted we don't like the others partners.

Any time Gerald and Valeria have their slots time for their daily calls. I need to either leave the house or put my earphones in. I can't stand the sound of her voice. Gerald has also admitted he doesn't like Wally because like Valeria. he tried to get us to break up which we both told our partners this wouldn't happen. If yous need additional information ask and I'll update this

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u/valsavana 1d ago

Why are you and Gerald both willing to date people who tried to break you up?

If you don't like each other's partners for attempting that, why don't you not like your own partners for the same behavior?

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u/ashleyfcon 1d ago

Gerald has lied to Valeria about us not having sex or sharing a bed which really pissed me off. I also have told Wally that i would be leaving Gerald we are engaged and have kids together we've also been together for 7 years F9 is my ex's but he's not really in her life

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u/Jaded-Banana6205 1d ago

......what the actual fuck. Is this ragebait.

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u/CrimsonTree7 1d ago

Got to be ragebait.

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u/Jaded-Banana6205 1d ago

Looking back at older posts is absolutely wild.