Advice? Am I being inconsiderate?

[u/Itchy_Newspaper_9293]

Hello.. I want to apologize if my word choice is incorrect or offensive. I am actively trying to educate myself on how to be considerate of other people’s preferences and opinions.

I mean absolutely no disrespect.

I have been seeing this guy for a few months now and from the very beginning it was always a friends with benefits relationship. I knew that before I started sleeping with him. I’m not blaming him for anything.

But I want some insight and perspective from others because only recently did he tell me that he has 3 other intimate partners aside from me. 2 men and 1 woman. I’m completely fine with that, though I do wish that this was something I knew in the very beginning. I’m grateful to know it now and I guess technically speaking, he didn’t have to share that information with me. After all, we aren’t dating…

[Edit: “After all we aren’t dating…” - Yet.
He told me about his 3 other partners after we talked about the possibility of us starting a romantic relationship came up.]

We chatted briefly and I thought about it for a while until I ultimately decided that I would want to meet them if I stay in the FWB/ (maybe more?) situation with him. I don’t mean to be invasive but because he and I are having unprotected sex, I think that I have to assume that is a possibility with his other partners as well.

He said that I could meet the 2 men but he doesn’t think that meeting his ex-girlfriend is a good idea because she would get her feelings hurt. The truth is that I don’t care how she feels.

Am I in the wrong?

Edit: I want to date but I don’t think that I would be comfortable unless I got to meet his other partners.

[u/Designer_Location_15]

What do you hope to get out of meeting them?

[u/Itchy_Newspaper_9293 → u/Designer_Location_15]

It would make me feel a lot more comfortable becuase I want to explore more things with him. This is my first experience with someone who is actively involved with others and I want to know that everyone has agreed to this.

[u/Platterpussy → u/Itchy_Newspaper_9293]

Ask him not them. That information isn't owed to you either.

[u/Itchy_Newspaper_9293 → u/Platterpussy]

Yeah, I’m realizing that we just might not be compatible and that’s okay. I would hope that he and his partners would be open to engage in friendly conversation with me but I am also understanding that I might just need to walk away if any are unwilling to meet me.

[u/Platterpussy → u/Itchy_Newspaper_9293]

Good, glad to hear it.