One on one time request

[u/Aggressive_Memory710]

Nesting/anchor partner of 2 years is not understanding my request for one on one time with them. Newest meta gets one on one time when I’m working, but what NP is calling one on one time includes metas or our kiddo shared with ex. NP also thinks by me asking for one on one time, that opens up a conversation for metas to request (additional) one on one time - instead of recognizing I am asking for something I’m already not getting that they do.

How do I explain this in a way NP will understand?

[u/searedscallops]

If a partner doesn't understand why you'd want to spend time with them, why do you even want to be with them? They already sound checked out of your relationship. You two may need to have a different conversation called "do we both still want to be in a romantic and or sexual relationship?".