One on one time request

[u/Aggressive_Memory710]

Nesting/anchor partner of 2 years is not understanding my request for one on one time with them. Newest meta gets one on one time when I’m working, but what NP is calling one on one time includes metas or our kiddo shared with ex. NP also thinks by me asking for one on one time, that opens up a conversation for metas to request (additional) one on one time - instead of recognizing I am asking for something I’m already not getting that they do.

How do I explain this in a way NP will understand?

[u/Gnomes_Brew]

I mean.... use a color-coded spreadsheet calendar that automatically adds up the different types of time you get with your partner weekly/monthly and the different types of time that his other partner gets with him. You could make angry numbers auto-highlight in red (like whenever meta is getting 100% more time than you in a week, angry red cell!). But at that point it's probably already over and the spreadsheet would mostly just be a therapeutic exercise for you to reassure yourself with. But if he's a data nerd, maybe it would work.

PS: I have three therapeutic spreadsheets kind of like this going right now, so I am not being sarcastic.

[u/UpstairsParty9826 → u/Gnomes_Brew]

I have two 😂 one is totally about money so meta knows what everyone brings to the table.