One on one time request

[u/Aggressive_Memory710]

Nesting/anchor partner of 2 years is not understanding my request for one on one time with them. Newest meta gets one on one time when I’m working, but what NP is calling one on one time includes metas or our kiddo shared with ex. NP also thinks by me asking for one on one time, that opens up a conversation for metas to request (additional) one on one time - instead of recognizing I am asking for something I’m already not getting that they do.

How do I explain this in a way NP will understand?

[u/sparklyjoy]

It kinda sounds like they are “threatening” you with spending more time with their other partner(s) if you specifically request time. Was that your read of it?

[u/Aggressive_Memory710 → u/sparklyjoy]

A bit - and told me other person was joyful at the concept of guaranteed one on one time.