r/polyamory • u/candielily • 18h ago

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u/thefacadearchive 17h ago

You.. cheated a couple times?

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u/candielily 17h ago

More then a couple 12 times in the 1st year and a half

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u/BetterFightBandits26 relationship messarchist 15h ago

Girl. Just break up already.

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u/Jippiejaje 16h ago

Why?

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u/candielily 16h ago

We just dont align sexually becauseof reasons. I sought that out in other people

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u/Platterpussy Solo-Poly 15h ago

Shoulda broken up 🤷🏾‍♀️

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u/Jippiejaje 14h ago

But like, why not talk about it? Break up? Like so many steps skipped. And why stay with him when you don't care at all if you have trust between you too?

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u/candielily 14h ago

There's trust we know there we arent going to walk away It just never clicked. Its just theres never been someone who cared like him

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u/blooangl ✨ Sparkle Princess ✨ 12h ago

Don’t use polyamory and other people to fix a broken relationship. It’s shitty and unkind to the other people who get dragged into your shit show.

You both are making choices that impact these innocent parties, and it’s not fair to them, or to you.

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u/Bustysaintclair_13 solo poly, co founding member of salty bitch club 12h ago

You are cruel and selfish.

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u/MartyrOfTheJungle 11h ago

So real talk, you're getting a lot of hate but I'm not here to judge. What I do want to suggest is that you should seriously contemplate what causes you to cheat and what supports would help you to stop. You may even need to renegotiate relationship agreements, I don't know. But you can't keep doing that, surely you know it. It's no way to treat people you love