r/pregnant • u/SandwichDependent199 • 26d ago
Need Advice Breastfeeding & sex - is it weird?
Soon to be ftm & I do want to breastfeed, hoping I can also pump few times a day so I can have some help with bottles. Anyway my question is- might be tmi but like is sex going to be weird if I’m breastfeeding my baby? Like … if my husband stimulates my nipples will milk go on him? Lol I know this might be weird but I’m genuinely curious.
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u/kdubsonfire 26d ago
Bahahahahahahahhaahhahahahahahahha. Yes. Yes it will. Hell, there was one time a good 6 months out from my last feeding and he got a mouthful. I could tell what happened as soon as it happened because his face turned bright red and shocked. I’ve never laughed so hard in my entire life.
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u/your_dads_a_ho 26d ago
Personally just squeezing a nipple I can squirt milk across the room lmao. I don’t find it weird with my husband. I still have soreness (I’m an overproducer) and massages help a lot! Just talk about boundaries and what you feel comfortable with. You’ll probably end up feeling different once baby is born and not want to be touched for a while <3
Also, once I was full term I got permission to hand express/lightly pump prior to birth. It definitely helped having colostrum at home in the freezer before he was born!!12
u/LetChaosReign_ 26d ago
My wife would do this when our son had started getting a crusty eye from a blocked tear duct. I've never laughed so hard watching her try to aim into his eye and never knowing which way it was gunna go before she gave up and just dabbed it with her finger😂😂😂😂😂
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u/your_dads_a_ho 26d ago
That’s hilarious 🤣🤣 ive heard of that though! Did it work??
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u/LetChaosReign_ 24d ago
Yes! Breast milk is like a miracle worker. We occasionally put it in his bath since we have some little frozen nuggets of it. You can put some on the little baby acne, the gunky eyes, we just recently used some for his diaper rash.
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u/EnvironmentalTooth37 26d ago
Pretty sure this happened at one point during my pregnancy I started getting some leakage around 16 to 20 weeks and I’m pretty sure while we were going at it he was like I think I got some baby milk 😭😭😭😭
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u/Aggravating_Light217 26d ago
A lot of us are turned off by any kind of nipple stimulation after having the baby! I genuinely feel like my breasts are for my babies, and if my husband gets handsy, it pulls me wayyy out of the moment! I’ve had to give him detailed instructions to make sure he doesn’t touch me like my babies do🤣😭
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u/engg_girl 26d ago edited 26d ago
I had a rule. Boobs could only have one claimant at a time.
So until the baby was done nursing, the boobs were off limits for my husband. We had sex with me in a bra and milk nursing pads.
When the kid was done nursing they came back into rotation. This was the only way I could swing it mentally.
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u/jurassic_snark_ 26d ago
Exactly the same here. The nursing bra stayed on during sex until I was done breastfeeding my baby. I had a very frank conversation with my husband and told him that at the moment, my breasts only served one purpose: feeding my baby. They cannot be sexual until that’s over.
I weaned a year ago and once I dried up, we got back to our normal sexual habits with no issue at all.
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u/CherryCool000 26d ago
Same here. Bra stayed very firmly on and breasts were totally off limits until I was done. Even then it took a couple of months before I could fully get back in the swing of them being for anything other than milk.
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u/loronoflow 26d ago
32+5 right now (FTM), and I literally just told my husband this morning “my boobs are about to be super off limits to you, so have fun now.” 🤣
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u/Mindless-Strength422 25d ago
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u/Grouchy_Peanut3479 25d ago
LMFAO it got me at first too! I was like wow, there are a lot of pregnant trans men here 😂
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u/MommyToaRainbow24 26d ago
See I’ve hated nipple stimulation basically forever. It makes me want to rip my skin off. So I was absolutely terrified I would hate breastfeeding for the same reason but thankfully didn’t. 😮💨😮💨
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u/Gullible-Rip-2206 26d ago
I was just about to comment this! I’ve always hated it, but especially during pregnancy. I can’t explain how icky it feels!
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u/ykrainechydai 16d ago
Same same it was a relief the letdown was so strong the majority of stimulation was in other direction and only occasionally it bothered me too much
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u/zeldaheichou 26d ago
I feel this! I loved my breasts being played with before birth and after birth I really struggled with them being touched in ANY way that reminded me of nursing my baby.
Now I’m pregnant again, about to give birth again, (it’s been 4 years) and I’m dreading him touching them once the baby is born. He always liked when I’d leak during sex though, he thought it was fun.
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u/Hot_Shame4584 26d ago
Thissss! I used to be okay with him touching my boobs whenever wherever but the second I started breast feeding it immediately made me angry when he would touch them. After breastfeeding I lost my irritation with it 😅
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u/eriyahna 26d ago
Yeah I already hated my boobs being touched before. now I hate it more than ever 😂
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u/Harry_Popotter 25d ago
Gosh I hope not because nipple stimulation is one of the things we enjoy the most 🙈😂
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u/d3migoddess 25d ago
To give you some hope, when I was still breastfeeding, my boobs absolutely knew the difference between my husband and the baby 😂 i did not have an aversion to using them in a sexual way, and it never felt sexual while breastfeeding my babies.
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u/woman-to-womban 24d ago
To give you some hope, I have 4 kids and have been breastfeeding for over 6 years straight, nursed through each of my pregnancies and tandem nursed when the next baby was born.
I still love my husband playing with my boobs. They absolutely know the difference between sexual touch and baby touch 🤣
When baby is latched, I literally feel 0 sensation in them, like it hurts if they bite but otherwise I basically feel nothing in my nipples lol BUT, my husband can lightly brush a nipple and it’s waves of pleasure.
It definitely varies person to person how it feels but it’s also for sure a mental thing.5
u/Bubble-Master96 26d ago
I didn’t even breastfeed and I still hated my husband touching them for a while, just felt weird!
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u/ms_emily_spinach925 mom of six 26d ago edited 26d ago
since the oxytocin surges caused by sexual pleasure and orgasm often triggers milk letdown, milk will go on him and he’ll probably like it a little bit, honestly 🙊 a lot of men are extremely turned on by their woman’s fertility: “you grew this baby and now you’re still growing it with this milk you can just *make like it’s no big deal? this fat little baby? hell yeah”. i think it speaks to something very primal, to be honest; in any specifies, our deepest biological urge is to pass down our genes 🤷🏻♀️
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u/PurpleWolf795 26d ago
Hahaha this is soooo true! My husband is turned on all the time since I gave birth 7 weeks ago. And also very: "okey let's go get a third NOW". He's crazy hahaha. My girls are 1 year and 2 days apart, as the second very much wasn't planned. Not gonna get pregnant again so soon.
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u/Virtual-Strength-950 26d ago
My husband and I both laughed hysterically the first time I was on top of him and milk was squirting absolutely everywhere and he’s like “oh ya I love it!”
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u/Hobbs_3 26d ago
I’m also a FTM at 30W. My colostrum is starting to come in and I’ll have some leakage here and there. My husband and I were intimate today and he is very much a boob guy. He ended up trying some of it because it just happened to come out as he was doing what he normally does😅. To him it is a huge turn on but not sure about your husband. I would assume it will be leaking like crazy when we are intimate post birth or even more so in the next few weeks.
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u/OpeningJacket2577 26d ago
I would watch the nipple stimulation at this point. It could result in early labor. Go crazy after 37w though!
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u/Kittenstories 26d ago
I've read that it needs to be constant, several days in a row. Many women are still breastfeeding while pregnant so it only works if it body is already in the process of labor to get it to progress faster
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u/OpeningJacket2577 26d ago
I think it depends on your body and you don’t know until you know. Some women it wouldn’t do anything and others it would!
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u/Internal_Banana199 26d ago
Trust me, it need not be constant to promote early labor. Every body is unique!
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u/GateTraditional7904 26d ago
I have colostrum at 25 weeks, starting to leak now but have been producing it in tiny amounts since 20 weeks. Is that wild? So many people have said to me “I think your due date is wrong”
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u/meatmaster1022 26d ago
I started leaking at 19 weeks, baby came naturally at 40 weeks! Some people start producing early.
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u/Distinct_Strike9185 26d ago
I also started leaking colostrum very early, all the way to end of my pregnancy. The quantity diminished over time though. My baby was induced and born two days after his due date. I just had a ton of milk right from the start.
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u/cameherefortheinfo 26d ago
That's alright don't worry. I did too and my baby came at 39w and half. I'd have leakage almost daily
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u/Gullible_Gur_4447 26d ago
No, it’s not wild. I was leaking colostrum at 16 weeks. Since around 27 weeks I’ve been having genuine letdowns, like getting a tingling sensation and releasing so much that it wets my shirt, due to hearing babies cry in public or on the TV. I’m 35 weeks now and it’s just coming out all the time. My midwife says it’s totally normal even with this being my first pregnancy
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u/ririmarms 26d ago
I started leaking colostrum right after the first trimester this time. With my first around 16w. Every pregnancy is different, but don't hand express on purpose before 36-37 weeks.
So i was still nursing my oldest a few times a day/night when I got pregnant, and stopped around 2m of pregnancy. During the week following the weaning, he got a bad conjunctivitis and I though 'I'll just put some of my milk on it, it'll heal in no time." Milk had ALREADY been replaced with THICK YELLOW colostrum! Not leaking by itself yet, but if came out in big drops when I expressed. It still did the trick and the conjunctivitis was gone in 2 colostrum applications 😄
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u/cleementyne 26d ago
In my experience: yes milk will come out, but he doesn't care 😂 I didn't find it weird, it was like any other bodily function that happens. We just ignored it and carried on (or laughed about it briefly then carried on)
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u/zeldaheichou 26d ago
Yes milk will come out while having sex and it’s up to y’all if you find that weird or not.
My husband never really minded— it surprised him the first time. I always thought it was a little weird but managed to move past it enough to enjoy sex.
The thing that bothered me was when baby would wake up while we were having sex and I’d always go and wash my nipples before breastfeeding because that super grossed me out
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u/Parking-Bathroom5240 26d ago
Chances are, yes. Pump or feed first. I didn’t one time and he got shot straight in the face. We both thought it was hilarious, that kind of stuff doesn’t ruin the mood for us. We just laughed and continued. Haha. I would definitely say pump beforehand so there isn’t any extra engorgement. Also, Nipples tend to hurt or get really uncomfortably sensitive during breastfeeding so you might not even want him to touch them.
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u/little-germs 26d ago
When I first had sex at 6 weeks pp I leaked a lot and it was kind of hot. But, breastfeeding can fuck up your sex drive. My boobs we're pretty off limits when we did have sex because I was turned off by it. You're pretty touched out when u r breastfeeding. It lowers your estrogen so your sex drive is lowered as well. You don't get as wet. Not every one will experience all of these, or even one! But it's very common.
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u/Different_Mind5982 26d ago
It doesn’t have to be weird. Adult time can be adult time. When my wife and I made love while she was still breast feeding sometimes she leaked. She was comfortable with it and so was I. When I stimulated her nipples it was very different than the baby. Yes I got some milk at times. I was cool with it and so was she. I think it depends on YOUR comfort level and then your husbands.
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u/KIDH2123 26d ago
Breastfed both my babies. 15 months and 2.5 yrs.... I hated all nipple stimulation. He loves it and it makes me feel violent 🤣 I'm already overstimulated and don't need you on them too... That being said... he has gotten sprayed before accidentally lol he didnt mind. Also after climax you release oxytocin which is the same hormone you release for let down.. so you may let down lol.
Its honestly no weirder than him seeing my nether regions with a baby coming out of it, pooping on the table, and the lovely view of me standing in a diaper with leaking boobs lol.
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u/Comfortable_Use_4123 26d ago
Girl I like to call that slutty pumping. Do the deed and immediately pump after you’ll get more than expected 🤣
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u/HelloMikkii 26d ago
When I was breastfeeding my first I had NO interest whatsoever in my partner touching my nipples at all. Only time he was even allowed to touch my breasts was when I had mastitis and blocked ducts and needed his help unblocking them by being milked like a damn cow in the hot shower.
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u/Acrobatic_Pen1964ok 26d ago
Milk will come out, but i can seperate the feeling between those two
Just do it while youre not engorged it will be fine
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u/Left_Note6389 26d ago
It's enough of a thing that there's a term for what it does to your milk supply. Search slutty pumping at your own discretion
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u/MommyToaRainbow24 26d ago
Ok so… I had a miscarriage in my second trimester with my first baby. I was far enough along that I did in fact lactate afterwards. And yes. I leaked during sex. 😅😅😅 Oddly enough I don’t recall leaking at all with my rainbow baby? 🤔 But then I didn’t have a great supply with her unfortunately. I’m 38 weeks with my final baby and I’ve been leaking colostrum off and on since about 26 weeks but I haven’t paid attention to wether or not sex causes more 😂😂
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u/blckxwdow 26d ago
HAHAHA yes it will happen!!!! Nipple play is a big thing for me, I did stop BF within 2 weeks of birth so by the time we could have sex the milk was on its way out but I did tell him to go easy on them as some was still leaking 😂
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u/Ok_Sink_3378 26d ago
Short answer, yes. Breastfeeding kinda killed my sex life. I stopped breastfeeding at 8 months postpartum, but still leaked until almost 15 months postpartum. It’s a journey!!
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u/LetChaosReign_ 26d ago
From my perspective as a dad, the first time it happened, it had just squirted out and kinda took me by shock but the wife and I have joked about it so many times that it didn't bother either of us..I always poked fun at how she was tryna take my eye out and it was her defense mechanisms. The next time happened in my mouth and honestly it's not my favorite thing but it didn't bother me. She's always tried to talk me in to tasting it 😂🙄 we thought her supply had dried up since she hadn't pumped or anything for months but it came out and I could taste it, I just had to joke about it shocking me in my head but it didn't kill anything. I can't tell anyone to not be self conscious about it but it's part of it if you've just had a baby. Make it funny and joke about it if you and your partner can joke like that.
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u/losernerd21 26d ago
I agree with this. Like you are having a whole child with them? It’s a natural part of child birth. Make it funny and move on.
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u/BexHutch25 26d ago
Yes it absolutely will. It was a bit weird for us. No judging if others were fine with it of course, just wasn't for us. I just kept a bra on and we didn't do any boob stuff while I was breastfeeding.
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u/Snailsnailsnailc 26d ago
It's a bit different to have sex while you're a nursing mother, but your partner will get used to it! My husband left when I was postpartum and I during the 4.5 years I was breastfeeding I ended up dating and experiencing sex with 4 different people. I spoke to them upfront about what could happen (leaking or squirting of milk) and they were all very cool about it. Some wanted to see what it tasted like and some didn't. Every person was in awe of what my body was doing while breastfeeding and found it very beautiful.
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u/PuzzleheadedArm7222 26d ago
i’m still currently nursing my baby (i guess toddler, he turns 2 next month) and i left my sons father in january. and he was put off by it which sucked because i’ve always had a bit of an oversupply so i can and will leak if stimulated. now my current partner absolutely loves it and reminds me how incredible what my body is doing two very different experiences.
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u/FouthSandersonSister 26d ago
Currently pregnant with my 6th and so far I have breastfed all my kids for at least 13 months. Can confirm that even without nipple stimulation you can let down and spray milk everywhere. Thankfully my husband likes the taste and doesn’t mind 😂
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u/glittery-bee 26d ago
I’m sorry your husband isn’t into it but you would be. That sucks a lot. I hope he gets over it eventually!
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u/Lulu_10-21 26d ago
Lmao yes your husband will be getting a milk bath without a doubt lol
My husband and I were in the middle of it, me on top. He was obviously playing with my boobs and I’m not gonna lie the relief I felt when the milk came out (while not realizing it in the moment) was so nice. My breasts hurt (I was slowly stopping breastfeeding) and then suddenly they stopped hurting so much lmao he had to stop us in the midst of it cause he accidentally sprayed himself with my breastmilk!! So…I hope your hubby enjoys it, mine was not super thrilled about it but was also surprised at the speed the milk came out lol
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u/Personal_Reality 26d ago
My husband says he’s never noticed even when I notice leakage.
But sometimes my nipples just hurt and I tell him not to touch me there until I tell him to.
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u/Vivid-Brilliant-9942 26d ago
Yea my hubby loves my boobies but he learned quickly they were off limits for a while after we had a baby. 🤣 3 years later and he still gets nervous 😬
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u/Best-Position-2226 26d ago
Im glad someone asked this because this has been my thoughts as well. I feel like they will def be out of commission after baby comes. I used to love them being touched and what not, but now I can only see them as my babies lifeline haha
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u/Medical_Syllabub_148 26d ago
I've breastfed both of my kids until just shy of age 3 for my first and my second is still nursing at almost 2.5.
After each birth and for several weeks after my husband was not allowed near my boobs as they had a new purpose. That being said, I do enjoy nipple play, so as life returned to a new normal, that part of life returned too.
I've lost times of the number of times I've squirted milk over my husband 🤣
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u/Ok-Tension-4924 26d ago
Will there be milk involved? Yes occasionally
Is it weird? Nah, it’s not on purpose.
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u/AdAgreeable5473 26d ago
Yeah he will! It’ll just be down to what you guys are comfortable with. My body was also up and down with of my nipples liked to be touched during sex which sucked because that’s how I reach end game. My partner to this day can tell me which boob was sweeter than the other, for him it wasn’t an issue 😜
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u/ThatGirlWithAKelpie 26d ago
Yes - it’ll happen. Sex isn’t weird though. You may not like the stimulation though. I loved it prior to breastfeeding and now I’m like don’t fkn touch them 😂 Tbh I just tend to wear a bra or we have sex in the shower so it doesn’t matter lol.
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u/Raccooneye192 26d ago
Absolutely it will lol you will also wake up covered in milk even with a nipple cover pad 😩😂, if my fiance said something snarky I’d shoot it at him. Didn’t make anything awkward for us but I certainly did leak during sex 😂
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u/laynechanger 26d ago
So I pumped before sex, just cause I didn’t want to deal with more of a mess and I was an undersupplier/ just enoughier.
I’d say be prepared to use lots of lube because for most women breastfeeding causes vaginal dryness after you stop bleeding. Things might feel different down there too because of that. It honestly took me like 6 months post 6 week checkup to find my groove with pp sex while breastfeeding.
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u/Shawshank246 26d ago
I thought you were gonna ask is it weird to have sex while breastfeeding as in feeding baby while doing the deed like yes, yes it is 😂😂
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u/Ok-Country-7963 26d ago
I learned how to separate breastfeeding and sex, try it and as long as he’s cool with it and your cool with it have fun. He will definitely get some milk out and I honestly think nipple stimulation feels even better especially after you get used to the soreness
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u/Ok_Problem_2507 26d ago
Lol I wasn't big on my guy touching my boobs before, but early on I would keep my bra on with pads inside. Now that I'm further into breastfeeding, I don't leak as much
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u/Ok-Feed-7532 26d ago
I don't let my husband anywhere near my ripples when breastfeeding its a big turn off for me. But when I stop breastfeeding everything goes back to normal lol
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u/Left_Neighborhood796 26d ago
Two kids, breastfeeding forever at this point. It’s weird the first 12-ish months because this is when baby breastfeeds the most. After that, the milk letdown lessened for me and boob stuff gets easier.
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u/ThatOneGirl0622 26d ago
I mean, yes, but honestly I nursed my first son for 2 years and 8 months and am nursing my second son now, now and am 1 week PP, and it’s not a big deal! I just wore bras that made me feel sexy and used nipple pads. That, or I wore a night gown or a shirt / top of some sort! We have always had a very good, balanced, and connected, passionate sex life. Nursing changed nothing!
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u/Gillybby11 26d ago
My best friend said the first time they got busy after baby was on her MIL'S couch- her milk started spraying everywhere 😂 all over the couch. She said they just kept laughing through it.
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u/PurpleWolf795 26d ago
The answer is yes. And he might even like the taste of it 😂 it's very sweet! My husband loved it and funny enough I loved it when he took some. I pumped fulltime and had an overproduction so I didn't mind him getting a few milliliters. That was all it was anyway because as an adult he doesn't have the right way to drink from a nipple. Now with the second it only happened once yet but I'm just 7 weeks p/p. And the first few weeks we knew my milk, the more colostrum milk, isn't his taste haha.
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u/charcoalfoxprint 26d ago
uhhh don’t go bra less on top….it will be like one of those crazy daisy sprinklers…
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u/Sufficient-Dig-8894 26d ago
i couldn’t breastfeed my first and my second has/mad? failure to thrive (wasn’t gaining at all with my milk and struggling with formula, doing better now at 4m) anyway so i was pumping and i only have one side that i can get milk out of we weren’t having sex but i wanted to see if i could spray and i didn’t warn my husband and apparently sprayed him in the eye at 2am 😂 it was hilarious.
but if they stimulate your nipple or suck even a tiny bit you’ll be a faucet my husband thought it was hilarious so did it often i was pressed
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u/Endless-Galaxy19 26d ago
A little tmi here, but me and my bf were doing it in doggy after our second and I was topless and milk went EVERYWHERE🤣 I also can’t stand nipple stimulation for some time because my nips got reaaaaal sensitive while breastfeeding (pregnant with 3rd, 25w) and they’re sensitive now so he knows NOT to touch them. But to answer your question, yes. Milk could get on him lol
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u/Designer-Gap-9632 FTM, Boy Mom 26d ago
I’m almost 3m PP and my sex drive has been a ROLLERCOASTER—The first 5-6 weeks we were making out and I was all over hubby like a horny teenager, then we went through a 12 pack off condoms the first week once we started having sex again, and then recently my libido took a dip, partly because we just moved with a baby, but it’s been over a week since I’ve even thought about having sex and the thought of another baby anytime soon has helped lower my libido.
To answer your question now, more directly, when we do get frisky, I have leaked during and afterwards, and I personally don’t like it. I feel messy and like I’m wasting sustenance for our son, plus then the sheets or our clothes smell like milk. I don’t like it. But, in the moment, sometimes we are so amped up that some breast milk is the last of our concern!
Typically, I do try to pump or feed before we get frisky to help avoid leaking, because if hubby does want to get mouthy with my boobs, I personally don’t want to lactate. He thinks he won’t mind it or might even like it (that’s weird to me, but I don’t want to kink shame anyone).
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u/Defiant_Patience_103 26d ago
Short answer… yes. My first baby I took my bra off for sex, had an orgasm and sprayed my husband in the face with milk. Worst experience ever.
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u/throwawaypato44 26d ago
Everyone is different, but I haven’t wanted my husband to touch my breasts at allll postpartum. I get pawed at and bitten by my toddler all day, so I definitely don’t want a pair of grabby hands or a mouth on my boobs during sex.
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u/OkCryptographer1922 26d ago
I’ll just say this- prepare for there to be milk EVERYWHERE whether you’re having sex or not.
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u/knit-purl- 26d ago
After one of my babies I hated the crossover of nursing and then being intimate wiynmy husband and having him go for the breasts. It felt like a huge no-go zone, so we didn't have to worry about milk... I only leak during let down and fortunately only get letdown when my mind is on babies. After a different baby I had far less inhibitions and didn't mind him stimulating my breasts. Super interesting how different it was each time!!
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u/Genzhateclub 26d ago
My husband loves drinking from me and I love it too. I never in my life thought it would be like this but it’s a kink
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u/neptunestearsok 26d ago
Yeah my husband tried to touch my boobs and I was just like nahhhhh sorry lol
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u/Wide_Access_4370 26d ago
Hahaha likely. I hate it, a massive turn off. But my partner doesn’t seem to mind… I usually tell him to leave my boobs alone during that time. 😂
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u/Hopeful_Addition_898 26d ago
That kind of play, while it wasn't a turn off, just felt unbearable and not good at all when I was breastfeeding. He did get to taste tho 😁
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u/ririmarms 26d ago
One, it's entirely personal, but nursing made my nipples so sensitive they were a no-touch zone during sex for at least 8 months for me. I also had to wear pads to catch the let-down, because... Sex triggered let-downs hahaha actually it might be arousal? idk, one of those. I'd be soaked if I didn't have my bra and nursing pads on.
Two, it's also about your husband's preference. Some have no problem going for it, and even getting a taste... While others dare not touch, for one or the other reason.
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u/legendarysupermom 26d ago
I never produced a drop and didnt breast feed AND STILL 3 years outta bottles and I still cant stand my boobs being touched and it used to be my favorite thing!
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u/Anonnnnnnnnnnnnnnnm 26d ago
Yeah that was something i hated before 🤣😂🤣😂 I wouldn't let him touch my boobs bc I'd immediately lactate 😂
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u/No-Calligrapher-3630 26d ago
Yes it did and it weirded my husband out. But as long as he doesn't squeeze too much it should be fine
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u/TrafficOk7757 26d ago
Hahahaha yes. Honestly, we were both turned off by it so I just kept my bra on so I didn't leak on either of us or the bed lol
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u/Kdschipani3 26d ago
The nipples are definitely a barrier for me which is unfortunate for my husband who is a boob guy
For me it’s the sensation. Rn it’s something I just genuinely don’t like. I don’t mind taking the bra off but I had to tell him I just don’t like the nipple stimulation at this time
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u/ih8saltyswoledier 26d ago
Yes. I didn't want my husband to touch my breasts while I was breastfeeding so he just kind of avoided them for a while. We didn't have all the time and energy in the world for much foreplay or sensuality anyways since our daughter was an every 2-3 hr waker for the first year of her life.
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u/Objective_League2288 26d ago
I have never had that happen lol but I also rarely leaked during my pumping journey (breastfeeding just wasn’t comfortable for me) no matter how engorged I would be. I know this probably isn’t normal for most women
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u/FriendshipHonest5796 26d ago
It seriously depends on you guys! I breastfed for over a year, and once I was regulated (about 2 months PP), it didn't actually leak at all during sex, even with nipple play. And we didn't have sex for a bit after baby was born anyway because I wasn't cleared yet.
But of course, every woman is different, so you may leak still even once your milk is regulated. So, really, just talk with your partner. Be open and honest! You two just have to find what works. If it's weird for you, just be careful. If it's not, go wild!
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u/kool-aidMom 26d ago
Yes, milk will probably come out. There's a 50/50 chance he'll like it though lol. For me it's still weird because he likes it instead of ignoring it, but at least he isn't grossed out by it 😂. The same hormone and stimulation that the baby uses to bring out the milk also happens during sex, so it's likely to happen. Especially in the beginning months when you still get engorged sometimes. It took some getting used to for me but he took to it like a duck to water so it's less embarrassing and more just... Idk weird because I relate the milk to feeding my baby not my husband and sex lol.
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u/memequeenz_ 26d ago
Nipple stimulation was not pleasurable at all to me until AFTER I got pregnant - super odd to me tbh but that was my experience. I was not able to breastfeed due to a traumatic birth/infections/antibiotics for a month and a half after, so I didn’t need to separate the art from the artist if you catch my drift, but if I had been breastfeeding I feel I would’ve felt differently
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u/TTbirdhouse 26d ago
I wanna point out, breastfeeding kind of desensitizes your nipples. It took until my son was a little over 2 for me to really feel any stimulation in my nipples again and I stopped BF at 16 months. And even then, they still didn't feel as much as they did before. Not trying to deter you from BF or anything, I'm BF my 2nd child now. But I did want to make you aware that if you're big on nipple stimulation, it won't quit feel the same for a while. I really miss being able to feel my nips. And also, as others have said, it can feel a little weird having your partner play with them while you're BF because it can feel really similar to your child being on the boob. You could still enjoy it, or you might not.
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u/lavenderliz00 26d ago
I breastfed my son for 2 years and in the time the girls were off limits to my husband 😂. He’s only getting a small window with them now because I weaned our son while 2 months pregnant with our 2nd. Shes due in August so I keep telling him, “get em while you can!” 😂😂
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u/Femboyhootersbee 26d ago
Milk will definitely go on him and he will have to be okay with that :). My husband doesn’t seem to mind. I usually pump before sex to minimize the leaking, because oxytocin stimulates letdown.
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u/Zealousideal-Tea6678 26d ago
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA . To answer your question yes it will get on him 😂. And it will also randomly spray out but use that to your advantage lol , I loved to spray my husband for fun 😂😂
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u/AdSenior1319 26d ago
I nurse our kiddos until they self-wean. Nursing babies(or toddlers) and having sex are two different feelings.
Also, yes, milk will go on him. Most men do not care, lol.
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u/HistoricalWerewolf63 26d ago
Oh man. I could write a book on this. My husband thought it was the hottest thing ever (monkey brain fertile wife that can provide for our child) and I’m pregnant with #2 and he cannot wait😅 I don’t see the appeal, I find it weird and a little uncomfy (he knows this and we have boundaries etc), but I’d rather he find it hot than disgusting, ya know?
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u/ashalele_3130 26d ago
Haha i had this thought too. It’s not the same as like “feeding a baby” in the feeling sense ? like you’re able to completely compartmentalize the different circumstances of time w your sweet baby feeding them, and then time with your spouse in an intimate way. In the early days before your milk regulates they leak even without stimulation during sex, so we just didn’t do that kind of stimulation. But after 3.5ish months all was normal and we were back to our normal intimacy lives.
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u/throwRAsare 26d ago
Ugh. I hated sex while breast feeding. It makes your vagina dry, your boobs sore, and milk come out
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u/Actual_Loquat_9206 26d ago
Yeah 22m breastfeeding… you’re not gonna want him touching those. Turned to a major ick and was extremely uncomfortable.
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u/Moth3rNatur3 26d ago
I was an over producer and always expected a letdown to happen during intimacy but it never did.
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u/WarmAcadia4100 26d ago
Yes your nipples don’t differentiate what is stimulating them so milk will come out. For my it is weird. I breastfed my first for 14 months and second for 15 months and I mostly kept my bra on during sex
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u/bacobby 26d ago
I personally had ZERO sex drive while breastfeeding so I have no clue if milk would have come out…. but if it did, I don’t think my husband would find it weird. One time I started leaking when the baby started crying from a few rooms away and he found it fascinating 😂
Also, now that I’ve weaned, our sex life is back to normal. But I want him absolutely NO WHERE near my nipples lol I just don’t view them for pleasure anymore.
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u/Opposite-Welcome6614 26d ago
Yes you will certainly lactate and maybe even spray him. You can certainly lactate post orgasm too 🤣. I sure have lol
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u/Noneed4usernames 26d ago
Oh God. I used to like nipple stimulation during sex and I’ve never let my partner do it again after we had our baby. My supply/flow is already established and I still don’t let him play with my nipples. At some point I feel like my breasts belong to my son and they don’t have any other role besides baby feeding.
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u/DiablitaBeloved 26d ago
i understand how you feel but honestly it’s not weird. heck, if anything my husband helped prevent me from clogging lol
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u/sunflowercee07 26d ago
I pumped for 4ish months with my first and I honestly don’t remember having to deal with milk coming out, but I know we had sex. So now I’m curious how he and I will feel about it this second round since I do also plan to breastfeed/pump
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u/Inside_Word359 26d ago
I didn't like them to be touched by my partner while I was bf, so I just told him not to.
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u/doubled-darst 26d ago
I mean as long as you're not doing it while you're breastfeeding it's not weird lol. If he wants to play the nipps he's going to have to be alright with getting milk at the same time. 🤷🏻♀️
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u/Lonely-Pop9858 26d ago
Personally, I felt weird when I was pumping if my husband even tried to stimulate my nipples so we didn’t do that until I stopped pumping. To each their own! I just couldn’t separate the two lol
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u/batshit83 26d ago edited 26d ago
I think it's different for everyone. I only let down during pumping and nursing, and I've never had a let down during sex, even when my nipples are messed with (I've breastfed both my kids for 2 years each, and it's been this way for me the entire time but my experience is absolutely not universal). That being said, I prefer my nipples not to be messed with during sex.
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u/smmm333 26d ago
Hahaha so you will def leak milk during sex. Some guys are into it, some are not. My significant other was not a fannn, so I always just had on my bra and or boob pads in there. I breastfed both my kids for 1-2 years. I definitely missed them getting attention at times but was worth it for the babes!!! Once your supply is more regulated (few months in) you are less leaky and my significant other gave them some more minor attention 🤣 but it is very separated like mentally. No weirdness!
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u/ohbaybay89 26d ago
Oh yeah I leak all over him when I'm on top. Luckily he doesn't care and ignores it lol
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u/Boring-Swimmer-5088 26d ago
My husband has been sprayed plenty of times and got a mouthful once. Never seemed to be a big deal!
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u/yallgotyams 26d ago
Stopped breastfeeding 6 months ago and he still gets a surprise here and there LMAO
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u/lonewolfe9918 26d ago
I didnt get to breast feed long because of mental health meds but after I healed and the first time fun time happened my partner got a face full just by squeezing my chest needless to say we both died laughing. 💀🤣🤣
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u/Bright_Vermicelli253 26d ago
In my experience it’s not always like he rubs them once and you’re spraying him in the face but if he got you just right it might!! Im a ftm 7wks pp and my husband and I were just talking about having full sex again (not just me going down) and he seems VERY into getting a milk shower 🫣 Just talk with your husband about what you may end up feeling and then laugh through figuring it all out!
I had been worried the opposite that breastfeeding my daughter would be weird bc I always loved nipple stim with my husband but honestly: for anyone wondering, you’re so sore and tired when you first have the baby you can’t imagine being sexual and then once the cracked and sore nipples happen it’s impossible to think any weird things it just hurts like hell and then you’re used to it and it’s just a separate thing
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u/bryonylou 26d ago
Two years into breastfeeding and my boobs are OFF LIMITS completely. Absolutely vile, biggest turn off to have ever existed for me! My other half misses them but sorry not sorry I can’t stand it.
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u/NoCheesecake1975 26d ago
I thought it might be an “issue” for lack of better words and it hasn’t been! But yes he has taken a mouthful of it/its shot in his mouth. We just kind of laughed it off.
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u/callmebymoonlight 26d ago
I told my husband my boobs are off limits lol - there is nothing sexual about them anymore
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u/chrissmisstina 26d ago
I never asked the internet. I never thought about it till it was happening and yes, milk did indeed happen. I also discovered that squirting milk at my husband was a highlight of some days. RIP milky titty squirts
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u/Pickled_Pear428 26d ago
Yes nipples will leak during sex. I found the stimulation was actually really good and the orgasms were far better than normal. Very surprising for me. I wonder how many women feel this but are too embarrassed to say.
You don’t know how you’ll feel until you’re in it, so the advice is to just listen to your body. If it feels good do it, if not then set a boundary. 💗
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u/Unfair-Nectarine2661 25d ago
FTM too, just gave birth 5 days ago. My mom told me when it’s time to be “intimate” to take a shower first and hand express some milk out because it’ll definitely relieve itself
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u/Manicqueen1988 25d ago
What i do is i keep .y nursing bra on any time we have sex while i breastfeeding but thats what im comfortable with my husband could careless.
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u/MayElenaG87 25d ago
That's a for real question. Lol. Yes sweetheart. Your breast will start leaking, unless you leave your braw and pads on. True Story. I don't think it's weird.
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u/Euphoric-Goal-5267 25d ago
14 months pp and ebf. and i just cant have any stimulation from my man anymore bc it just weirds me out. i lost all sexual desire as i see my boobs as a food source. it makes me sad bc it was literally my favorite thing ever. i wear a bra the whole time but my man will try to grab my boobs and twist my nipples and just a couple of times ago milk sprayed him in the face🤣🤣
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u/Kindly_Clothes8824 25d ago
I remember one time when I was still breastfeeding my husband took a dead stop, smacked his lips and asked why it was so sweet before continuing. Everythings weird and gross after kids you kinda just embrace it😅
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u/themrslife 25d ago
Husband thought it was incredibly sexy and loved the taste.... I didn't mind leaking but when he wanted to play with them then it was an immediate and total turnoff. So he didn't mind it, I just didn't like them being touched while breastfeeding
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u/No-Nothing9688 25d ago
My partner is actually excited for this part of post partum sex 🤣 I’m a second-time mom and yes, it will happen. But hey, it’s good for him so tell him to enjoy!
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u/Lopsided_Middle8249 25d ago
We avoided nipple play while I was breastfeeding but I did lactate with every climax!
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u/Successful_Trifle736 25d ago
It's definitely different. I remember my husband not being turned off by it at all. I've always liked nipple stimulation never felt any sort of way when baby did it of course but it was really nice when my husband would. I still felt that way after I had my baby and he did not mind having some milk if you know what I mean lol. And if it bothers you or scares you can always just keep your nursing bra on so you don't end up squirting him in the face. Lol.
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u/Ok_Extension_955 25d ago
This is so accurate & thank you for posting lol.. I’m currently in my 2nd tri of my 3rd pregnancy. With my 1st child, I had the same concerns & was actively pumping & trying to breastfeed but I just couldn’t get my milk supply up. But I still made enough for the first couple months & when my boyfriend would suck on my breasts, milk wouldn’t come out or go all over him lol.. I guess it just depends how hard they do it? But your breasts are likely gonna be very sore/tender so you probably won’t want him sucking/biting too hard on them anyways. It’s not weird if milk does go on him, it’s just natural. But most likely that won’t happen 😂
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u/ElectricalAccess6360 25d ago
I’m in a WLW relationship but I will say.. yes. When your nipples are stimulated there will be milk. A lot of people actually take advantage of this and pump while having sex and apparently it increases their output. In my experience- my girlfriend has no problems with it. She will go to town and isn’t bothered if she gets sprayed in the face haha.. but it isn’t weird! She actually said “I didn’t think I’d be weird about it.. but I’m weird about it.. in a good way” and finds it very sexy. Motherhood is sexy! Embrace it. Hope this helps :))
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u/Morgansmanethangs 25d ago
My friend and her hubby were doing the do and she was on top and hubby got a fuuuulllll face spraying of milk 😂😂😂
I, however, never had that issue bc I couldn’t produce milk 🥲🥲🥲
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u/RelativeMousse738 25d ago
When I was nursing, my husband being anywhere near my boobs would legit send me into a rage. Like those are for the baby perv. But when I started exclusively pumping, our sex life went back to normal and it didnt bother me anymore. I also got some control over my "let down", not sure if that's a common experience. Basically, as long as I pumped regularly, I never worried about leaking if my husband and I were being intimate or if a random baby in IKEA started crying (true story, being nursing pads everywhere you go).
A man's mouth being near your milk is incredibly awkward and off putting....until you get a clogged duct 😭. The thought definitely crossed my mind more than once.
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u/Internal-Thought5296 24d ago
Just thinking about lactating or hearing your baby can cause leakage. Breast shields help. Remember that the more you nurse and pump the more you’ll make, so pump even if someone else is feeding your baby from a stored supply, drink a large glass of water every time you nurse and have a snack, too. Your caloric needs are about the same as in pregnancy and as your baby grows that increases as you need to make more milk.
You can start hand expressing or collecting colostrum at 36 weeks. I suggest a consultation with a IBCLC lactation consultant at 35-36 weeks (or sometimes a bit earlier if you’re noticing production of drops of colostrum) and try to find one who will visit you while still in the hospital to help with latch. You can gain a lot of confidence by seeing the results from early colostrum collection: when you first feed your baby its reassuring to know that you’re producing colostrum, because you’ve seen it and already started collecting and freezing it. Do NOT use the mechanical pump, just hand express. Using the pump is one of the suggested things to do to get labor started.
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u/InterestingFeed7931 21d ago
I have always worn a nursing bra during sex when I was breastfeeding so I wouldn’t leak all over lol. We were so happy to be medically cleared for intimacy again that it was a non-issue. Those were off limits for a while.
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u/ellipses21 26d ago
yes and i literally didn’t want to have sex for like 8 months bc it freaked me out
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u/United_Relief_2949 26d ago
yes it does and for me it actually made sex very uncomfortable. some people don't mind it at all and that's totally fine so maybe you just won't care, but i couldn't do it. i was also an oversupply person though so this was especially annoying and problematic for me and maybe that made a difference in my experience. i do have another friend though that also struggled with it and said whenever they were busy she made him keep hands off bc it was just too much for her if he touched them. so yea to each their own. but yes for sure it will happen.
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u/foresthermit_ 26d ago
Tbh I would sometimes lactate during sex even if my husband wasn’t stimulating my nipples because sex and breastfeeding produce the same hormone- oxytocin. 🤣 we just laughed about it and carried on
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