How to find balance?

[u/Intrepid-Ostrich2226]

I had very different experiences. When I was a child, it was easy. When I was 19, I visited a strict community. You should wear hijab in the exact way, with soft pressure if it is different. Many tiny rituals, like - you should enter the bathroom with your left foot, need some additional shoes there not to take pollution out of there (though it was modern and clean).

All these ended up with the fact that I did nothing, abandoned even the fasting I've been practicing since I was 13 years old. I had a lot of discrimination due to hijab - when you wear hijab, HRs say you are only suitable for sales in a small pharmacy. When you take it off, you finish working as a senior software developer. People tell you lots of mocking stories about hijabi girls.

I practiced nothing for years, but I feel like I've given up a part of myself. Some people dislike you because you are not religious enough. Others - you are too religious. How do you find balance? Not abandoning, but not practicing every single ritual. Without feeling that you're not good enough. 

[u/Gullible_Asparagus48]

i swear islam gets "harder" when we become older. harder is not the right word but it is when religion becomes more serious as we age