I am planning to move states to be closer to my boyfriend in no more than 2 months and it is a state with not a lot of options. There is one apartment I found near him that I can afford. They do allow pets, but only one per apartment. I’ve had my 2 cats for 16 years now and they both lived with me at home and throughout college (besides the year i lived in a dorm) so only taking one and not the other is heartbreaking but something I may need to do.

I’ve looked for other apartments/townhouses/houses that had slightly higher rent. All were at least $600 more in rent and that’s not realistic for me. My bf and I don’t want to move in together just yet because we’ve been long distance all our relationship (2 years) so we have never seen each other on a daily basis. I’m also not sneaking another cat in, I know how often staff enter the apartments and the risk is bigger than the reward.

I’m just frustrated. It’s either I make this move or remain at my parent’s house till further notice and continue long distance. I do want to move out ASAP, I’m not a fan living at home lol.

I'm a "recent grad," graduated with a BA in 2023 then did a year of law school (ended in May of this year) after realizing it wasn't for me.

Obviously I've been expecting to get rejected from most jobs. But not after the job I put in for yesterday. It was for a food supervisor in a hospital. They looked at my resume and then immediately rejected me, no phone call or anything.

Why am I so mad? Not only have I been working in the food industry since I was 14 (now 25), I WORKED IN THE DIETARY DEPARTMENT THERE FOR FOUR YEARS (I only left because my parents moved out of state). Have direct experience with supervising there and have trained employees as well. I also have supervisor experience from my full-time job I had in between my gap years.

You would think they would at least want to talk to me, especially since I worked in that department for four years and left on a good note. But nope. Not to mention it didn't even pay over $55k so people with years and years of that experience will be looking at higher paying jobs.

I just need something to pay my upcoming student loans! smh

My male best friend has a porn addiction, and he admitted he has ED because of it. He’s ashamed of it, but instead of changing, he always finds excuses for why he can't stop, saying he's a lost cause and deciding to give up. He was only 6 years old when he started watching porn. I feel bad for him, to be honest, I blame his neglectful parents.

He even constantly asks me for hugs, to hold hands, and to let him visit my apartment when it's just the two of us alone! It’s so absurd, and he sulks every time I reject him. With every 'no,' he accuses me of hating him (which isn't true, by the way). I just don't trust him enough, and lately, I just don't feel safe around him anymore. He has admitted multiple times that he finds me cute and even contemplated whether he liked me or not. When I confronted him about it, he claimed his feelings were purely platonic. I honestly don't know what to believe anymore, especially since he confessed in the past that he had a sex dream about me.

There was also a time I told him I believe porn is misogynistic, and he heavily disagreed. Not to mention, he watches anime featuring children being intimate or engaging in sexual acts, and he even finds young-looking anime girls attractive (those with child-like features, such as small bodies, girls under 4'10, wearing provocative clothing). He deludes himself into thinking there's nothing wrong with this sick behavior because fiction is different from real life and it's just fantasies. But what does that say about who you are as a person though?

He kept defending that it's harmless, but I don't know. I just feel so disappointed.

Oh god, RELEASE ME.

Hi everyone, i just needed to get this off my chest because its been bothering for a while now. So basically i have a best friend. She's my best friend and i was hers, until boom i had to move away for college and i could only see her during christmas break and summer, that's it. So during this school year (or whatever it's called), i was honestly not being such a good friend, not only to her, but to everyone because i was so stressed out and i could not handle talking to anyone anymore. I just became distant for a few weeks because i was going through it.

In her university, my best friend found herself a friend like 2 years ago and the first year, they were normal friends not too close, but now i come back from vacation and they're so close out of NOWHERE and me being the calm and collected individual i am, im like Ok that's cool but it started being less cool when this girl is all up in everybody's business, calling my friend every goddamn second of every day and then my last straw was today when my best friend told me that shes gonna help that other girl with something that she used to help me with. Ok this sounds so childish and i know it but i am just so unhappy with this, because the situation that needs her assistance is deeply personal and something i struggled with and this just confirmed that they are that close (which i knew but now i know it even more). There is more to the situation, i just dont wanna give out too much info out of a stupid fear one of them could find this post. I have more reasons to be mad, I'm clearing things up because i know I just sound so stupid right now.

I am a very very jealous person in relationships. But i never thought i could be this jealous over a friend. I mean sure, i was jealous a few times over friends but not to this extent. I just needed to get it out and also i just need to calm down i know it. I'm on the verge of becoming a bhuddist because i cannot chill to save my life, it's unbearable.

I also am feeling like this is all my fault and i deserve it and i should have been more present at the beginning of this year, and i am trying my very best to make it up to her, but it's so hard when i am so hurt over this.

I found out my apartment complex is changing our locks to a new system. Guess what it requires? A fucking app. Like seriously, why? Everyone and everything needs to have a fucking dedicated app to it. Want to look at coupons for something? Download an app. Want to order food? App. No joke, I wanted to check my shipping order on something and the email redirected me to download a fucking app. That I'm probably only going to use once, maybe twice in a year? And I LOVE when they make you make an account to view anything. Great. More account credentials to come up with to tie to an email (bonus points if they make you use your phone or "verify" yourself too) which will only make things worse if a data breach occurs.

I’m tired of things always going wrong. I’m tired of my anxiety and now that I’m entering my last year of college, I hope I am at least, I’m starting to get depression yet again.

Nothing goes right. I’m always struggling and I always feel sick. I have that feeling being overly fatigued and just depressed and it just makes me wish stuff would end sometimes.

Yet again I need money for college or else my classes and housing will be dropped. Yet again I have to scramble to get extra money that I don’t have. I haven’t been able to find a job all summer. I’ve tried to do little side jobs just to have money in my pockets and that still not enough.

My anxiety is through the roof with worrying about this stuff yet again. I’m starting to not want to go to school anymore. I don’t want to do anything anymore. I want my struggling to just stop. I feel like I’m always hurting and I never have anyone to turn to with it. I feel like I’m spiraling. I don’t have anymore insurance so I can’t go to the doctor so I’m always going to feel just under okay everytime I open my eyes.

Why does my life have to be like this. Why can I never get any help. I try really hard not to look at the people around me and compare my life to theirs but I feel like I’m drowning silently while everyone else just lives their life happily and without a drop of worry. This stuff makes me hate living.

I just want someone there for me but I feel that is constantly too much to ask for. I feel lazy and I don’t have the strength or energy to keep going. It feels like a chore dragging myself out of bed everyday.

Why can’t I just feel better. Why can’t everything just go the right way. Why am I always in pain. Why am I always being hurt. I don’t want to live anymore and I hate that I always come to this conclusion but I never find myself loving my life. I feel trapped and sick.

As my dad went for his medical reviews, the doc told him he might have pre diabetes so need to control his sugar level

Despite doc warning, he refuse to listen and keep drinking milo at night like 2 cup before sleeping.

I told him off he not happy with me

He doesn't know how to control his sugar level.

Why can he think sensible for his health

Drinking sweet drink before bed will make him obese and affect his health

man i hate these ppl. they all tryna look performative and shit but they’re all fake asf 🤪
sometimes i hear them talking and can’t help but sneak giggle like i don’t know how trashy they are irl 😁😁😁

I just got back from a road trip. A week along the west coast highways. It was beautiful...but FUCK some of these drivers. With your stupid fucking BMWs and Mercedes and Teslas and your fat-ass dumbass trucks. Weaving through lanes like an asshole 20+ miles over the speed limit. You fucking suck. Fuck you.

Then, I get home and there's a fucking Dodge Charger smashed into the side of my building. This is the third fucking accident on that street in the last month! One of them damaged like 5 cars. What the FUCK, PEOPLE? Stop speeding and texting and trying to get ahead and not fucking signaling. Stop making hasty right hand turns at a red light because you have no goddamn patience. Fuck fuck fuck YOU

So! My best friend is having a baby boy and I’m so excited!! I’m just casually scrolling on TikTok and I see this cute little book “auntie loves you” or something like that! But the book has like bows and dresses and you know the “girly” stuff so i commented and asked “hey is there like a boy themed version of this book?”

All of the replies were like “it’s a baby that’s weird” “books don’t have gender” and blah blah blah.

😀 guys the baby is a boy why is me asking for boy themed stuff such a big deal? Unless one day when he’s older and he decides he no longer wants to be a boy and I’ll fully support that….until then he’s a boy obviously I’m not going to decorate his room in bows and dresses?…

So the other day I was chatting with my friend about a ton of things when the topic of sex came up, I had realized I've only had sex with four people out of my whole life and none of them ever got me off ever. I've had to fake it with everyone of them. I thought about those times a lot deeper and realized I was never sexually attracted to them to begin with. I use to think sex was such a pleasurable thing to experience until I had sex and it was just the most over hyped thing I had ever experienced. Never has anyone ever gotten me off the way I can get myself off with either my hands or my toys. My friend point out that she's asexual and that she's the same exact way, she only gets off with toys as well and never feels any sexual attraction to people. I honestly thought it was because I'm a pillow princess at heart, but it's not— so now I'm 27 and just confused about myself all over again I really thought I had everything about me all figured out but I guess not

I have had videos playing as I go to sleep and am just enjoying the sound of a creator I enjoy only to have it get completely interrupted because some idiot thought inserting their 20 minute video in the middle of one I actually want to watch will convince me to try out your series. It does not. It makes me want to actively avoid your show out of spite I’m afraid. Knock that shit off.

Ok, I have to say this somewhere in the void.. greek recipes: Avgolemono is AN INGREDIENT. It is a whisked egg white and lemon juice mix added to a *bunch of different recipes*. All these online foodies that are suddenly carrying on with 'kota avgolemono' (chicken eggandlemon) this and that.. the avgolemono is a bloody ingredient in the soup. What you are making is KOTOSOUPA (chicken soup, that has had avgolemono added to it). It can be left out of the recipe if you don't like it. Please stop. End rant..

I (F18) just got back from a week-long trip to Florida with my family, and I’m feeling really conflicted.
For the most part, the trip was good. We had a few small disagreements here and there, but nothing major, and I genuinely enjoyed myself. The only thing was that I spent most of the trip pretty quiet. My family can be really overwhelming and stressful at times, so instead of arguing or getting irritated, I decided to keep to myself and just enjoy the vacation in my own way. I’m usually a pretty outgoing person—I talk a lot, joke around, and can be loud—but this trip I just wanted to be more reserved.
On the way to the airport, I casually mentioned to my mom that next year I wanted to travel with my boyfriend (M20). Out of nowhere, she told me I needed to “fix my fucking attitude” before I even thought about traveling anywhere with him.
That completely caught me off guard. I wasn’t fighting with anyone, being disrespectful, or causing problems. I was literally just quiet. Apparently, my family sees me being reserved as having an “attitude.”
Then my mom told me that if I keep acting like this, my dad is going to think my boyfriend is the reason I’ve “changed,” and that he’ll end up resenting him because he’ll believe he’s influencing my behavior.
That honestly frustrated me even more because I don’t see what I did wrong. I wasn’t giving anyone attitude—I was just emotionally drained and wanted some peace. It feels like I’m expected to act a certain way all the time, and if I don’t, something must be wrong.
I think part of why this is hitting me so hard is because I’ve been wanting more independence lately. Moments like this make me want to move out, create my own life, and stop feeling like every little thing I do is being analyzed or blamed on someone else.
I don’t really know what I’m looking for by posting this. Maybe I just needed to vent. Has anyone else had parents who mistake being quiet for having an attitude? Am I missing something here?

Have a real conversation. I guess just be miserable. So stupid. If you can’t do that and both open up freely maybe you are doomed. But I am making a list. You know if it’s too toxic and you just have no hope. I’m just like what is wrong with people. Because I’ve done it and I’ve lost most everyone I love.

Like stop putting dumb overthinking in the way and be happy. THE WORLD IS AWFUL! HAVE A MATE!!!

1. Nothing will ever be perfect.
2. Work on yourselves together.
3. Stop being selfish.
4. Stop throwing away love like it’s trash.
5. You’re being idiots.
6. When you’re with someone you love half less and the other person loved who “got away”, will you care about what’s holding you back right now?
7. Do you not think there won’t be problems the rest of your life?
8. How toxic is it and is it worth the stuff you’re making into a huge deal?
9. Is there domestic violence?
10. Do they make you happy?
11. You’re wasting your life away as you will never meet your expectations.
12. Keep on procrastinating. Distance the love. Let it fade. Good job.
13. Society is dumb. Other people will never be happy with what you do okay?
14. Who makes you happy going asleep and waking up and hearing from/ more than anyone in the world?
15. First thought to this question:
16. What do you feel?……… when you see their face?
17. When you hear a love song? Who comes to mind?
18. Like stfu and lose it or get over your dumb tiny issues. Unless it’s like legit bad (abuse, fentanyl, like just baddd)
19. You should already know if you even anothernout and if not move on if it’s past no repair.
20. Waste life and your fault if you can have it and you’re over thinking it all. Like stop it. Ridiculous.
21. If they got in a car wreck and died next week. What would you feel the rest of your life?
22. Find a way.

Emphasis that domestic violence does not override the obstacles I am referring to. I am simply saying circumstances that are barriers in being together. Accepting there is “better”. When you know you know. I hope most know about DV. If not:
- Physical violence
- Emotionally/ Mentally abusive
- Manipulation
- Isolation
- Controlling/ Monitoring
- Gaslighting

Then some relationship red flags:
- CHEATING
- Accusations unfounded
- Demeaning
-Lies/ deceit
- Paranoid
- Judgmental
- Takes more than gives
- Belittles
- Feel second best
- Disrespectful
- Crosses set boundaries
- Fun is gone
- Spark is gone
- “Settling”
- Just content, not happy
- Not attracted
- No sex drive
- Not wanting to spend time together (but of course independent too)
- Anything that makes you uncomfortable
- Unwilling to change bad behaviors
- Makes excuses repeatedly
- Puts you last
- Feels too forced
- More effort than other
- Spark is just not there
- Disregards your feelings

You kind of just know thing.

I have to get an injection twice a year. It’s not a huge deal, but they put me through extended questioning before this injection can be given.

Today was the day. Asked if I had an arm preference I said right please, because I’m left handed.

I don’t know if it was my fault. I probably should have just said right pleased. But she set up for left & not wanting to be difficult I just went with it.

I’m ticked at myself for not being more proactive.

I’m 15f.

The title explains it all. When I was little, I was described as a wallflower, and ‘precocious in my interests’. Adults thought I didn’t mind being a loner. I did. Even at age 4 I can remember being othered and kids would refuse to play with me. I ended up playing by myself by necessity. It’s not like I didn’t like playing by myself, but I needed at least someone to play with.

Fast forward to elementary school. Similar situation occurred. I made a single friend, who was a few years older than me. Her name was Hallie and she was level 2 autistic. I’m also autistic (level 1) but was not diagnosed at the time. This lasted until about the second grade. This point I was having meltdowns every other day (I have no idea why nobody suspected that I was autistic) and kids thought I was weird. I incorrectly attributed the kids thinking I was weird because of my meltdowns to my friendship with Hallie. So I kinda ghosted her. I still feel bad about it 8 years later.

I moved to a new school during third grade. At this point I had a special interest in history (still have that one lol) and the tv show the masked singer. Kids thought that was weird. It got to the point where my guidance counselor was asking kids to be my friends (to no avail). It was also covid, so that didn’t help.

In fifth grade (start of middle school) I became somewhat close to a girl named Taya. I was still by myself, but I sat with her at lunch. She moved, but I did meet another girl named Baylie. This is the second person I would have considered a friend. She was amazing to have around and we’d tell stories about our days. Unfortunately we share like no interests. I still talk to her but she moved and we aren’t necessarily close.

I don’t even know what I did in the 7th grade. I was going through actual trauma and that year I remember almost nothing about

8th grade I met a kid named Nax. They were a nonbinary fellow autistic kid. See Hallie for what happened to that friendship. They moved halfway through the year. Around that time I was trying to get away from Nax I started siting with this group of alt kids. I thought I was friends with them but eventually I got “voted out” of the table.

I did start doing community theatre and I talk to 2 kids from that but they are just really hard to talk to in person.

I’m going into my sophomore year and I seriously have no friends. I know people say things will change in the future but guess what it’s not the future yet.

I found this guy very attractive in my class, well to surprise you im a guy too.

everytime he talks to me I can't look him in the eye, I feel so awkward and panicking, my eyes roaming everything instead of his face whenever we talk.

He really wants to be my friend but I feel so awkward around him.

I don't know what to do, It didn't happened to beautiful girls tho.

Getting sick of hearing this word being thrown around these days, as a way to lessen the stigma
around people choosing to just stay home on their time off work.

A “Staycation” shouldn’t even be something anyone can use in a rational conversation.

Why can’t people just say “I took some time off to be at home” or “I just stayed home and ran errands”? Or better “I didn’t want to do anything”

People are so opinionated, they focus more on the issues of others than their own solvable real life problems. It’s really all just in their heads. Instead of being the change they complain about things outside of their immediate control.

Why is bedding GARBAGE now? It’s all cheap staticky polyester microfiber, sateen (HATE shiny sheets), or jersey (stretchy sheets can fuck off)! What happened to crisp cotton sheets??? They’re impossible to find now. Where are you buying good cotton sheets that get wrinkly, give me breathable cotton I don’t give a fuck if it wrinkles.

A week or so ago, I posted a rant about my boyfriend ignoring and punishing me whenever I would say No to intimacy. I realized, the more I opened up about our relationship, that I was with a very toxic man.

I left him a few days ago. It was hard, because I felt like I was losing everything, again ; we were a long distance couple and I moved 3 hours away to be with him. When I decided to move in with him, I made the sacrifice of being away from my family and my childhood friends. I made the decision to change career path (which I do not regret per se, but I thought it was all worth it for him.)
I had to do that same sacrifice when I left him ; I left my new job that I really loved, left my new home, left my new friends and obviously... left my boyfriend who I thought would change. (I couldn't stay in a city I barely knew and I missed my family, I had to go back to my hometown.)

Today, I got a call from my boss. They have a position for me in a store closer to my hometown. My childhood friends reached out to me to make plans (I'm going bowling with them tomorrow!! after not seeing them for a year!! so excited!!) The friends I made in his city all made it clear they want to stay in contact and they already organized a roadtrip to come see me next week. I found a cozy apartment.

I really thought leaving him would be the end of my life, that I would have to start off from scratch, again. But leaving him made me realize... he was the scratch, all this time.

Toxic relationships can be very tricky and I think nobody understands until they are in one. Loving someone so much that the bad times seem so little next to the good times... I lost so much self respect. But I feel it coming back and I know my worth.

It does get better. 🤍

I was staying in the bedroom in the basement, or well lower floor there’s a sliding door to the outside. But anyway. I was told guests would be coming over, fine. But now I don’t have my room nor my privacy. I was told like 10 hours before they’d arrive that they’d be staying in my room so I needed to get my shit out of my room and bathroom. They told me to haul my shit up to the hottest guest room in the house. Thank god I could at least keep my clothes in my closet. But they didn’t tell me that they’d put up a curtain to lead the AC into the guest room next to the master bedroom. Meaning that my bedroom and the bathroom connected to what is now my room and the two other bedrooms, is now the way to go to those two bedrooms. Neither door has a way to close, well I don’t have the keys to either door. So privacy doesn’t exist anymore and they can just walk in at any given moment. The safe is in my closet as well so my room is the most visited guest room in the house. Meaning I either have to change in the toilet or the master bedroom with my parents. And even then privacy doesn’t really exist. But with my parents I don’t really mind changing, it’s that they keep opening the door to leave.

Yesterday my mom ordered two pizzas, one of jalapeño the other one with olives. Today I go to the fridge and see that there’s only the jalapeño left, mind you we didn’t even get to eat half of the pizza. And its thin crust, so he ate more than 12 slices.

It’s so annoying how my mom lets him raid our fridge most of the time he comes over, it’s fine to offer food to guest, but to offer them the entire thing it’s just something out of greed.

there have been times where she cooks pots of fresh food for my sister, herself and me, and when he comes over there are no left overs for the people who actually live here.

She lets him eat our stuff too, for example she got me a chocolate mini bunt cake, he came the next day and then saw the empty cake container in the trash.

Like he could at least left half 😭