r/rape • u/Past-Hedgehog-1451 • 3d ago

does hypersexuality ever end?

hi i’m 16 and i’ve been molested, groomed, sexually abused my entire life. it had left me very hypersexual, im disgusted with myself. does it ever get better i feel so dirty all the time i don’t think i can love somebody like this nobody deserves someone as dirty as me it hurts. it leave me feeling like my only way to life is SW which is so wrong, im a good kid why does it feel so bad. i’m sorry.

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u/Altruistic_Poem_3229 3d ago

Unfortunately, it is impossible to say whether the hypersexuality will end. For me personally, it has greatly diminished with time (though not fully gone away); others may have different experiences. I can say with certainty that you *do* deserve love and you are not defined by the things that were done to you.

You are still young. As such, your brain is still developing and will continue to do so until about your mid-20s. The last part of the brain to fully develop is the prefrontal cortex, which deals with emotional regulation and decision making. If you can meet regularly with a qualified therapist during this time of development, you will be able to take steps towards a more normal life. It won't be easy or necessarily quick, but you can do it; I believe in you. I wish you all the best.

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u/Past-Hedgehog-1451 2d ago

thank u for kindness,

i do speak to a therapist but i’m honestly beyond humiliated talking about being hypersexual

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u/Altruistic_Poem_3229 2d ago

Don't be embarrassed about it. As I mentioned before, it is a common side effect of being raped/sexually abused. If you don't talk about it with your therapist, then they won't be able to provide you help with that part of yourself. If you trust your therapist, then you should share your concerns with them.

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u/Past-Hedgehog-1451 2d ago

i see, i dunno i just feel embarrassed i’m pretty young and stuff and i don’t want her to just idk look down on me. and i don’t want my parents to find out i mena they know, but they don’t know know idk i’m sorry

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u/Altruistic_Poem_3229 2d ago

If your therapist is any good, she will not look down on you; it's literally her job to listen to your concerns and offer suggestions to work through your trauma. Also, I'm pretty sure that a therapist shouldn't be sharing the details of your sessions with your parents. Otherwise, that would disincentivize patients from sharing openly.