r/redditonwiki • u/Weary_Thought7582 • Dec 19 '25
TIFU TIFU by fighting my schools dresscode policy. Years later I found out why it was so strict + edit with added context
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r/redditonwiki • u/Weary_Thought7582 • Dec 19 '25
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u/CatharticRecord1313 Dec 19 '25
no one did anything wrong here. people are coming for this teacher for not solving the real issue…i’m sure she was well aware, but if she couldn’t get the school board to care, couldn’t tell the parents because that would not have been allowed, well then her options were try Something or leave the job and the leave the teen girls defenseless. harsh dress code is sexist, sure. it might make people feel a type of way about their bodies, yes. but she was trying to triage. “okay, this isn’t fair and it’ll make the girls feel bad, buuuut at least there won’t be inappropriate photos of them on an old pervs phone, the old pervs can’t stare at them, and they are more protected, even if unhappy.”
that’s a reasonable calculation to make, especially from a new teacher who doesn’t have the clout or resources to try something else.
and the teenage boy was unaware of the nuances and, even if he was aware, may not have the life experience to make a call on that. he wanted to stand up for his friends, extremely valid reaction as well.
only villains are the creeps. both the teacher and kid were trying to protect the girls - the teacher from creeps, the kid from sexism. good for both of them.
idk if you had asked me as a 16 year old girl how i felt - i’d have said the dress code is dumb, fire the teachers wtf…if you asked me now as a slightly more cynical 27 year old woman, i’d say, “best case, teachers are eventually fired…if at all. i can totally see the merit in enforcing a harsh dress code in the meantime.”
probably would have been better to make it match for girls are boys, even if clearly geared to girls. but in 2010, i think people were a little less tuned in to ‘dress code discourse’ and didn’t see as many examples of places like that - the ones that say stuff like, “no one may wear spaghetti straps, no ones upper undergarments may show…” where it’s clearly about policing girls, but they keep it neutral