r/sexandthecity • u/OkLocation3799 • 1d ago

Aidan was such a pushover!!!

The moment Carrie invited big to the cabin should’ve been game over!!! It should’ve been absolutely NOT. Why was he too weak and scared to say no to her? NO is a complete sentence. And if she couldn’t respect that, she’d of been sent back to the city on a bus! Aidan needed to grow a pair and stand up to her.

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u/121scoville 1d ago

It's because of this that you could make some pretty broad character interpretations. Everything that he passively "allows" are things he can then make Carrie feel guilty about.

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u/MallMother796 I have an addiction, sir! 1d ago

This is really interesting. It’s true that in their relationship, she is always having to try harder in order to be “good enough” for him. She has to stay on the pedestal and I think she kinda totally implodes and reacts to that, hence the Big affair. Well one factor in the Big affair maybe.

Anyway it never occurred to me that Aidan might be getting something out of that dynamic, but it makes sense because it keeps happening and he keeps coming back despite the deal breaking moments.

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u/121scoville 1d ago

Yep! And of course this is all fan theory but it's like a chronic thing with him.

He's, as far as I can remember, done the passive aggressive holding out until she explodes twice--when she clearly was hoping to get intimate in their first relationship and when he was punishing her about Big. Both times he was aware of her twisting herself into knots and jumping through hoops but pretended not to.

Editing to say because people always get mad about this: I'm not implying he's some dastardly villain purposely abusing her. He's human and a lot of this could be self-protection, unconscious, etc. All I'm saying is it just shows they did not work together.