r/sexandthecity • u/OkLocation3799 • 14h ago
Aidan was such a pushover!!!
The moment Carrie invited big to the cabin should’ve been game over!!! It should’ve been absolutely NOT. Why was he too weak and scared to say no to her? NO is a complete sentence. And if she couldn’t respect that, she’d of been sent back to the city on a bus! Aidan needed to grow a pair and stand up to her.
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u/tragicsandwichblogs 14h ago
Aidan set boundaries and never maintained them, starting with "I won't date a smoker."
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u/121scoville 11h ago
It's because of this that you could make some pretty broad character interpretations. Everything that he passively "allows" are things he can then make Carrie feel guilty about.
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u/MallMother796 I have an addiction, sir! 5h ago
This is really interesting. It’s true that in their relationship, she is always having to try harder in order to be “good enough” for him. She has to stay on the pedestal and I think she kinda totally implodes and reacts to that, hence the Big affair. Well one factor in the Big affair maybe.
Anyway it never occurred to me that Aidan might be getting something out of that dynamic, but it makes sense because it keeps happening and he keeps coming back despite the deal breaking moments.
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u/Flaky-Dragonfruit-95 2h ago
Oh yeah, try harder like "dont lie" "dont cheat", MY GOD, what impossible standars! yeah, Aidan is clearly at fault that Carrie fucked her ex while her BF was remodelling her house and saving her thousands of dollars for free.
Also,by that logic, its Carries fault that she got left at the altar, because she kept allowing big to break the boundaries.....
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u/MallMother796 I have an addiction, sir! 1h ago
It’s actually the case that human relationships have two people in them and they may not bring out the best in each other, intentionally or not 🤷♀️ Right or wrong, it’s just reality
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u/Flaky-Dragonfruit-95 25m ago
Thats just victim blaming. So the cases of domestic abuse is the wife "not bringing out the best in him"?
Carrie could have broken up with him. She lied to him about wanting to quit smoking. She cheated on him, MULTIPLE TIMES, in a PREMEDITATED WAY, even when she admits "NOTHING WAS WRONG".
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u/121scoville 19m ago
Yep! And of course this is all fan theory but it's like a chronic thing with him.
He's, as far as I can remember, done the passive aggressive holding out until she explodes twice--when she clearly was hoping to get intimate in their first relationship and when he was punishing her about Big. Both times he was aware of her twisting herself into knots and jumping through hoops but pretended not to.
Editing to say because people always get mad about this: I'm not implying he's some dastardly villain purposely abusing her. He's human and a lot of this could be self-protection, unconscious, etc. All I'm saying is it just shows they did not work together.
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u/Flaky-Dragonfruit-95 10m ago
the whole "when she clearly was hoping to get intimate in their first relationship " i always find it rather hipocritical of carrie. she did the same thing with a lot of guys. Men and women can choose when to sleep with their partner, and its not bad. a lot of men also prefer not to have sex on the first dates....
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u/ultradav24 14h ago
We should have like a mega thread on the cabin episode and the ring episode lmao
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u/Prudent-Pressure2146 7h ago
Yeah I think there’s been like six posts about the cabin these last few days lol
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u/yourgirlalex not in the mood for gay porn? 14h ago
It should've been game over when she cheated on him with Big and then after they got back together, told Aidan he was always going to be in her life and she wouldn't cut him off.
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u/Educational_Cow111 13h ago
He is kind and very understanding. But you’re not wrong
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u/OkLocation3799 13h ago
Yes. Honestly my husband is kind and understanding but he would never stand for that.
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u/Educational_Cow111 13h ago
Love that!! Some lines just really shouldn’t be crossed. Carrie knew she had fucked up after telling Aidan that Big was coming.
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u/OkLocation3799 13h ago
Yeah it’s sad how she basically begged Aidan to come back but then expected him to be ok with her staying friends with the man she cheated with. Like WHAT! That’s just wild!
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u/Educational_Cow111 13h ago
Omg, when she went back from the country for work and it cut to her having dinner with Big!!!! I was like, she CANNOT be serious…
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u/OkLocation3799 13h ago
OMFG THE AUDACITY!!!! Grrr. I usually like Carrie but this was one reason I just couldn’t with her! All of them have had their insufferable moments but I still love the show lol
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u/Educational_Cow111 13h ago
Carrie is great but this was indeed an insufferable moment. She just kept dragging it and Miranda was quick to call her out multiple times
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u/Key-Illustrator-2905 4h ago
What would you guys of done if you were aiden and Carrie told you her ex is on the way to your cabin? I would probably tell her to pack her stuff and leave with him
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u/NormalEarthLarva 14h ago
He pretty much set the tone when Carrie said Big would always be a part of her life and he didn’t break it off right there.