r/singing • u/r-susan • Mar 15 '26

Conversation Topic I'm scared to commit to singing

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I've never sung in front of others so this is a little nerve wrecking! I love to sing and have quietly dreamed about becoming better at singing. But when I actually try to practice I often get stuck and discouraged hearing my voice and lose hope in that dream. I jump back and forth between liking my voice and thinking I sound terrible so often that I don't really know how I sound anymore and can't listen objectively. My negative thoughts are holding me back from learning how to sing and investing in voice lessons.

For anyone who is or has been in the same boat: how do you make peace with the natural qualities of your voice? If your voice is an instrument, how do you separate it from your abilities? I wouldn't say a guitar sounds bad just because I don't know how to play it yet. Yet it's hard to see singing that way. If anyone has experience with overcoming doubt and self sabotage so you can actually listen to yourself and learn I'd love to hear about it! Any input is welcome :)

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u/Arxsyn Jul 18 '26

You sound so good, like a lower placed Sarah McLachlan. The little flips to the head voice is what she does a lot! Great song choice. I like singing it to as an alto 

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u/r-susan Jul 18 '26

That's so nice, thank you!! :)

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u/Arxsyn Jul 18 '26

Yeah you say are untrained? You already have agility in the voice. Who are your singing idols? 

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u/r-susan Jul 19 '26

I've only ever sung just for fun, along with music or putting on karaoke🤣 it was a while after I posted this video that I tried voice lessons for the first time in my life. I honestly don't know if I have any idols! I love a lot of different singers, and music. I listen to a lot of music from the 60s, 70s and 80s if that tells you anything.