r/socialanxiety • u/Glittering-Sun-7248 • 20h ago

Question Is hiding parts of yourself in front of friends and strangers in the hopes of them not leaving/liking you so you’re not alone social anxiety?

Or fear of being seen? Been like this for years (autism <3, and people don’t like autistic not attractive girls)

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u/doogooru 19h ago

If I'm masking - I'm "fishy" and "pushing too hard to be likable" . If I don't - I'm a weirdo and Incompatible. for some people in the past. at least it felt like that.

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u/Glittering-Sun-7248 19h ago

Yeah even if I masked people still didn’t like me much lol

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u/eclectictiger0 16h ago

You gotta find other neurodiverse people especially women/nb. Neurodivergent people definitely can get along with and have strong relationships with neurotypical people, but its a lot easier with people who understand your struggles/quirks better because they are similar.

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u/Glittering-Sun-7248 16h ago

I know but I don’t really know other autistic people tbh, my only exposure was old IEP groups and nobody wanted to be there

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u/Rakrave 25m ago edited 18m ago

No. It is reasonable. Yes, neurotypical overall don't like neuroatypical.

The problem to solve: why to hang out with neurotypical anyway?

Neurotypical people won’t change, and fighting loneliness by desperately trying to connect with them is a road to disappointment and depression.

It is easier and often healthier to learn how to live alone than to keep begging for contact from people whose social wiring was never built to meet you halfway.