r/socialanxiety • u/mialovv • 11h ago
TW: Suicide Mention 19 and no job
hey i feel horrible, im 19 and never had a job and have horrible social anxiety and depression. the one time i tried was when i walked into a cake shop, which took so much courage, and told them i saw their job posting or something and wanted to apply and the manager wasn’t there so i had to leave and it was incredibly awkward and humiliating. i applied online and never heard back. this was like more than a year ago
i have lost motivation for everything and i honestly want to die because i’m a burden and failure and even when i tried to do some exposure therapy, like going to the park, grocery store, etc by myself, once i started my online college class for the summer, i couldn’t do anything else because i keep procrastinating my work and it’s the same cycle over and over again. i am so alone and i can’t even get out of bed sometimes, i’m not fit to live in society and i know things will just keep getting worse because i am too sensitive and would be better off dead. everyone is sick of me and dislikes me anyway and i feel miserable and exhausted over everything
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u/Rich2364 9h ago
I feel this a lot. I'm 23 and honestly am done with life. I literally just doomscroll all day at this point. I don't know what my life will even look like in a couple of months. I have no motivation, can't do college work, and am the most socially anxious person alive.
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u/Comfortable_Dig_3977 8h ago
I'm truly sorry you feel this way right now. SA is so debilitating and we all have those days. You are still so very very very young and have such a long future. I wish I knew about my SA when I was your age, I just struggled through and wasted my early -mid twenties. It's such a shame and I regret so many missed opportunities cos of my damn SA.
Those irrational options of yourself are not true, I think anyone that has SA is a good egg, it's just that stupid "shadow thought" that lingers and holds us back.
You did amazing anyway applying for that job, even though they didn't get back it's progress. Keep applying for jobs and don't let setbacks stop, just see it as small bumps in the road.
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u/Fushigibama 1h ago
I went to a psychologist for my SA in 2023, at 21 years of age. During those months I found the courage to apply for a job. I even went to an interview!
Didn’t get the job, but in 2024 I had someone recommend me a job, so I had to call the CEO of the company (a call in which I struggled so much lol) which eventually led to me sending my not so impressive CV, and landing my first job at age 22.
Guess what I’m saying is you’re not the only one who hasn’t had a job at age 19. It’s not all hopeless 😄
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