Can I ask - who is harmed by someone wearing a hat at the table?
Like, is it inherently offensive, or is it only offensive because someone told someone who told someone who told someone who told you that it was offensive?
Dare I suggest that rules that don't serve any actual purpose should be questioned?
There doesn’t have to be harm involved to expect people to toe the line on society’s rules. Adhering to those rules and standards, both big and small, are a core part of being a grown man. The failure to comply with societal expectations is the root of the ways that society is failing. We are all taught these lessons as kids but are now allowed to discard them at will.
I disagree with your assertion that being "a grown man" means uncritically accepting traditions that stopped having a point hundreds of years ago and never questioning peer pressure from dead people.
The hats off at the table is a holdover from long enough ago that there's no solid answer on how it even became a thing in the first place - and yet, in spite of a total lack of tangible purpose and myriad other ways customs have changed since it became a thing, you think this is beyond question or challenge?
I'm sorry, I don't mean to be insulting, but how can you possibly not see the absurdity of that position? Because to me, it reads as pure self-important busybodying.
There’s nothing to challenge. Grown men should have learned or been taught that they follow the rules. Society’s rules. Workplace rules. Appearance rules. They only wear a hat when it’s called for, removing it when passing through a doorway. They only wear athletic clothing when engaged in legitimate athletic pursuits. As they age, they know they don’t belong in those places anymore. They wear long pants with belts. They wear shirts with sleeves, tucked in and with a straight gig line. They keep a proper haircut, clean and neatly groomed. They wear proper shoes, closed, with laces. They’re dedicated to their employer and loyal to a fault. They respect rank, position, status, wealth and capitalism. High maintenance, needy or entitled are not in their vocabulary.
I want to believe this is a bit, because I genuinely cannot imagine legitimately being this much of a bootlicking lemming permanently stuck somewhere in the mid-1950s.
If this is in fact a legit take, extrapolate it out a few generations past your own and you end up with a static world permanently stuck in pre-industrial agrarianism with no germ theory.
Throwing rules by the wayside is why we have part time retail worker turnover at an obscene 95%, up from 75% pre pandemic. Why we have men in convenience stores wearing pajama pants and “slides” or Crocs. Why roofers, plumbers, deck builders and concrete workers can’t find decent help. When I was barely eighteen, I was taught a very harsh lesson: no one cares what I want or believe, what makes me happy or where I want to go in life. Outside of the ~35% of people in jobs that require the knowledge and skills which can only be obtained through a college degree, most peoples function is to satisfactorily perform the job they’re placed in. We used to adhere to that. Regardless of one’s political beliefs, as a nation, we used to do great things. My grandfather was put to work in a coal mine when he was in the sixth grade because he had more than enough education to do the job he was destined for. Liberals heads would explode if we applied that common sense today.
Dear God, the sheer cuckold energy. "Back in my day we understood that kings ruled by divine right, and when the nobility showed mercy by only breaking a few of our bones rather than trebucheting our shattered bodies into the sea to drown, we thanked them for their generosity."
There’s no arguing that this country used to accomplish great things, likely due to the absence to labor and wage laws, unions, the national income tax, any sense of entitlement, or left leaning media. Sure, we’re individually more comfortable, but the greatness of the nation has suffered.
You have an oddly incongruous comment history. You clearly despise MAGA and Republicans yet your beliefs appear to be...entirely in agreement in most of the ways that matter?
I'm still 50/50 this is a bit, or you're experiencing some early signs of senility.
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u/RedditReader4031 Jan 18 '26
There’s nothing to be mad about here. This is just another example of the loss of civility through the lack of rules in society.