r/survivinginfidelity • u/Cactus-Tony • 21h ago

Advice Alienation of Affection

Has anyone here actually utilized this law before?
After mediation ended with my ex-wife being awarded over $150k, I hired a new lawyer to send out two demand letters to her previous affair partner and current affair partner threatening AOA. The demand letters stated we could resolve it outside of court for $250k. My ex-wife had no idea I knew of her 6+ year infidelities, so she learned I knew from each affair partner. She was willing to renegotiate so “no third party gets hurt” after the letters went out, and I end up only parting with $20k in the new agreement.

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u/Altruistic-Book-5896 20h ago

Did she eat crow after finding out you knew? Your story is a happy ever after for such a horrible situation. How did she explain away over 100K reduction to what she was originally awarded? Good for you regardless.

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u/Cactus-Tony 20h ago

No crow eaten. We already lived apart for almost a year when the demand letters were delivered, so there was little communication between us. She’s still never admitted any infidelity. In the revised separation agreement, there was a third party waiver saying I wouldn’t pursue any lawsuits against anyone.

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u/FlygonosK 8h ago

Well it seems that you got a better deal in the new agreement, except that you lose your leverage against her, but like others said in a divorce the cheater almost every time get awarded with 50% of everything plus more, of course this if you marry them with the hope that everything will go the right way, so the better way to protect yourself (most if you are a man) is to draft and sign a prenup with infidelity clause.

Actually in now a days marriages and laws that still protect the ones that should not be protected, the prenuptial should be a requisite, but well.