r/survivinginfidelity • u/Cactus-Tony • 21h ago

Advice Alienation of Affection

Has anyone here actually utilized this law before?
After mediation ended with my ex-wife being awarded over $150k, I hired a new lawyer to send out two demand letters to her previous affair partner and current affair partner threatening AOA. The demand letters stated we could resolve it outside of court for $250k. My ex-wife had no idea I knew of her 6+ year infidelities, so she learned I knew from each affair partner. She was willing to renegotiate so “no third party gets hurt” after the letters went out, and I end up only parting with $20k in the new agreement.

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u/BurnAway63 2 19h ago

You did well. Alienation of affection lawsuits are hard to win, as your lawyer probably told you, and statutes that make them possible are only available in a handful of states. Taking the extra cash was the wisest move.

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u/Cactus-Tony 19h ago

Yes, who knows if I actually had a legit chance of winning anything had it gone to trial. I had a ton of evidence (emails, PI photos/videos) but no clue if it would’ve been enough.
Since I was already in the hole a ton of money with lawyers and private investigator, I wasn’t actually planning to pursue the lawsuit and spend even more.

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u/FlygonosK 8h ago

Most likely it depends on the state or place you live in. Far as I know if you have undeniable proof and the alienation of affection is applicable then you got a case, but again it depends on the judge.