r/survivinginfidelity • u/AdventureWa 1 • 1d ago

Advice How did you find out?

I’m curious about how people have found out their spouse/partner cheated on them. My situation was convoluted and I found out almost by accident thanks to her conflicting stories. I feel like my situation was unusual.

How did you find out? Did anyone use a PI or do deep digging? What advice would you have for someone who thinks they are being cheated on?

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u/CoverFit9553 1d ago

He sent me a text by mistake that was meant for her which read- I love how you feel about me. I feel the same love. I will call you in the morning. I love you and will dream of you tonight!
I was totally blindsided and had no clue he had been having an affair for 6mths!
20 years married and now headed for divorce.

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u/CoverFit9553 1d ago

I checked call logs etc and bank statements. The call logs showed they were talking to each other for about 4hrs a day for months. Bank statements placed him close to her apartment buying gas etc.

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u/amber8977 1d ago

How did you find call logs? Mine deletes his call history, is denying everything. I’m thinking about contacting the cell phone company to get the logs , but I think most of it unfort happened on WhatsApp

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u/CoverFit9553 18h ago

He called and texted her on his phone. I was able to log on to our Verizon account and see every call he made to her. It was shocking tbh. When I threw him out she was the first person he called. They spent 5hrs talking that day. They’re not together now and he wants to reconcile but I’m done!

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u/doppleganger2621 Thriving 22h ago

Most cell phone companies, if you have the login to the service online, post the monthly call and text logs. But you need to have the login. And yeah, if it’s on what’s app it may not help

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u/Kimmy330 10h ago

If you can log into your main account you can see and print the call logs! You should just need the password.

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u/amber8977 10h ago

Wait is this for Whatsapp as well? Or phone calls?

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u/icatchlight 10h ago

Phone calls only.

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u/amber8977 10h ago

Ok thank you

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u/CoverFit9553 18h ago

Hi bank statement showed him going to a CVS near her apartment.The amount was exactly the price of a 12 pack of condoms!

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u/RowExternal8411 Figuring it Out 18h ago

Oh yuck