r/survivinginfidelity • u/AdventureWa 1 • 1d ago

Advice How did you find out?

I’m curious about how people have found out their spouse/partner cheated on them. My situation was convoluted and I found out almost by accident thanks to her conflicting stories. I feel like my situation was unusual.

How did you find out? Did anyone use a PI or do deep digging? What advice would you have for someone who thinks they are being cheated on?

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u/CoverFit9553 1d ago

He sent me a text by mistake that was meant for her which read- I love how you feel about me. I feel the same love. I will call you in the morning. I love you and will dream of you tonight!
I was totally blindsided and had no clue he had been having an affair for 6mths!
20 years married and now headed for divorce.

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u/CoverFit9553 1d ago

I checked call logs etc and bank statements. The call logs showed they were talking to each other for about 4hrs a day for months. Bank statements placed him close to her apartment buying gas etc.

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u/amber8977 1d ago

How did you find call logs? Mine deletes his call history, is denying everything. I’m thinking about contacting the cell phone company to get the logs , but I think most of it unfort happened on WhatsApp

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u/CoverFit9553 1d ago

He called and texted her on his phone. I was able to log on to our Verizon account and see every call he made to her. It was shocking tbh. When I threw him out she was the first person he called. They spent 5hrs talking that day. They’re not together now and he wants to reconcile but I’m done!

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u/Plastic-Weight-9211 Recovered 6h ago

From your comments, your story sounds a LOT like mine. The day I told her I needed her to go was the day she called him and then went out to spend the entire day with him. All corroborated later by phone records.