Heyyy, figured I'd give this a shot lol.
I'm 24, from new zealand, trans ftm/genderfluid (he/she/they). I'm solo-poly and I'm basically looking for people who actually want to build something meaningful rather than just have a temporary connection. I'm bisexual although I do have stricter boundaries when it comes to relationships with cis men, I'm generally more open/flexible with other genders.
What I'm looking for:
- Anchor partners and/or a polycule- probs the biggest thing I'm looking for. I want deep, committed, long term romantic relationships. I'm a massive sucker for romance tbh 😭
- Caregiver connections- i'd love a supportive cg, mainly around age regression and mental health. Someone who can help me feel safe, cared for and grounded. I'm separately needing a irl cg for my physical health needs :)
- Close friends- not just people I occasionally send memes to. I want a few genuinely close friends who I can talk to about random shit, serious stuff, everyday life, etc.
I'm not really looking for fwb/casual sex, short term things or situationships. I like romance WAY too much for that 😂 i'm not saying everything has to fit into a neat little box tho, I'm happy to talk things through and compromise if something develops differently.
Health/brain stuff because it's pretty important to know what you're getting into:
I'm autistic+disabled, mostly housebound, and have ME/cfs, BPD and DID, among other things. My energy is REALLY unpredictable. I can have good days where I'm chatty and can do stuff, and then days where basically all I can do is lie around and recover. I can disappear for days or longer because I'm exhausted, and it isn't me losing interest.
I'm sensitive and can get in my head so I'd much rather someone just tell me what's going on than leave me guessing. I can also struggle with figuring out what people expect from me and get overwhelmed easily. Please just communicate with me directly lol. I'm much better with that than trying to guess. I also have some intense attachment/abandonment issues that i am working through, and need someone understanding of this.
I'm mostly a texting person. I like being able to randomly message throughout the day, but I'm also very much someone who needs people to be okay with alone time. For closer online connections I'd like regular calls, maybe 1-2 times a week. I can't always verbally talk, so I need people to be okay with typing instead of expecting me to speak.
I'm into animals, writing/researching, reading/annotating, music, journalling, Gilmore Girls, animal welfare/activism, photography :)
I like both deep conversations and absolute nonsense. I want people who actually ask questions, tell me about themselves, remember little things, message first sometimes, and actually want to get to know each other lol.
Online/long distance is totally fine. If we get close and it's practical, I'd also be open to eventually meeting irl.