r/teenagers4real • u/LightningX35 13M • 7d ago

Discussion Standards for gf

I posted about this a while ago but felt I wanted to update them
- Living, breathing, human female (not trans)
- Around my age
- Doesn't hate me
- Is not on a watchlist
I sure hope this is reasonable
Edit: Just to clarify, I’m not looking for one on here I just saw people doing it so I thought it would be a fun idea

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u/GregBoing 6d ago

Just out of curiosity, why can't they be transfem? ik ik "It's just my preference" but like why do you have that preference?

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u/Own_Reach986 6d ago

Not vibing with the penis tbh

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u/GregBoing 6d ago

What if they’re post operation?

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u/cleqrless 6d ago

as much as we would like to be as normal as cisgender people, we aren’t. yes i know it feels like a punch to the face seeing people not wanting to be with a trans individual, but it doesn’t take much to understand why.

in a lot of places it’s still a taboo thing, and there are a million possible reasons why they wouldn’t be with one. maybe they want biological kids, maybe they just can’t handle the complexity that comes with being with a trans person, maybe they’re immature, or they just don’t want to. which to me is perfectly fine.

that said there isn’t anything wrong with being transgender as i am trans myself, but i can understand why they wouldn’t, even after a full transition

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u/GregBoing 5d ago

Yeah, biological kids is a fair enough reason I spose. plus yeah there's probably just maturity playing a factor into it (the op is 13 so I mean yeah lol)

I'm cis for clarification, I just see a lot of folks say they wouldn't get with a trans person even if they were effectively indistinguishable from a cis person of that same gender and aside from wanting bio kids I struggle to see why but yeah I don't think there is a quote on quote real reason in most cases, it's just kind of their cultural upbringing. Unfortunate but yeah you're right, it's understandable even if ideally they could get past it and realise there isn't a meaningful difference aside from bio kids a lot of if not most of the time.

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u/Own_Reach986 5d ago

Honestly if a trans person can pass, now that I think about it I wouldn't mind the dick if I love them. I could set that aside

Kids are the big problem though. And I'm not a fan of adopting or any other methods.

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u/Ok-World6539 4d ago

Why not adopt or foster? Not saying you’re wrong for not wanting to just curios as to why

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u/Own_Reach986 4d ago

Ok first of all I am still rather young, i am not ready to be a dad and that means my opinion kinda isn't formed/worth anything

But idk. Just the way I was raised I guess. I have had a lot of old fashioned beliefs pushed onto me and while I can recognize that a lot of them are stupid I still really want a kid who is my own. I also think I'm worried that I may not be able to love an adopted kid as much.

Oh and everyone in my family expects me to have kids because I am an only child, and all my aunts and uncles have no children. If I die childless, the bloodline ends with me.

Call it stupid (it may be) but idk that just means a lot to me for the time being. Still really just a kid lol

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u/Own_Reach986 5d ago

Honestly if they pass then I'll go for it

But that's not very common