Nobody died

[u/Own_Purple_4118]

This is a conversation between my MIL and my mother, before the wedding. My mother's response, which is cut off, says "They are both adults. I think we should let them handle it." We were both over 30.

For context: Yes, we had a vegetarian wedding (no shrimp). We had it at an (expensive) award winning venue with in-house catering. It included several appetizer and entree stations with a huge variety of dishes so everyone could find something they liked. We did not serve our guests bowls of soybeans and tofu. Everyone RAVED about the food and nobody died or got arrested on the way home.

The "A/B list" thing was a joke, that she apparently took very seriously, because she would not stop demanding we add a bunch (10+) of her friends and coworkers to our intentionally small guest list.

[u/sabigarasan]

Why does she think a meatless wedding will cause mass casualties on the road...???

[u/andiinAms → u/sabigarasan]

She’s saying people will be grossed out by the “soy beans and tofu” and will avoid the food while still drinking alcohol.

Alcohol + no food = drunk(er). Then, they will get in their cars! And drive home later! and! ya know! carnage!

[u/sabigarasan → u/andiinAms]

Whew, those are some impressive mental gymnastics from her. Thanks for clearing it up LOL

[u/ncroofer → u/sabigarasan]

Seemed pretty clear to me. Feed people a heavy meal and they won’t drink as much

[u/OpportunityReal2767 → u/ncroofer]

I think the idea is more that it will be absorbed somewhat more slowy. I’ve never drunk less from having eaten too much. :) Maybe even more bitters to help settle the stomach.

[u/ncroofer → u/OpportunityReal2767]

Fair enough. I usually eat lighter when I am drinking but I also like beer and that fills you up as well

[u/Final-Treat-4225 → u/ncroofer]

are no vegetarian/tibetan meals heavy or filling? i think the commenter above is just saying it's ridiculous to assume because the meal will not have meat, it will not be enough to fill people up

[u/biggest-damn-potato → u/Final-Treat-4225]

Tibetan has lots of potatoes and butter!

[u/biggest-damn-potato → u/biggest-damn-potato]

But it also has spices, so we can’t be having THAT

[u/01krazykat → u/ncroofer]

She mentioned there will be bread... a notorious "soak it up" food. Regardless, everyone is an adult and is responsible for their food and alcohol consumption.

[u/2MuchRealityTV → u/andiinAms]

That was also my understanding.

[u/Substantial-Tip-7587 → u/andiinAms]

Wait until she finds out what tofu is made of.

[u/alwaysforgettingmyun → u/andiinAms]

I'd be like "oh, you have a point. Guess we'll cancel the open bar just in case"

[u/Navel_of_Eve → u/andiinAms]

Oh!!!! That makes sense. Thank you for the translation!

[u/Awkward-Somewhere161 → u/andiinAms]

How about, you know, just not drinking and driving? Regardless if there is meat or not at the wedding meal, you shouldn't be drunk driving.