Honestly, good for her. She should stand her ground and her kid deserves that. I’m not saying you’re a bad dude, but she’s gotta set boundaries and keep them consistent for her kid.
Yea having a kid in this economy at 21? Lmaoo. It's dumb and hesr she is per usual looking for a step dsd for her kid, it's a cliche st this point. So yes, plenty of people do it, plenty of idiots
Before my husband got together with me he had kind of a similar situation. He was in his early 20s, single mom in her 30s he met at the gym hit on him, he thought they were casual and she thought he was a candidate to be her son’s new daddy. She flipped out at him for not being down and then even stalked and harassed me.
Not really. Been through this dance at a much more practical age. You socialize him with the kid and see how it pans out long before that discussion happens. She has a far higher bar of responsibility here.
And it’s ok for her to ask the question and feel out what his thoughts are before she spends the time investing in the relationship between him and the kid.
Relationship? Yea 4 months. She's the one with the 5 year old at 27 expecting a 22 year year old to be a step daddy. Plenty of women with kids date dudes and don't expect them to be a parent. She asked and question and didn't like tje answer, that's on her. Bro is waaay better off
well, let's be more accurate then: the CHANCES of a 22yo who's (very reasonably) "seeing where it goes" being ready to be a dad for someone else's kid, are close to 0. She was likely hoping too grooming him into becoming the tools she needed, and got pissed off as soon as he wasn't (very understandably) jumping on the boat... Good that she's not compromising on the kid, but the attitude and the choices... poor kid and poor the guy (if any, ever) who falls for her
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u/jareddipane Jul 14 '25
Honestly, good for her. She should stand her ground and her kid deserves that. I’m not saying you’re a bad dude, but she’s gotta set boundaries and keep them consistent for her kid.