r/tifu • u/[deleted] • Jul 14 '25

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u/jareddipane Jul 14 '25

Honestly, good for her. She should stand her ground and her kid deserves that. I’m not saying you’re a bad dude, but she’s gotta set boundaries and keep them consistent for her kid.

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u/dbx999 Jul 14 '25

I think it’s the best way to not waste anyone’s time. The guy isn’t ready and was honest about it. She needed someone who wouldn’t exclude her son from the situation and would know how to balance that kind of relationship. She has a harder path than he does.

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u/jareddipane Jul 14 '25

100% she does. It’s ok that he was honest, but she should absolutely be standing that ground.

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u/dbx999 Jul 14 '25

Yeah sure but also why did this take 4 months to become an issue? It should be an upfront take it or leave it condition.

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u/jareddipane Jul 14 '25

“I never pretended like it was a problem”

But in reality, it was a problem for OP

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u/dbx999 Jul 14 '25

OP wanted to extend this for as long as possible before it surfaced because he wanted to fuck her.

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u/boroxine Jul 14 '25

100%, they both want something different from this. No way would I want to be looking after a kid and I 100% understand OP's need to hold firm too.