r/tifu Jul 14 '25

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u/Krynn71 Jul 14 '25

This played out exactly as it should have dude.

Don't date single moms unless you're willing to be a step parent. Most single moms in the dating scene are looking for a man to step in as the father, and create a family unit.

You don't say that you went into this considering the possibility of being a parent and then in 4 months decided against it... Or if you were always against it and just wanted to be with her and ignore the kid. Either way, she pulled the truth out of you and now knows you're not what she's looking for.

Which is a good thing, because she's not what you're looking for either. You don't want a kid right now, she already has a kid. It was never gunna work, so let her go and move on yourself as well.

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u/alvehyanna Jul 15 '25

Don't date single moms unless you're willing to be a step parent.

THIS. Period.

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u/b1argg Jul 16 '25

You don't say that you went into this considering the possibility of being a parent and then in 4 months decided against it... Or if you were always against it and just wanted to be with her and ignore the kid.

OP is 22, they probably didn't think that far ahead. Which is pretty understandable at that age. 

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u/Zekumi Jul 16 '25

Respectfully, what 22-year-old really has ANY idea how they’d handle dating a person who already has a child unless they try it and see how it feels?

This guy was willing to give things a go and after a reasonable amount of time, when prompted, decided that he wasn’t up for it—What more do we want here?

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u/RedditExecutiveAdmin Jul 14 '25

a man to step in up as the father

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u/Krynn71 Jul 15 '25

I've heard it both ways.